Chinanews.com, April 25 (Reporter Zhang Ni Wu Jiaju) Recently, Cai Lei's health has attracted much attention from the outside world. In the fifth year of fighting ALS, Cai Lei's physical condition has seriously declined, but the tenacious fighter still says he is looking forward to getting rid of ALS before he falls. Behind him was the silent support of his wife Duan Rui.
Duan Rui was interviewed by Zhongxin Health Photo by Zhang Ni
I'm not a careerist, and even often "crashes"
With simple makeup, a dark dress, and a pair of casual cloth shoes on his feet, Duan Rui was dressed plainly and low-key when he appeared in front of reporters, with a bright smile.
"I'm a very person who can't hide things in my heart, I often break down, and I never hide it. She laughed in front of the camera and teased herself about being "emotional". It is such a wife who often "collapses" and "has a very Buddha heart", after her husband suffered from ALS, she resolutely gave up everything and became a teammate who fought side by side with him.
"Founder of Cai Lei's Icebreaker Station", this is a concise description in Duan Rui's Weibo account certification, and it is also the most direct way for her to help Cai Lei face ALS.
Instead of seeking financing for your business, you should make your own money. In 2022, after several setbacks in financing, Cai Lei and his wife decided to give it a try by live streaming. Duan Rui, who has never been involved in the live broadcast industry, devoted herself to this job for her husband.
"There are different difficulties at each stage of doing live broadcasting, it is difficult to find an anchor at the beginning, and then it is difficult to find a way to broadcast by yourself. When you don't do something, you don't know if you're thinking right, so the people around you, including your colleagues and employees, will also be shaken. ”
Without any talent that can be shown, and if you don't know skills, how can you talk for hours in the live broadcast room in a row? This problem made Duan Rui have a headache for a while.
Compared with Cai Lei's emotional stability, Duan Rui said that she is a person who is "easy to collapse", and she will even directly post "I am emo today" in the work group, but the time for her "collapse" is very short, and she will adjust herself soon, because there is still a lot of work waiting for her to do in the future.
"Now I work about 15 hours a day. Duan Rui said that she has to broadcast live 5 days a week, and when she is not on the air, she pulls the teammates in the team every day to select, collect data, and arrange products, and is so busy that she flies, which is a huge physical and mental challenge, "really tired".
For more than a year, a small team has promoted the rapid growth of the live broadcast room. Today, with the increase of attention, Cai Lei's icebreaker station has more than 4 million fans, and the live broadcast has been watched online by more than 10,000 people at the same time. What's more, the revenue from the live broadcast room is becoming an important source of funding for the research and development of ALS drugs and treatments, and it is also becoming a platform to connect various important resources.
The results of Duan Rui's efforts are obvious to all, and the media also likes to call her the strong backing behind Cai Lei. But when facing reporters, she smiled and said that she was actually quite "lying flat" in her heart, but she would still choose to work hard to solve problems after encountering them.
"I'm not a careerist, but after being with him (Cai Lei), my way of thinking has changed a lot is that as long as you think you should do this thing, you don't think about success or failure, which makes many choices different from before. ”
As for whether he will personally take over her husband's career in the future, Duan Rui said, "It's a bit far away now, I may give it a try, but I am very clear about my ability, the work he (Cai Lei) co-ordinates is not something that can be achieved by hard work, and you need to have strong negotiation skills, because each party involves huge interests, and I don't have such ability yet." ”
Talking about the future development of the live broadcast room, she said, "If there are still people doing things to overcome ALS in the future, then I will continue to do it and let it be used as a source of (funding), if not, I may also want to take a break." ”
"Never treat my children as children"
Racing against time and the "Grim Reaper", Duan Rui and Cai Lei's lives are filled with work, which makes it difficult for her to spare a lot of time to spend with her young son, but she has her own understanding of the company of growing up.
"My mom was also a career person throughout my upbringing, but I never felt like she was missing time with me. She would tell me that it wasn't the only way to live when I went home and watched TV, and that working overtime wasn't a hard job. It's because you have your dreams, you just happen to have the brain, the physical strength, and the opportunity to present, and you should be grateful for this opportunity. ”
Duan Rui said that he saw the hard work of his parents' generation, saw them energetic every day, showing a rare vitality among his peers, as a daughter, he also learned this way of education, that is, it is very important for the company of children, but its form is not important, the point is to have more communication with children, and the depth of communication is very important.
In the past few years, Cai Lei and his wife have been very economical during their entrepreneurship. So far, neither of them has an independent office space, and Duan Rui's office space is even the smallest among his colleagues.
Sometimes when she needs to quietly watch some data analysis, Duan Rui will take it home to do it, and then her son will run around her, and from time to time he will ask his mother what he is doing, and Duan Rui will patiently explain to him in an adult way.
"I don't know if he understands it or not, I'll tell him anyway and then he'll understand it his way. I never treat my children like children. There is no difference between us, but he has his way of understanding problems, and he is also a rich little world. I don't know what kind of reflection will form in his world, but I know he's still happy. ”
Since I met Cai Lei, he has been such a person
Business executives, social elites, ALS fighters, fighters...... Cai Lei's experience has made him labeled a lot by the outside world, but in Duan Rui's eyes, his husband has not changed because of an illness, he is always the same.
For a long time, Duan Rui and Cai Lei have been people who do not have a large proportion of life, and they spend more time immersed in work. The two of them have lived a very simple life so far, and until now, Duan Rui has forced himself to throw away a new one before he buys a new one, and Cai Lei has no requirements in material life. Although the two of them regard making money as a very important thing, their living standards have remained the same for decades.
"He didn't understand anything at home, and now he doesn't understand it. ”
Despite this, her husband still has countless shining points in Duan Rui's eyes, "He is a person with a lot of faith and a very stable person." All his satisfaction, his pride, is not only when he is excellent, when he is proud, even if he suffers a lot of blows, he will not change his mind at the beginning, and he will not change his mind when things are very smooth. ”
Duan Rui said that this is precisely the missing part of his character, and few people can really "not be happy with things, not sad with themselves", Cai Lei cured his "internal friction".
As for the label given to Cai Lei by the outside world, she believes that judging from the work Cai Lei does, he may be a fighter, but judging from the way he completes his work, he has always enjoyed it.
"People are used to labeling a lot of people, and if they do something, they think they're successful, they're wise, they're serious, they're hardworking, but in fact they're probably just pure, they just think everything they do is fun and worth digging into, just like a game. ”
Just like Cai Lei boldly and directly requested "marriage" after knowing Duan Rui for two weeks many years ago, in Duan Rui's heart, Cai Lei has always been a very simple, pure, and interesting person, and he has never changed since the first day he met. (ENDS)