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There are only 0 and countless times of domestic violence......
But the truth is understood, but not everyone can leave decisively when they encounter domestic violence for the first time.
Recently, there was a video of domestic violence, which made people very angry.
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In the video, a man holding his child and committing domestic violence against his wife.
Slapping and kicking multiple times...... The child was so frightened that he cried.
It can be seen from the video that the man's strength is very large, and there is no husband and wife at all.
The woman who was beaten did not resist, but stood and was beaten by the man.
According to the information given in the news, the woman's father called the police.
But in the end, the woman proposed mediation, and the husband and wife reconciled.
Regarding this result, many netizens have said:
"This evidence is there, why do you want to reconcile, take the evidence to sue him, there are only 0 and countless times of domestic violence. ”
"Why does such a man have a wife, why is he unwilling to leave after being beaten like this. ”
"Reconciliation? I just feel sorry for the baby, and I'm scared. ”
"Playing like this in front of children, so that you can reconcile, is there no man in the world?"
"Poor child, I hope you grow up quickly and don't let your family of origin affect you. ”
"There's no way, her children are too young, and she can't work, so she can only endure it. ”
"It's so annoying to reconcile like this, such a father would rather not, maybe the child's psychology is still healthy. ”
That's right, there are only 0 and countless times of domestic violence.
Children who have witnessed domestic violence for a long time will live in the shadow of violence for the rest of their lives!
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There are only 0 and countless times of domestic violence
If you endure it again and again, you will only put yourself in danger!
There are too many bloody examples that tell us that tolerance and understanding of domestic violence is to directly hand over one's life.
In Xinyu, Jiangxi, a mother revealed that she had been subjected to domestic violence 8 times in 3 years of marriage.
She was also beaten during pregnancy.
In the most recent domestic violence, her husband came home from drinking until the early hours of the morning and woke her and her children up because of the loss of his mobile phone, and the two sides got into an argument.
Her husband pushed her down and beat her with the child, and slashed her several times with the back of a knife.
It's really scary that such a person is a partner.
Fortunately, the mother woke up after experiencing many domestic violence and has now filed for divorce.
Such partners and fathers are a mine buried beside themselves and their children, ready to explode at any time.
Leaving is saving the child's life.
In Tangshan, Hebei Province, a woman who was still breastfeeding was beaten wildly by her husband.
Kicking in the stomach, kicking the head, punching to the flesh, and making deadly moves......
The woman was beaten to the ground and desperately asked for help, but the man had no intention of stopping.
What's even more terrifying is that when the woman was beaten to the ground and collapsed, the man actually picked up a children's car and threw it at the woman's head.
This is a partner who lives together, a child born together, and a wife who is still breastfeeding, how can I do it.
The video was posted online by the woman's relatives and caused an uproar, and the man was detained.
But in the end, the man's violent act was forgiven by the woman and her relatives, and this result can be described as a mixed feeling, both mourning his misfortune and anger.
Some netizens said: The understanding of domestic violence is to leave a dead end for yourself, and blindly tolerating it is not the end of the storm, but the beginning of intensification.
That's right, repeated tolerance and forgiveness of domestic violence can really kill you.
In April 2022, a 38-year-old mother of two children in Anhui was beaten to heart arrest by her husband who had shared the same bed for 9 years.
Although her heartbeat was later restored after being resuscitated by doctors, she unfortunately passed away on the fifth day after being admitted to the ICU ward despite her injuries.
This is not the first time she has been subjected to domestic violence, but she chose to endure it for the sake of her children.
But the repeated forbearance did not exchange for the conscience of the scumbag, but intensified the violence, and finally died because of it.
All girls should remember that the moment the violence begins, the man's affection for him is gone, and all you have to do is to turn around bravely and avoid secondary injury.
Don't put up with it, just putting yourself in danger if you just tolerate it.
All the perpetrators will be repeat offenders, and they must stop the loss in time!
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For yourself, for your children
When encountering domestic violence, the last thing you shouldn't do is to bear it silently!
@人民日报 has reported a set of data:
Of the country's 270 million households, 24.7 per cent have domestic violence;
Among them, 90% of the victims of domestic violence are women, about 58 million women;
On average, a woman is beaten by her husband every 7.4 seconds;
9 out of 10 victims of domestic violence remain silent;
On average, victims suffer 35 instances of domestic violence before they dare to report to the police.
(Picture from @People's Daily)
What an unbelievable and unbelievable fact.
Why are so many people afraid to speak out?
Why do so many people choose to suffer in silence?
Some people are looking forward to the prodigal son's return, while many more are for the sake of the child, who is too young to live without a father.
Children are the weakness of every mother, and they do their best to give their children the best, so even if they feel bitter and difficult, they must grit their teeth and persevere.
But many people don't understand: it is for the sake of children that they should also be brave enough to resist violence, even if violence is put on the shell of "home", it is still violence and illegal.
The most frightening thing is that children who grow up in a domestic violence environment will not only be shrouded in fear, but will even affect their future outlook on life, values and marriage.
There is a girl on Zhihu who said this: I grew up in a domestic violence environment, which caused me to be afraid of getting married, afraid of interacting with the opposite sex, afraid of marrying someone like my father, afraid of living so tired like my mother, afraid that my children would be the same as myself, and my appearance was big but I was often tortured by those pictures beyond words.
Another girl said: I grew up in domestic violence, I am sensitive and introverted, I don't like to talk much, I don't have too many expectations and yearning for the future, and I live one day at a time.
I feel like I'm stuck in a swamp, and the more I try to resist, the more desperately I drag you down, and as soon as I want to be full of energy, that person will immediately pull you down.
I don't feel like a normal person, I probably want to live alone in this life, I have no desire for love, I go with the flow of making friends, but I am afraid of being alone.
Every night's dreams are nightmares that happen every day: my mother's crying, my brother's trembling, my weakness and incompetence.
"If I will get married in the future, I must not meet someone like "Dad", if I am unfortunate enough to meet, then I must not become a person like my mother, and I will not let my child become the next person who will cry late at night. ”
Don't expect a domestic violence man to be a gentle and good father!
Don't expect children living in violent environments to grow up happily!
Bottomless tolerance of violence is the greatest harm to yourself and your children!
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Don't compromise in the face of domestic violence
Timely stop loss is to save yourself and your children!
The pregnant mother wants to say to all girls: If you encounter violence in your relationship, you must stop the loss in time, whether it is in love, marriage, or after having children.
A man who is violent will never be a good partner, nor will he be a good father.
Don't put it back and forth, blindly tolerating it will only put yourself and your children in danger.
Mo Han, a well-known football commentator, reminded after encountering many domestic violence: I chose to forgive in the first domestic violence It was a wrong example, and since the incident, silence and tolerance have not brought any good effects and results, but have hurt my family!
Yes, silence and tolerance in the face of domestic violence will not bring any good effects and results, but will only make the damage worse each time.
Some netizens said: All domestic violence is deliberate murder!
Indeed, every year, domestic violence accounts for more than 40% of all deaths among women.
Ms. Zheng, a female entrepreneur in Wenzhou, was beaten on the head by her live-in boyfriend Yang, and died after the rescue was ineffective, when she first met, Yang did not have a stable career, but Ms. Zheng was beautiful and capable.
As many as 10 million children are potentially abused and subjected to domestic violence in China.
Behind these cold data, there are countless signals that children are calling for help!
I want to say to all women: You must remember that when the violence begins, your affection is actually gone, at least the cherishing of you is gone, what you have to do is to turn around bravely and avoid secondary injury!
All perpetrators will be repeat offenders, and they must stop their losses in time.
The abuser, in fact, has traces to follow in the long-term relationship, @人民日报 lists the characteristics of 13 potential domestic abusers, if the characteristics of domestic abusers can be identified in advance, it may help women identify the danger and avoid tragedy.
(Picture from @People's Daily)
Domestic violence is not just about punching and kicking, the following four forms are all domestic violence:
(Picture from @People's Daily)
On March 1, 2016, the "Anti-Domestic Violence Law of the People's Republic of China" came into effect, which clearly stipulates that physical violence, psychological violence, sexual violence, and economic control are all domestic violence!
In the face of domestic violence, in addition to resolutely leaving, you must also do the following to protect yourself:
●Protect yourself and get out of danger in time. If there is a conflict, do not provoke the other party, protect the head, chest, abdomen and other key parts, and if necessary, carry out appropriate maneuvers until you are out of danger.
●Examination and evidence collection. Seek medical attention in a timely manner, go to the Domestic Violence Firm Center for medical treatment, and preserve evidence such as audio recordings, videos, photos of violence, and medical records, so that every scar, every threat, and every word of abuse will become evidence in court.
●Alarm the police in time. Keep a record of the police and ask the police to call the police.
●Inform the neighborhood committee of the situation of domestic violence. Don't be misled by the notion that "domestic ugliness should not be publicized", and remember! Domestic violence is illegal.
●Call the 12338 Women's Rights Hotline. Zero tolerance for domestic violence is not just a slogan, if you are experiencing or witnessing domestic violence, you can call 110 to report to the police, or you can call the All-China Women's Federation's women's rights hotline 12338.
No matter how warm the relationship was, no matter how young the child was, no matter how much you want to maintain a complete home, you can only say no!
Everything is a family affair for the two of them, but exclusive violence is not, and domestic violence is not a family matter.
When you find yourself in a "fire pit", you must know how to stop losses in time.
Please cherish and protect yourself at all times!
Reference article: @人民日报 @封面新闻 @潇湘晨报 @猫头鹰视频