In this world.
There is no shortage of men who have a long relationship.
Once they are in love, they will keep their original intentions and strive to stay together.
There is also a kind of man who lacks a serious attitude towards feelings.
Because it's just a "play" mentality, these people will bring a lot of harm to girls.
As a girl, how to avoid such a man?
From a psychological point of view:
If a man does not want to be responsible for his feelings, but only has a superficial attitude, their thoughts will be expressed through the subconscious. And these subconscious will also be revealed from his words and deeds.
Men are just 4 manifestations of "playing", don't realize it later.
01
Empty promises, unable to keep
In Hamlet it is written:
"Promises that can't be given have become shackles. ”
There are such men.
They often make promises, but only to cater to the girls temporarily.
These promises will temporarily make girls happy.
In fact, there was no chance of fulfillment, and in the end the promises all turned into lies.
In fact, such a man.
They treat their feelings like child's play, and they don't really pay for each other.
A man who is just "playing" often lacks sincerity in his commitments.
They make promises easily, but they break them easily, without the slightest consideration for each other's feelings, which will only make people more and more disappointed.
02
Caring only for oneself and appearing selfish
Romain Rolland said:
"True love is another name for understanding. ”
A man who truly loves you will try to understand your needs and not only look out for his own interests.
This means:
In love, two people who truly love each other will care for each other and support each other.
And one, just a man who "plays".
He will only think about his own interests, without regard for the feelings and needs of the other person.
Such a man often appears selfish, may sacrifice the happiness of a girl for his own happiness, and even choose to stay away when the other party needs him.
03
Feelings are casual and lack of single-mindedness
Yishu once said:
"In love, no man is an island. ”
True love is inseparable from the interaction between two people.
In the feedback back and forth, fate can usher in more opportunities to heat up.
But if men just play with attitudes.
Then they will see love as an island, ready to abandon it at any time.
In the eyes of such a man:
Love is nothing but a game, it can start and end at any time.
These men will not spend too much time and energy for a relationship, nor will they work hard to maintain the relationship. Therefore, it is often difficult for them to give people a sense of security.
04
Unwilling to give, disappointing
A man who truly loves.
He is willing to give time, money and energy for girls.
Under the witness of the world, he will try his best to make the woman he loves feel his love.
And a man who is just "playing".
He will only use sweet words to coax the other party, but he is unwilling to make any substantive contributions for the girl.
Writer Ding Ling once wrote:
"The best love is found in action. ”
If a relationship does not have sincere dedication and warm action, it will not be possible for people to find the feeling of being loved.
And men who play with the mentality often lack action, which makes people feel disappointed.
Love is beautiful.
But it also needs to be discerned and cherished with our hearts.
I hope that every woman can find a man who is willing to pay for herself and sincerely protect herself. After two people fall in love, they can walk through the long rest of their lives hand in hand and write a happy chapter for each other together.