"Those who are close to Zhu are red, and those who are close to ink are black", which means that what kind of person you are with will become what kind of person you will become.
Master Zeng Guofan also said: "Life or failure is all related to the merit of friends, and you must not be careless." ”
It's not that the more friends the better, but choosing the right person is the key! So, what kind of friends can't be made?
The first type: people with bad hearts
Did you know that the way of heaven is fair? Although it does not favor anyone, it is especially kind to those who are good. With kind people, you will find that they are genuine, considerate, and always helpful, making people feel like a spring breeze.
On the contrary, if you have been with those unkind people for a long time, you may become like them, and you may even be betrayed by them, just like the story of Su Shi and Shen Kuo. So, in life, it's better to choose kind friends!
The second type: people with bad character
We like a person, often starting from his appearance, and then admiring his talent, and his character, getting along for a long time is because of his kindness, but the most important thing is his character.
Sima Guang once said: "The talented person is also the capital of virtue, and the virtuous person is also handsome." "A good person is a villain if he has a bad character, and a person who is not very good is a gentleman if he has a good character.
When we make friends, we want people who are sincere and do what they say, not those who are glamorous on the surface but bad behind the scenes.
So, dear friends, you have to be cautious in choosing friends! Remember, people with bad hearts and bad character have to stay away! Choose kind and sincere friends, and let us go wider and wider on the road of life together!
The story of Yu Minhong and New Oriental is really interesting: it is said that after Yu Minhong founded New Oriental, he urgently needed a group of capable cadres. He immediately flew to the United States to find his former classmates. In order to let everyone see China's business opportunities, he arrogantly exchanged a large amount of dollars, which was like spending money in the United States.
Guess what? After these students returned to China, the reason they gave Yu Minhong was: "Old Yu, we came back because we have seen all the things you have been sweeping the floor and fetching water in the past four years." With your spirit, we know that you will not treat us badly. ”
It turned out that when Yu Minhong was at Peking University, he silently cleaned the dormitory and fetched water for his classmates every day, which was four years, rain or shine. As a result, their dormitory has never been lined with a hygiene schedule. Occasionally, Yu Minhong forgot to fetch water, and his classmates would kindly remind him. When the movie was played, Yu Minhong carried the stools of the whole dormitory alone to occupy a seat.
In this way, his true feelings won the trust and respect of his classmates, and also laid a solid foundation for the development of New Oriental. Now New Oriental is already a listed company in the United States!
A person with good character can always win people's hearts, and everyone is willing to trust him and help him. Such a person, no matter where he goes, can be like a fish in water, left and right. They are like a beacon that illuminates not only others, but also their own life paths.
The ancients said: "Choose good friends and make friends." "It is indeed a wisdom to surround yourself with people who are upright and kind. Because you will find that when you get along with such a person, even if you do not have a particularly great achievement in life, the splendor and warmth of that life cannot be described in words.
There is also a saying: "Respond with one voice, seek one breath." This means that only the same people can be true friends. Therefore, when we associate with kind friends, we must first start with our own kindness, and when we associate with friends who are upright, we must pay more attention to our own conduct.
Life is short, and the rest of your life is precious. Let's walk with those honest and kind people all the way to write a beautiful chapter of life together!