Sanmao once said: "To be a resilient person should be our lifelong goal." ”
A simple sentence, but it expresses the great wisdom of life.
Life is a huge dojo, sharpening everyone's temperament and pattern.
In the face of difficulties and tribulations, some people always complain and are full of resentment;
However, some people are accustomed to opening roads in the mountains and building bridges when encountering water, turning all the ruggedness into their own experience.
If you can't change the environment, try to adapt, and if you can't change the outcome, try to accept it.
The more we see, the more we will find that those women who are truly mature are usually very resilient in their hearts.
There is a question on the Internet: "What is a woman with a strong heart like?"
A netizen's answer attracted countless likes:
Don't compare with the big trees, don't compare with the flowers, survive the trough, and stand on the top.
Coco Chanel, the founder of Chanel, is a perfect example of such a life.
When Chanel was 30 years old, she began to introduce high-end couture because of the booming business of her hat shop in Paris.
She eschewed all the traditional designs and created simple sailor suits, straight skirts and knitwear that attracted the attention of countless high-level women.
But just as Chanel was growing rapidly, World War I broke out, and the French economy hit rock bottom.
The first thing to give up was expensive fashion, and Chanel's stores were often out of business for weeks, and their careers were on the verge of collapse.
When she revisited the market, she found that most of the men here had gone to the battlefield, and the women had to go to work in the factories in order to make ends meet.
But the skirts they wore were cumbersome and heavy, and they were not suitable for work at all.
Chanel immediately purchased a batch of simple and low-cost fabrics, and tailored a simple and simple work suit for these office workers.
As soon as this outfit was launched, it was enthusiastically sought after by female office workers.
In this way, Chanel successfully survived the trough with her own unique business vision, and since then has established itself as the godmother of the French fashion industry.
Nelson Mandela said, "The greatest brilliance of life is not that it never falls, but that it always rises again after it falls." ”
A person's strength does not lie in never failing, but in being able to learn from failure and gain the strength to turn the tables again.
In a person's life, there will always be countless storms that cannot be avoided and cannot be avoided.
And when we cultivate a strong heart, we can have an umbrella to protect ourselves from the wind and rain.
Looking at those women who are psychologically mature, they usually have the strength to stand on a high ground and the resilience to cross the trough.
Advance can be attacked, retreat can be defended, do not panic in case of trouble, can withstand prosperity, but also survive difficulties.
The most touching appearance of a working woman is this.
The love entanglement between Zhang Ailing and Hu Lancheng has made countless people sigh.
When Hu Lancheng first met Zhang Ailing, he was amazed by her talent, and under his soft grinding and hard bubbles, Zhang Ailing fell in love with him warmly.
She thought that what she met was the true love of a couple for a lifetime, but she didn't know that Hu Lancheng was a "love veteran" who lingered among countless women.
At that time, the situation was turbulent, and when Hu Lancheng went to Wuhan to take over the "Da Chu Daily", he fell in love with Zhou Xunde, a little nurse in Hanyang Hospital.
The most heart-wrenching thing is that he is not shy about his abusive feelings, and he also "confesses" his love with Xiao Zhou to Zhang Ailing again and again.
And I didn't know that when Zhang Ailing heard him talk about another woman with a smile, her heart was already like a knife.
Later, Hu Lancheng fled all the way to Wenzhou.
When Zhang Ailing rushed to Wenzhou, she found that Hu Lancheng had another woman by her side.
This time, Zhang Ailing finally saw through Hu Lancheng's "scumbag" nature;
She also saw clearly the "true love in the world" that she gave countless good expectations, but it turned out to be just an illusion.
Back in Shanghai, Zhang Ailing resolutely cut off all contact with Hu Lancheng.
After Hu Lancheng's death, Zhang Ailing wrote to a friend:
On my birthday, when I received the news of the $7,000 manuscript fee and Hu Lancheng's death, I inevitably felt that it was a birthday gift.
All the love and hatred in the past have passed away with the wind, and her heart is only relieved.
Zhang Ailing's deep love for Hu Lancheng used to be able to cross mountains and seas, but when she found that the person she loved was not human, she could also break up boldly.
This is exactly why she is loved by countless female readers.
Looking back at a woman's life, who can guarantee that she will not meet one or two scumbags in this life?
Once many women are hurt by love, they will become resentful and constantly punish their lives with the mistakes of others.
On the other hand, most of the women who have a resilient heart live a wanton and free life:
You treat me sincerely, and I will return you with sincerity, and if you go to Qin Dusk, I will definitely turn around and leave;
Pay sincerely, but also let go of persistence, can not only love passionately, but also resolutely forget;
No self-rumination, no repeated entanglement, no painful internal friction.
This is the most sober and transparent appearance of a woman in her emotions.
If daring to love and hate is a kind of sobriety of a woman, then daring to break the confinement of age is a woman's greatest bravery.
Suppose there is such an aunt, who was illiterate until the age of 60, but she began to write books at the age of 71 and published 4 novels at the age of 75;
Do you think that's a myth?
The aunt who wrote this myth is Jiang Shumei, who calls herself an "illiterate writer".
She was born in a scholarly family and liked literature since she was a child, but due to family changes, she was forced to marry at a young age;
The life after marriage is trivial and busy, and she has no time to learn culture.
It wasn't until she was in the year of the sixtieth year, when she was taking her little grandson, that she was questioned by her children because she was illiterate, and she discovered the deepest regret of her life.
She wanted to learn to read, she wanted to read, and she wanted to write novels like her writer's daughter.
Although the daughter was surprised by her mother's idea, she fully supported her decision.
But when Jiang Shumei began to learn to read, she realized how difficult it was.
At the age of 60, my memory loss is particularly severe, and those Chinese characters that turn around in the curves are always forgotten when I read them, and I make mistakes when I write them.
In order to quickly remember the words she has learned, she is like a primary school student, insisting on reading and writing every day, and her notebook is full of dense traces of practice.
With the persistence of day after day, Jiang Shumei finally wrote her first article at the age of 71 and entered the Lu Xun Academy of Literature under the recommendation of her daughter.
In the following years, she was like a bamboo, and published 4 novels in a row, including "Poor Times, Troubled Times" and "Bitter Cauliflower, Sugarcane Sprouts", and successfully joined the Chinese Writers Association.
Jiang Shumei, who is not trapped in age, finally lived her most brilliant light in her ancient years.
In life, we often hear the words: "If I could be ten years younger, I must change my way of life;"
"That's it for this life, when you get old, you can only go downhill little by little. ”
Many people will be young next year, but in such a sigh time, they have exhausted countless good years.
And those women like Jiang Shumei, who dare to break through the shackles of age, have become shining themselves in exploring another possibility of life again and again.
is like the 56-year-old eldest sister Su Min who decided to drive alone;
and the 62-year-old "motorcycle grandmother" Liu Xueying, who rode 36,000 kilometers and traveled most of China;
and Grandma Wu, who only started to learn to paint at the age of 90, but became popular all over the Internet......
With their courage and sincerity, they tell all women that wrinkles can grow on the face, but not on the heart;
You can grow old, but the love of life never ends.
In life, looking at those women who are resilient in their hearts, they usually forget their age and break through their imprisonment;
Do not sigh and feel sorry for yourself, do not stand still, do not set limits on yourself, focus on love, and are not afraid of the years.
Only in this way can you live your own unique life.
There is a technical term in psychology called "resilience".
It refers to the space in which a person's heart can self-regulate in the face of changes in the outside world.
The greater the psychological resilience, the more likely you are to cope with the twists and turns and variables of life.
On the road of life, no one has ever been able to live a smooth life.
Instead of expecting everything to be perfect, it is better to cultivate a "resilient" heart.
can withstand prosperity and survive difficulties, so as to turn evil into good fortune;
If you are sincere and can let go of your attachment, you will not lose yourself in pain;
Only by forgetting age and breaking through the confinement can we live the vastness of life.
When you truly cultivate a strong heart, you will also have a life without fear and regrets.