Han Han said: "Really bad people are not terrible, what is terrible is fake good people."
Knowing people and knowing faces but not knowing their hearts, no matter how good the relationship with your girlfriend is, you can't talk about your boyfriend, especially don't talk about a lot of private topics.
I lived to be 35 years old and learned a lot of lessons to understand:
Many friends could have stayed close until they were old, but because they told too many secrets, the relationship collapsed.
was hurt not only because the other party backstabbed him with a secret, but also because he lost his friends for many years and all the youth memories related to her, and she was very sad.
Therefore, if you don't want to lose your girlfriend, it's best not to talk to each other about your partner.
Why?
There are three essential truths about the person you talk to your girlfriends: wanting to show off, asking for comfort, and asking for opinions.
If you figure out the logic behind these three, you can predict that if you talk to your girlfriend too much, the end will often be miserable.
01 Talking to your best friend is easy to be betrayed
Many women talk to their girlfriends, most of them out of show-off.
1) Show off yourself to conquer all types of men
"My boyfriend is a little milk dog, but he can stick to me and listen to me, he loves me so much that he can't drive it away";
"Oh, this time it's about the little wolf dog, the physical strength is super good, and we were very harmonious and happy when we were there";
"Women must talk about more men, young and obedient, almost old with man charm, older people hurt people and have money"......
Show off your charm, train men to be well-behaved and obedient, can play with various types of men, and can attract all kinds of high-quality men.
In order to satisfy their vanity, or rather, to find a sense of existence.
2) Flaunting the economy, material, luxury, etc
"My boyfriend gave me a ring and necklace, and my boyfriend just bought a car";
"My husband just got promoted and plans to buy a house, hey, what he promised me before marriage has been done......
is not only to show off the sense of love ritual, the details of life and so on;
is even more keen to show off what her husband has given her, intentionally or unintentionally, showing off her car, house, accessories, and even cosmetics.
It is possible to use material things to cover up one's insecurity, and to "bluff" to hide that oneself may not be really happy.
Or you may simply want to show off your wealth, want to listen to other people's praise and compliments, and enjoy the envy of others.
As a result, instead of waiting for the envy and congratulations of the girlfriends, they were turned into a corner, green and green.
Showing off how good your boyfriend is to you, and having a lot of character will only make your girlfriends, who are also women, more jealous and want to have.
As a result, there are thoughts that should not be had, and your man is remembered by the other party every day.
And you have already described in detail to the other party the various preferences, advantages and disadvantages of your object, and your girlfriend is equivalent to carrying the most complete strategy.
Once you think about your husband, it's not a matter of time before you take him down.
If everyone is on the same level, they can get along peacefully.
But when you live happily and your husband is super high-quality, you don't hide it and steal it, but you hype it up, isn't this pulling hatred?
If your girlfriends are not doing well, with your life comparison, even if they don't rob your man, they will secretly hate you, either break off your friendship with you, or find an opportunity to frame you.
Be low-key, show off less, and don't make enemies.
02 When talking to your girlfriend, it's easy to fall out of love or even get married
Some women are very unassertive, can hardly "walk independently", and have to share everything with their girlfriends and let them give advice.
Especially when looking for a partner, from the beginning of the meeting, falling in love, and even talking about marriage, you have to give your girlfriends ideas.
The girlfriend teaches you to play the image that the man likes, and teaches you the chat skills with the man word by word, so is the other party in love with you, or the best friend of the military advisor behind it?
Did you live your life in the process?
Once the true face is revealed, or once the man comes into contact with the best friend who gave you ideas, won't he feel that he loves the wrong person?
Instead of pursuing true love "girlfriends"?
At that time, you will be "losing your wife and losing your soldiers", you will pay your time, money and feelings wrongly, and your man and girlfriends will be gone.
Even if your man and girlfriend are not emotionally involved.
However, a woman who has no opinions cannot make her own decisions, and she can't see her heart clearly, so that she chooses the wrong person or misses the good fate.
For example, tell your girlfriend the details of getting along with your partner, no matter how big or small, and let your girlfriend help you make ideas, but no one else is you, just make an idea and don't care about the consequences.
Either it will escalate the conflict between you and the object, which is irreparable, and it is likely to miss the good relationship;
Either it will make you can't see your heart clearly, so that you don't know what kind of man is suitable for you, choose the wrong person, get married wrong, and live a miserable life.
There are people around me, and every time I fall in love, I have to ask my girlfriend to make an idea: whether he is suitable for me, what should he do to me like this......
As a result, I have been talking about it all the time, and now I am in my 30s, still single, and I can't find a partner.
What's more, no man can accept that his own woman would rather listen to the opinions of outsiders and target herself than listen to herself.
A woman who has no assertiveness will have a hard time living well in her life.
What's more, how do you know if your "girlfriend" is really good for you, or if you can't see you?
So, don't talk too much about objects with your girlfriends, people's hearts are unverifiable.
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