Text: Jing Ma
A mother said that her son is 4 years old, but he must touch his mother's chest before going to bed every day to fall asleep, and sometimes his mother scolds him when he is annoyed: You can't touch your mother, you have grown up, you are a boy, and your mother is a girl. The child looked at his mother with big innocent eyes, tears still hanging from the corners of his eyes, and he didn't touch it at the moment, but he couldn't fall asleep after turning around, and he couldn't sleep, so he still turned around and touched his mother's chest to fall asleep.
There are also mothers who say that their children are not weaned until they are one and a half years old, but they have to touch their breasts before they can sleep after weaning.
There is also a mother who said that the child is three years old and is ready to go to kindergarten, at first she pinched her mother's breasts, and then she didn't pinch it and didn't want him to touch it, but she cried endlessly......
Mother's breasts have a fatal attraction for the child, after all, after the child comes out of the mother's warm womb, the breast provides him with nutrients, and provides him with comfort, the child is not only taking in nutrients when drinking breast milk, but also sucking the mother's breast milk at the same time can also make him feel more secure, but also make the child feel warmer.
When the child is in need, the mother satisfies the child in time, so that the child can feel the mother's love, when the child is weaned, he still knows that the mother loves me, and naturally will not miss the mother's breasts. #头条创作挑战赛#
If the child does not get a timely response from the mother in the process of growing up, or the mother leaves the child at home as a left-behind child, or the mother is impatient when taking the child, such as taking the child while playing with the mobile phone, or the mother says to the child "I don't want you if you cry again" when the child is crying, or the mother leaves the child but does not express it to the child in time when the child is growing up, these will destroy the child's sense of security.
When the child's sense of security is insufficient, he will still be nostalgic for his mother's breasts after weaning, because he touches his mother's breasts, in fact, he is feeling his mother's body temperature, he is reminiscing about the good time when he drank breast milk, and he feels his mother's love in the process of touching his mother's breasts.
Therefore, after weaning, the child who still touches the mother's breast to fall asleep is actually an insecure child, as a mother, you must not criticize the child, but should use love to influence the child.
The child has to touch the mother's breast to sleep after weaning, and the mother can tell the child
First: Memory
Mom's breasts are actually your childhood rice bowl, in order to make you full, mom works hard to eat and drink soup every day, so that you can produce more and more nutritious milk, and feed the baby healthy.
Second: understanding
Now that the milk in it has been eaten up by the baby, the baby has grown into a big baby who can eat, and now you don't need this job bowl of mom anymore, because you can eat more food, but you will still miss it, right?
Many children touch their breasts in fact, they miss that good time, and the mother points out the child's thoughts, so that the child can feel that the mother understands me.
Third: Love children
Mom also misses the time when you were lying in your mother's arms to breastfeed, when Mom felt very happy, although Mom no longer feeds you now, but you will always be Mom's baby, Mom will always love you......
We usually not only respond to the child in action, but also understand the child in language, so that the child can feel the mother's love, when the child can feel the mother's love, then these external unsafe behaviors of touching the breast will be greatly reduced.
Fourth: Make a farewell ceremony
Now my mother's breasts can no longer be used as your rice bowl, she is a part of my mother's body, now let's say goodbye to your rice bowl: goodbye to my rice bowl, I have grown up, I don't need to eat you anymore, and my relationship with my mother will never change.
At this time, the mother can give the child a small doll, the child is actually comforted when holding the doll, and in daily life the mother should also accompany the child more, when the child can feel that the mother really loves himself, naturally he will not always touch the mother's breast before sleeping.
A child's sense of security is a big thing, and the things about the sense of security are some very small things, and giving the child a sense of security can make the child confident and bold and grow up healthily.
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