A few days ago, a heart-wrenching tragedy occurred in Shangqiu, Henan.
The man spent 270,000 bride price to get engaged, but he didn't expect that ten days later, the bride-to-be jumped into the river and died.
Here's the thing.
The young man Li met Zhang through the introduction of the matchmaker.
After only 5 days of acquaintance, the two got engaged.
At the engagement banquet, the prospective groom Li and his family handed over 270,000 cash to the bride-to-be's family.
This bride price money was saved by Li's family.
In order to marry his daughter-in-law home in order to be beautiful.
After the engagement ended, Li went to work in other places to make money.
Although they were separated, the WeChat chat between the two was still sweet, and Li didn't notice anything wrong.
But who would have thought that Li had only been out for more than ten days, and the girl chose to commit suicide by throwing herself into the river.
For Li, this news is no less than a bolt from the blue.
He never thought that the girl who had talked and laughed with him before would be gone.
What was the reason for the suicide, Li has no way of knowing.
I just vaguely felt that something wasn't quite right.
At the time of the engagement, the girl's mother asked his family for a lot of money under various names.
Gold and silver jewelry plus bride price, a total of 340,000 was spent.
According to news reports, Li and Zhang, one has not gone through marriage formalities, and the other has not lived together, and they have met no more than five times in total.
After the tragedy, it is reasonable for the man to want to recover the bride price.
Who would have thought that the bride price of 270,000 yuan, the woman's parents only returned more than 100,000 yuan, and then disappeared.
In the face of the interview, Li's father said with a sad face:
"We are all victims, at least we have to think about it from each other's point of view, right?
The woman's family has not come forward, and this is not a problem..."
Get engaged after 5 days of acquaintance, and commit suicide after more than 10 days of engagement, is this a marriage or a transaction?
What exactly did the girl go through?
What is the reason why she doesn't want a good marriage and would rather end her life?
There is something to think about here.
Many netizens speculated that maybe this marriage was not what the girl wanted, and they couldn't think about it for a while, so they did something stupid.
Some netizens also said that there are no more people, and the parents still refuse to return the bride price from others, what do they treat their children for?
It is really sad that a big living person with flesh and blood has become a cash cow for his parents and a machine at the mercy of others.
Below the comment section, I also saw a lot of remarks condemning the high price of the bride price.
In fact, it is the young women themselves who are really hurt by the high bride price.
Because most of the high-priced bride price is requested by the woman's parents, not the will of the parties, but because of these bride price, it has created many obstacles to their marriage.
These parents give birth to sons over daughters, they only want boys, and when they marry their daughters, they can't wait to let the other party peel off a layer of skin and sell their daughters for a good price, and they never consider their daughter's happiness.
And what about the young girls?
and was infamous for "asking for a high-priced bride price".
In the past two days, I have also brushed up on a particularly outrageous thing.
On April 9, a hospital in Tianjin.
A girl learned that her boyfriend was hospitalized, and hurriedly went to the hospital to take care of her, and she took care of it for four days, and rested on the edge of the bed at night, never leaving an inch.
On this day, my boyfriend had just undergone surgery for less than 6 hours and was still under close observation.
coincided with the death of her boyfriend's grandmother.
The two things collided together, which made her boyfriend's mother feel very bad.
When she arrived at the hospital, she looked at her future daughter-in-law who was busy before and after, and she didn't have a good face.
The girl saw that her boyfriend's mother had a bad face, so she didn't come up.
Who knows, her boyfriend's mother was even more angry and scolded the girl:
I don't care about you!
Then he didn't listen to his son's explanation at all, so he repeated a sentence: "Just tell her to get out!"
Not only that, but she also called her husband, who was holding a funeral at home, and said bad things about the girl.
The reason is that she feels that the girl has a bad attitude.
The more the girl thought about it, the more aggrieved she became, so she posted the incident on the Internet.
Netizens said:
Ma slipped away, and you don't owe them anything!
Hey, I'm completely speechless after reading it.
This girl and her boyfriend are in love, and she also took good care of her boyfriend during his hospitalization, what a model daughter-in-law.
But as a boy, the mother not only disrespects people, but also verbally insults, and does not treat the other party as a human being at all.
I wondered, what exactly did she think of this girl in her eyes?
Every mother-in-law has come from the daughter-in-law era, but some people forget the difficulties of being a daughter-in-law after becoming a mother-in-law.
Before getting married, he threw all kinds of faces and dissatisfaction with his daughters-in-law, and after he got married, he was even more arrogant, and he always treated them as outsiders.
I don't blame netizens for saying:
Don't marry, there is no dignity after marrying.
It is said that a blessed daughter will not enter the unblessed house.
When you feel confused and painful, think about it from another angle, in fact, God pulled you and didn't let you fall into the quagmire.
I also saw a piece of news yesterday, and it was really heartbreaking.
In Yunnan, Ms. Fang (pseudonym) met Mr. Wang (pseudonym) through a matchmaker.
The two fell in love and soon entered the marriage hall.
After marriage, the trivialities of life gradually replaced the sweetness of love.
Every time the two quarreled, Ms. Fang took a step back.
However, instead of easing the relationship between the husband and wife, this made the husband more advantageous.
In the end, the relationship between the two turned from a quarrel to a cold war, and the relationship gradually broke down.
After the divorce, Mr. Wang asked Ms. Fang to move out of the household registration immediately.
Ms. Fang did not hesitate to go to the relevant departments to go through the procedures, but the result was heartbroken.
The staff of the police station said:
Since both of your parents have passed away, you cannot move back to your original place of residence or join your siblings.
When Ms. Fang heard this, she couldn't hold back for a moment, and cried bitterly on the spot:
After a woman divorces, she really has no home!
After reading this story, my heart is very uncomfortable.
The mother's house that can't go back, the in-law's house that can't be integrated.
Yang Jiang once said:
"The greatest sorrow of a woman is that she has never figured out a simple truth in her life, that is, this world is you alone all her life.
After a woman gets married, she has no home, she is an outsider in her mother's house, and she is a guest in her mother-in-law's house, so she can only carry everything by herself, and it turns out that she is her own home. ”
In this life, a woman can only survive better by loving herself a little more, otherwise everything is empty talk.
The girls in life must have heard something like this:
"Girls, don't be so ambitious, you just need to find a stable job, you still have to take care of your family. ”
"You don't want to study science, you can't compare to boys, you don't have the ability. ”
"What are you doing with so much eating, you have to lose weight to look good..."
Age crisis, reproductive choices, social prejudices, notions of chastity...
The many oppressions and the progress of the times have made women gradually understand and realize that:
Your worth does not come from being recognized by various voices in society, nor does you need to conform to anyone's standards.
You just need to know what you need and keep looking for what you really need.
After all, life is for oneself, not for others to see.
Whether the shoes fit or not, only you know.
Even if "women are responsible for picking" in the genes, even if it is scientifically proven that women are "careful and gentle are more suitable for families", it is not a big deal.
If you, a woman, prefer the stars and the sea, you must have the courage and confidence to "although tens of millions of people go to me".
In this way, you can live a chic and beautiful life.
Finally, I want to end with a sentence from the movie "Kim Ji-young Born in 82":
"In this world, being a woman already represents more hardship.
Still, I hope that women can become strong enough not to be afraid of whatever they face, but to take our strength and courage to face the difficulties.
Being a woman can be gentle, but it can also be very powerful. ”