Preamble:
With the continuous development of society, people's living standards have been significantly improved, and the elderly have more time and economic conditions to enjoy their lives after retirement. In the process, they can also better relax themselves, exercise, increase their knowledge, expand their network, and add fun and meaning to their lives.
At the same time, however, the children of some elderly people are caught in a conflict because their parents are unwilling to help take care of their grandchildren, which seems to be at odds with what everyone thinks.
1. The life of the elderly after retirement
With the continuous development of society, people's living standards have been significantly improved, and the elderly have more time and economic conditions to enjoy their lives after retirement. In the process, they can also better relax themselves, exercise, increase their knowledge, expand their network, and add fun and meaning to their lives.
2. Older persons and family responsibilities
In our traditional concept, the family is very important, and the elderly also have the responsibility of taking care of their grandchildren, therefore, some of the children of the elderly hope that they can help take care of their grandchildren, however, with the development of society, people's concepts are also quietly changing, we gradually realize that the responsibility of taking care of children should not be borne by all family elders, but should be shared by family members, which can not only avoid excessive burden on the elderly and young people, but also better cultivate children's independence and self-care ability。
In fact, whether it is the elderly or the young, they have their own lifestyle and life plan, they should be responsible for their own quality of life, rather than sacrificing their interests and hobbies too much, therefore, we should respect the choices of the elderly, can not force them to make changes for their own lifestyle, on the contrary, we should also encourage young people to take care of their children more, spend more time with them, instead of putting all the responsibility on the family elders.
3. The contradiction of retirement life
In fact, the contradictions in retirement life are not once or twice, every family has its own story, maybe on the surface, we think that these contradictions are just about the responsibility of care, but in fact, what is hidden behind is the communication and understanding between family members
For example, a story that has recently spread on the Internet has caused a lot of discussion, in this story, there is a 63-year-old aunt who is very fond of traveling, so she is not willing to help take care of her grandchildren, she feels that she can have her own lifestyle and hobbies, and she does not want to have too much impact on her life because of the responsibility of caregiving.
However, not long after, the aunt fell ill and was hospitalized, and although the condition was not serious, it caused conflict in the family, because her son and daughter-in-law felt that she should help take care of her grandson, but the aunt insisted on her choice, she felt that she had the right to pursue her own way of life and the right to refuse to sacrifice her quality of life.
In this way, the family is caught in a contradiction, on the one hand, they should respect the aunt's choice and cannot force her to take care of her grandchildren, after all, this is her retirement life, she has the right to pursue her own lifestyle, on the other hand, they also have their own difficulties and needs, they need to work, they need to take care of their children, therefore, they also hope that the aunt can give some help and support.
Epilogue:
Indeed, such problems are not easy to solve, every family has its own situation and difficulties, and we cannot force others to make changes to their own lifestyles, so how should we look at such problems?
In fact, I think that family members should establish a clearer and more balanced communication mechanism, whether it is about the responsibility of care or about personal life, we should frankly express our thoughts and needs, and jointly negotiate ways to solve problems, so as to avoid family conflicts and estrangement caused by the responsibility of care, share family responsibilities, and jointly create a beautiful family atmosphere.
Of course, for the elderly after retirement, their health and quality of life are also very important, we should respect their choice, but also should give them more care and understanding, perhaps, we can take care of children in some other ways, for example, can spend more time with them, can give them better education and guidance.
I hope that every family can be full of warmth and understanding, whether young or old, they can thrive in such an atmosphere and enjoy their own happy life.