As the saying goes, husband and wife do not have an overnight feud, and it is said that husband and wife quarrel at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed. When two people quarrel and enter a state of cold war, when one party takes the initiative to sue for peace, does the other side hold it, or just get off the donkey?
Realistic marriage, firewood, rice, oil, salt, noisy and harmonious have their own tricks.
The couple we saw today, one party took the initiative to make peace, and the other party did not accept the offer, and netizens laughed.
The two young couples quarreled over trivial matters, made a little awkward, and were in the cold war stage, you ignore me, and I don't want to take care of you.
The man wanted to coax his wife, so he took the initiative to make peace, thinking about going downstairs to pick up the express, and then throwing away the garbage at home.
The man changed his shoes, carried the garbage, and asked his wife: "I'll go down to pick up the courier, do you want to eat something to bring back for you." ”
The wife still bowed her head and went about her own business, ignoring her husband, and the man let out an "ah" as a reminder.
The woman ignored him, so the man let out another "ah".
The woman is unwilling to compromise and speak, and the man keeps "ah", causing the scene to gradually get out of control.
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Seeing this, netizens felt that they couldn't cry or laugh, there were supporters, there were opponents, and there were people who couldn't laugh, and some people bluntly said that this was their own same paragraph.
This "ah" is really a tough seed, whether it is a cold face and a hot ass, or the kind that has been pasted all the time, the same as a dime in my family.
The woman's unwillingness to take care of it is mainly because the contradiction has not been resolved, and the man thinks that if she brings some food back, the contradiction will not be a contradiction, but he does not know that if he repeats it again and again, the contradiction will be remembered in his heart, and he will eventually be disappointed. The best thing to do is to deal with the conflict on the same day, don't procrastinate, otherwise you will really be disappointed in the marriage in the end.
Speaking of which, the author and I myself are exactly the same person, and when I am angry, I am the kind who does not squeak. In the first two years of marriage, as long as I had a conflict with my husband, I basically wouldn't take the initiative to speak, and my husband coaxed me all kinds of things.
Later, gradually, I felt that I was a little too much, I was lucky, my husband's mood is stable, and he would always wait for my temper to patiently tell me, the next time I quarrel, I can't say nothing, what thoughts in my heart must be said, if he does not do well, he changes, because not saying a word can not solve the problem.
Those years probably belonged to the run-in period after our marriage. Later, I was cured of not speaking unilaterally, and I felt that I had changed myself.
In real life, there are really a lot of people with such a temper, and this netizen in Henan also ignores all kinds of quarrels, but when people also meet a good husband, they will go over to coax her. This netizen in Guangdong also admitted that she is this kind of woman.
I used to be this kind of woman, but I was changed by my husband several times. The ultimate direction of family marriage does not lie entirely in the woman or the man, but in the run-in between each other.
In the final analysis, the conflict between husband and wife is not simply a matter of seeking perfection, but how to communicate and deal with this contradiction calmly.
The relationship between husband and wife is not only a matter of letting go of their bodies, but also learning to communicate effectively between them.
If everyone is unwilling to change, they are so stubborn, and if there is a Cold War between the two people, it will be at least two or three days, and at most one or two months, two or three months, and it is possible that they will not pay attention to each other.
At this time, you can't just say how the man is, if the woman cares about this marriage, she can also try to change herself, and then influence the man herself.
The most annoying thing is this kind of cold violence, and the husband and wife must have good communication with each other, so that the relationship between the husband and wife can be harmonious.
I feel that this "ah" will only deepen the conflict, and it is not as effective as a hug.
Sometimes it is said that it is really better to take action, and if you have the effort to ask back and forth, you should quickly clean up the house, fold your clothes, drag the floor, go out to pick up the express, and then buy some delicious things for your daughter-in-law by the way.
Write at the end
When two people live together, small quarrels are inevitable, and husbands and wives still have to understand each other and tolerate each other.
The two are emotionally stable, the way of doing things is different, if you are a little more mature, you can go down the stairs first, don't worry about face between husband and wife, the enhancement between the two is competitive, and in the end you can only hurt each other.
Men can coax women first, women can also coax men first, it is not easy to run a family, take a step back from each other, do effective and good communication, life will become better and better.
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