When people are old, as long as they have these qualities, they will be rejected by their children
The years are indeed a ruthless carving knife. With its unstoppable power, it has carved the youthful face and engraved the vicissitudes of life on the once tender face. At the same time, it also carves the various states of life, allowing people to experience all kinds of joys and sorrows, and experience the warmth and coldness of the world. In these long years, some old people, those who were once majestic in the eyes of their children, gradually became less cute, and even some "disgusted".
There are old men who are self-righteous and meddle in the affairs of their children, as if they were still the invincible king with the scepter in his hand. They are immersed in the authority and glory of the past and are unable to adapt to the transformation of modern family relationships. They forget that their children have grown up and have their own thinking and judgment. Today's children no longer need the command and interference of their parents, but a deeper understanding and support. Shakespeare's quote is particularly apt at this moment: "The best of times, the worst of times, the age of wisdom, the age of folly, the spring of faith, the winter of doubt." "Times are constantly advancing and changing, but the way of thinking of these old people is stagnant and still stuck in the old era. This self-righteous attitude undoubtedly brings a huge sense of depression and restraint to the children, making the intergenerational relationship more and more tense.
There are also some old people, perhaps out of regret and compensation for their youth, who behave inappropriately and have a lot of romantic affairs. They seek short-term pleasure and happiness, but often neglect the long-term harmony and stability of the family. This behavior not only damages the reputation and image of the family, but also makes the children feel deeply ashamed and helpless. Aristotle once said, "Most of what we end up being is what we choose." This sentence profoundly reveals the independent choice behind people's behavior. And these old people seem to have lost their way in the pursuit of personal happiness, forgetting the importance and responsibilities of family. Their choice undoubtedly puts their children in a dilemma: they must respect the wishes of their parents while maintaining the dignity and harmony of the family.
Others show a sense of powerlessness to live independently, and they seem to have become so accustomed to the care and pampering of their children that they depend on them for every detail in their daily lives. They forget that life needs to be managed and borne by themselves. Victor Hugo's famous quote "I would rather open my future by my own strength than to seek the favor of the powerful" is a tribute to this independent spirit. And the over-dependence of these elderly people not only makes their children feel exhausted, but also makes the elderly themselves lose the dignity and joy of life.
There are also old people whose personalities have become eccentric and elusive. They behaved amiably and politely in front of outsiders, but when they returned home, they immediately changed their faces, and they were cold and critical of their families. This act of double standards makes family relationships extremely tense and complicated. Family members often feel confused and helpless because they cannot understand and accept this change.
Lack of hygiene is also one of the problems that some elderly people are gradually emerging. As they age and their physical functions decline, they may no longer pay as much attention to personal hygiene and cleanliness as they did when they were younger. And the truth that "cleanliness is the foundation of health" remains the same. Poor lifestyle habits not only affect the quality of life of family members, but also may pose a potential threat to the physical health of the elderly.
The last thing to mention is the partiality of some elderly people towards their children. They may have a special preference for one child and neglect others, such unfair treatment often leads to more tension and even escalation of family relations, and the favored children may become arrogant and self-willed, while the neglected children may resentment and resentment, and this partiality clearly violates the principle that "justice is the soul of society". Family harmony and stability also need fairness and justice to maintain, as the elderly should try to achieve a bowl of water, give each child due care and support, so as to make the family relationship more harmonious.
Of course, despite the many "dislikeful" traits and behaviors of these old people, we should still treat them with a grateful heart. After all, they used to be our reliance and support, they have paid a lot for us and sacrificed a lot, now they are old, weak, and need our care and care, we should use more patience and understanding to accompany them through this twilight journey of life, so that they can feel the warmth of home and the filial piety of their children. The years are ruthless but people are affectionate, let us use love and tolerance to resolve these contradictions and problems!