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Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

author:Moon Okuma

In the 2024 CCTV Spring Festival Gala, Hailai Amu and Shan Yichun sang a song "It's Better to See Each Other", which made the audience almost cry.

At the end of the performance, Hailai Amu put on a dress and hurriedly walked out of the studio. The crowd was puzzled and asked him what he was doing? Hailai Amu said, "I want to rush back to my hometown of Liangshan and go to my daughter's grave......"

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

In the noisy and noisy applause, Hailai Amu wanted to "meet" the most, and it was his daughter who had passed away for 10 years. Kneeling in front of the grave of his deceased daughter, he gently told his daughter about his longing, told his daughter about the pain he had experienced along the way, and also told her that now he has found that warm harbor and began to pursue his dreams, and he is very happy.

You want to cry when you listen to Hailai Amu's song, probably because you see your own life in his singing. If you read the story of Hailai Amu and listen to "through the lively autumn, like a wild goose floating in the wind", you will understand what it means to "break the liver and intestines".

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

A young man of the Yi nationality with a dream

Hailai Amu is a member of the Yi ethnic group in Daliang Mountain, with an ordinary family background, relying on his parents' meager income to support a family of five brothers and sisters. As the eldest son, Hailai Amu has a full view of his parents' suffering, and since he was a child, he hopes to come out as soon as possible to share the burden for his parents.

However, looking up at the endless mountains, he didn't know how he could get out.

Because of his poor life, he is more mature than his peers, and his eyebrows are full of melancholy.

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

The only thing that brings him joy is music. Hailai Amu's memory when he was a child is that almost every night, his father would play and sing in his own home, and Hailai Amu would hum along with him, not only a loyal listener of his father, but also a "band member", from time to time to accompany his father.

Under the influence of his father, Hailai Amu became obsessed with music. One day, my father brought back a tape recorder and put on the song of "Mountain Eagle Group", and the sound coming from the machine stunned Hailai Amu, and his heart was deeply shocked for the first time!

Since then, he has vowed to become a singer and release his own music album like the "Mountain Eagle Group".

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

At the age of 15, Hailai Amu participated in a singing competition held in his hometown, won the championship in one fell swoop, and began to make a name for himself in the local area.

Therefore, he, like all arrogant teenagers, longs to go to a wider world.

His father didn't think so, he only hoped that Hailai Amu would study hard and find a stable job in the future, but he had no heart to study, so he dropped out of school despite his father's opposition. But after leaving society, he found that life was not so simple, and in the end, his father arranged a job for him to survive in his hometown.

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

However, the boring life did not dampen Hailai Amu's enthusiasm, and he still wanted to pursue his music dream. One night, 18-year-old Hailai Amu plucked up the courage and proposed to his father the idea of "going to Chengdu for development", his father smoked a cigarette, was silent for a long time, and finally only said: "Don't look for me if you can't get along", Hailai Amu heard it, and hurriedly said: "Don't worry, Dad, I will definitely mix up to show you." ”

Experienced the failure of marriage

After arriving in Chengdu, he wandered the streets, not knowing how to start the "Dream Chasing Project", walking and seeing a bar in front of him recruiting singers, he rushed in for an interview, but the boss saw that he was too young and jerky, and didn't want him, so he asked several restaurants and this was the result.

There was no way, so he had to work as a coolie, a waiter in a restaurant, and a porter for people, so he barely gained a foothold in Chengdu. However, because of the instability of his job, he often couldn't even eat, and in the dead of night, this arrogant boy hid in the dark basement and wept.

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

But Hailai Amu is stubborn, and no matter how bitter he is, he doesn't tell his father. What he didn't know was that his father had been paying attention to him, and when he learned that Hailai Amu was having such a hard time, he ordered him to hurry back to his hometown, and in this way, Hailai Amu failed to pursue his dream for the first time and returned to his hometown to live a dull life.

Not long after returning to his hometown, he married his first wife, a local Yi girl, under his father's arrangement. After marriage, the two gave birth to their daughter Aguojiqu in 2013, but both of them are too young, let alone parents, and they don't even know how to get along with each other, so conflicts are frequent.

This year, Hailai Amu has become well-known in the circle, and even held a solo concert. Once, Amu received an invitation to go outside to participate in an event, and half a month later, when he came home, he saw only his daughter crying, his wife was nowhere to be seen, and there was a note on the table that said "I'm gone".

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

The first marriage failed like this, and Hailai Amu looked at his daughter who was waiting to be fed, and was deeply confused. He wanted to go out to make money, and his daughter had no one to take care of, so Amu had to ask his mother to help take care of the child, while he continued to run outside, but fate did not let him go.

tried his best but failed to save his daughter

One day in March 2013, Amu received a call from her mother that her daughter seemed to have something wrong and was always crying. Amu immediately rushed home and took him to the clinic in the town for examination, and the doctor said that it was a minor problem, and he prescribed some medicine and went home.

But within two days, the situation was even worse, and my daughter kept crying.

That day, he held his daughter and waved desperately with his mother under a tree next to the road, but none of the drivers were willing to stop. After a long time, a truck finally stopped, and Amu said to the driver, "I am also a truck driver, and now my daughter is seriously ill, will you take us to the hospital?"

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

Two hours later, they finally arrived at the Asbestos Hospital, where they were found to have a congenital intestinal obstruction, but the situation was not optimistic, so Amu had to transfer the child to West China Hospital.

Amu gave up all his work and stayed with his daughter, but the daily medical expenses were a large amount, and soon, he and his mother ran out of money, so they had to ask relatives to borrow money.

At the same time, her daughter's condition also deteriorated. The doctor recommended that she be sent to a larger hospital for treatment, and Hailai Amu took her daughter to West China Hospital, where she stayed for a few days, but her condition did not improve at all.

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

On this day, the doctor called Amu to the office: "Your daughter's illness ...... There's no need to stay in the hospital anymore......", Amu didn't know what the doctor meant, and hurriedly explained: "It's okay doctor, we can afford to pay any money." The doctor waved his hand: "It's not about money...... the doctor didn't say any more, and Amu finally understood what the doctor meant.

He could only hold his daughter in frustration, and used the only 87 yuan left in the card to buy two hard-seat train tickets back to his hometown, one with a seat and one without a seat, and he and his mother took turns holding their daughter. In the rickety carriage, Amu's legs were sore, but his heart was even more sore. The daughter in his arms closed her eyes slightly, and her wheezing voice was very soft, and Amu looked at her dying daughter and sobbed silently.

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

Agogiqu is gone

At this time, Amu had already participated in the "Voice of the Chinese Dream in the First Season", and the second round of the competition was about to be held. Amu wanted to refuse, but her mother was very resolute, she knew that this was Amu's dream, and if she missed it, she might regret it for the rest of her life.

He had no choice but to return to the ring with his injuries. On April 3, 2013, Hailai Amu was promoted, but there was no joy on his face. In the evening, he made a phone call home: "Mom, what's going on with Ah Guo now?" There was silence for a moment, and then said: "It's okay, it's fine", Amu heard the tremor in his mother's voice, and knew that things were not good, so he hurried back to his hometown.

As soon as he pushed the door open, Amu rushed to his daughter's bedroom, and when he saw that it was empty, he asked his mother: "Where did Ago go......?"

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

Amu knew that her dearest daughter, the beloved Agojiqu, had been in this world for only 65 days and had left forever.

In the afternoon, his mother took him to the mountain where Agojiqu was buried. Amu looked at the small grave, kept picking up the soil with his hands, crying and calling his daughter's name as he picked up, until his mother pulled Amu away, he didn't stop. The light rain was dripping, drenching Amu's whole body, and the rain and tears were mixed together.

He called the Voice of China Dream program team to inform him of the withdrawal, and then turned off his mobile phone. He remembered that the water of Lugu Lake was beautiful and clear, so he came to Lugu Lake alone, where he wrote the song "Aguoji Song", and Amu wrote everything he wanted to say to his daughter into the song.

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

He said: "Yes, I missed you, but how could I miss me, maybe one day I won't have time to say goodbye, and you are destined to be my concern......"

daughter is destined to be the concern of his life.

After writing this song, he burst into tears.

Remarry and reap happiness

The next day was Amu's birthday, but he didn't mention it to anyone, but set out on a distant journey alone.

Life has to go on, because of the treatment of his daughter, Amu owes huge debts, there are friends, banks, and relatives, in order to repay the money quickly, he went to do a small business, but all the business failed, the debt was not repaid at all, there were debt collection calls every day, relatives said, if you don't pay back, you will turn your face!

He had no choice but to continue his old job and drive a big truck. As a result, when he was running a long distance, he accidentally had a car accident and almost lost his life, and was sent to the hospital for rescue before waking up. Lying on the hospital bed, he suddenly felt as if he had a dream, and he missed the music for a moment, and he gently hummed the Agoji song in his heart, humming the melodies that were written to himself.

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

In order to hide and find a way out for himself, he came to Chengdu again and began to continue singing.

In 2015, by chance, Hailai Amu met a girl named Chen Lin, who was beautiful and temperamental. The most important thing is that he is very good to Amu and understands and supports his dreams. She knew that music belonged to Amu, and she said to Amu: "You just need to pursue your ideals, and I have everything in the family." ”

Amu choked and couldn't speak. A few months later, in October 2015, Amu took Chen Lin's hand, stepped on the red carpet, and entered the marriage hall.

Not long after marriage, Chen Lin became pregnant. Amu gave up most of his work and stayed by his wife's side, and this time, he cherished it extraordinarily.

After the birth of his son, Amu seemed to have a new life, and the whole person was full of strength, and the arrival of his son finally brought Amu out of the shadow of losing his daughter.

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

He was busy outside every day, but as soon as he opened the door, his son came around and babbled "Dad", Amu had never felt so happy.

Use music to soothe your wounds

In 2018, Hailai Amu released the single "Agoji Song", which became popular all over the Internet as soon as it was released. Subsequently, he released his second song, "Moon Mother", which was also well received.

Amu wrote a song to everyone around him, nostalgic, departed, and always by his side, and they all became popular without exception, not because of how good the melody was, but because of the unpretentious lyrics, which made everyone cry, and fans saw Amu's sincerity in treating the world.

In 2019, a catastrophic fire broke out in Liangshan, and 30 heroes died in the fire, and Amu wrote a song for these heroes called "He Went to Muli" as a memorial.

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

In the past few years, he has slowly been known by more people, at first he was a song celebrity who was not popular, and then everyone saw Hailai Amu's true face, and found that his face was not as vicissitudes as imagined, but very young, but his eyes were full of stories.

and the matter of his daughter Agoji's song, which is also known to more people, everyone knows why every time he listens to Hailai Amu's song, he wants to shed tears, because he is not writing a song, but himself.

Later, he created "Your Thousands of Rivers, Thousands of Mountains" and "The Man Who Ordered the Song". The song "Children of the West Building" was covered by countless people, and after Yue Yunpeng's cover version became popular all over the Internet, netizens ridiculed that Hailai Amu sang unwillingly, and Yue Yunpeng sang relief.

Actually, Amu was also relieved.

He had long since reconciled with the world, his daughter left him, and then went bankrupt and in debt, and he went into a car accident, but by now, he has learned how to repay his passion in the midst of suffering.

Hailai Amu: Lost his daughter at the age of 20, experienced debts and car accidents, and used music to soothe the pain after remarriage

Later, Amu figured out why he was still able to come out, because he had the company, understanding and support of his current wife, and his favorite music soothed his pain......

On the stage of the Spring Festival Gala in 2024, Hailai Amu is not as happy as he imagined, and he is on a bigger stage to chase his dreams, but the person he loves the most has left, which is the biggest regret in life.

People are always like this, thinking that fame and fortune are very important, and when you have fame and fortune, you find that the person you want to share the most with fame and fortune is gone.

Every time someone asks Amu to sing "Agoji Song", he is always reluctant, he still wants to hide this story deep in his heart.

Instead of telling his daughter's story to others, he prefers to tell everyone in song that we think we have nothing, but in fact we have happiness, we must cherish it and hold the hand of the person who you don't know when you will leave.

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