The more incompetent parents are, the more they like to do these things at home, but they don't know that it will ruin their children's future
It is said that parents are the best teachers for children, and this is indeed the case, the main reason for this situation is that children have lived with their parents since they were young, and their parents' words and behaviors will have an impact on their children imperceptibly. If you want your children to have a better development in the future, you must instill in them the correct three views and education methods. But not all parents are fully considerate of their children.
Some parents will blame all the problems on their children, thinking that their children are too ignorant. Children born into such families are undoubtedly sad, although they can feel the dedication of their parents, but their lives can be very depressing. Living in this environment for a long time will limit the future development of children. The study found that the more incompetent parents are, the more they like to do these things at home, and these things can ruin their children's future.
Emotional instability.
I believe that many people have this feeling, obviously they are very stable when they are in contact with friends outside, but as soon as they go home, they can't help but want to get angry. It's obviously just a trivial matter, and it's over with a simple communication, but sometimes I really can't control myself, as if only quarrels can solve the problem. After the quarrel, many people will regret it, and even reflect on themselves, was it a bit too much just now?
In fact, this is just a subconscious behavior of people, sometimes it is not that we are too sensitive, but because our parents have treated us like this since childhood, so under the influence of our parents, we have also learned to solve problems by quarrelling. Subconsciously, I think that as long as there is a problem, no matter how big or small, only a quarrel can be properly resolved. Therefore, if parents want their children to have a stable mood, they must control their emotions first.
Extremely controlling.
Some parents have a strong desire to control, and they want their children to live under their own control every day, and no matter what their children do and who they play with, they need to get their parents' consent. In this regard, they also praise it: It is good for the child, but will the child really be grateful to his parents? Is this kind of lifestyle really what the child wants? I think and know that it is impossible, although the child is relatively young, he is also an independent individual, with his own thoughts and life circles.
If parents forcibly control their children, they may become reticent and even depressed. In their eyes, the love of their parents is like a shackle, locking them firmly in a limited space, making them unable to move, and even basic freedom. Even if the child wants to resist, he will be suppressed by his parents, and some parents will even cry about their injustice, so that the child will compromise. As everyone knows, this kind of education is likely to make children form a paranoid personality and even infect the next generation.
When encountering problems, turn over old accounts.
Many parents will habitually turn over old accounts when communicating with their children, even if it is some things about old sesame seeds and rotten grains, they will be turned out and told over and over again. In fact, this way is easy to cause people to get bored, all say, people are not sages, who can be infallible, I believe that no one dares to say that they have never made a mistake, but the mistake is in the past, there is no need to keep mentioning it, if parents often hold on to it, it may put a heavy burden and shackles on the children's back.