Marriage is undoubtedly boring for everyone. Especially after having children, the responsibilities of the family and the trivial things of the children have made a family lose its original ease and happiness.
Especially for those men who take family responsibilities lightly, when they see their wives deformed, and the women outside are young and energetic, fresh, men will undoubtedly be bored with family affairs. Naturally, they will yearn for the colorful life outside.
And most men develop relationships outside of marriage, mostly in pursuit of excitement, because the immutability of marriage makes them feel boring.
1. The excitement of freshness
Uyu Bout Says:
"When a pair of married eyes begin to drift around, like a ship away from the port, it becomes more and more easy to get lost in the vast sea. ”
Men are often attracted to novelty when they pursue affection. The dullness and boredom of married life make them eager to find a new experience and feeling.
Women outside of marriage, with a style and charm different from their wives, bring them a long-lost heartbeat. However, this freshness is only short-lived, and it cannot be the cornerstone of feelings.
Men need to understand that true feelings are based on mutual understanding, trust, and respect, not on the spur of the moment and novelty.
2. Stimulation of physiological needs
When there is a rift in the relationship between couples, men may feel lonely and lonely.
They crave care and care, and women outside of marriage seem to have this need more easily met.
However, the satisfaction of this need is only superficial and temporary.
Men should deeply reflect on the problems between themselves and their wives and repair the relationship through communication and hard work, rather than escaping the problem by looking for new feelings.
3. The stimulation of a sense of achievement
Men tend to have a strong sense of self-esteem and accomplishment. Developing relationships outside of marriage is sometimes done to prove one's charm and abilities.
In this way, they hope to gain the praise and envy of others, thus satisfying their own vanity. However, this sense of accomplishment is illusory and unreal.
True success and achievement should be based on one's own efforts and achievements, not on the praise and envy of others.
Summary:
In the process of pursuing affection, men are driven by a variety of "stimuli". These stimuli are both positive and positive, as well as negative and negative.
In order to maintain family harmony and stability, men need to be soberly aware of the nature and impact of these stimuli and make the right choices.
At the same time, society should also strengthen the supervision and education of extramarital affairs to help men establish correct values and morals. Only in this way can we work together to create a more harmonious, stable and happy social environment.
In the process of men's pursuit of affection, the temptation of freshness, the satisfaction of physical and emotional needs, the pursuit of a sense of accomplishment, and the excuse to evade responsibility are all factors that cannot be ignored.
However, these factors are not decisive, and men can overcome these temptations and impulses through self-restraint and rational thinking.
They need to understand that true happiness and fulfillment come from loyalty to their family, respect for their partner, and the pursuit of self-growth.
In addition, public opinion and moral norms also have a profound impact on men's behavior. A healthy, positive social environment helps men to develop the right values and codes of conduct so that they can avoid going down the wrong path.
Therefore, we should work together to create a social atmosphere that respects marriage, cherishes family, and promotes morality.