Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
George Sand said, "Siblings in a family are the closest friends, the most true confidants. ”
The family affection in this world, like light, can always illuminate your world when you are in darkness, make you feel warm, and find the way ahead.
When they were young, siblings grew up together, and when they were with each other, they felt that home was the warmest and most interesting.
As they grow older, they have careers and families, and they face separation. The friendship of the past is buried in the heart.
Some siblings will be very close to you, while others will keep distancing themselves from you.
Most of the reasons why your siblings suddenly alienate you and do not associate with you are the following.
02. One party has a bad character, and the other party does not want to connive
In my hometown town, there is such a pair of brothers:
The eldest is very good at reading, and from elementary school to university, and then to graduation, he has gone smoothly all the way. The second child, naughty, didn't like to read since he was a child, and liked to take shortcuts.
As an adult, the eldest has also helped the second child many times, hoping that he can find a stable job to support himself.
However, the old two have bad character, have no bottom line in doing things, and often get into trouble outside. He always felt that his brother would not ignore him, and his parents would not ignore him.
Once, the second child was outside because of a hundred yuan and sent someone else to the hospital.
After the boss helped him for the last time, he became estranged from him. Since then, the second child has to rely on himself to find a job and get rid of his bad habits.
Siblings are estranged from you, and the problem may be your own.
Perhaps, it is because you have too many shortcomings, maybe you have a problem with your character, or maybe it is because you are too selfish and he does not want to continue to pamper you.
Because, the more indulgent, the more it hurts you.
Voltaire said, "The love between brothers and sisters is the most real and profound emotion in life." ”
Isn't it a well-intentioned thing for your brothers and sisters to stay away from you?
Perhaps, in the days of separation from you, he will also be sad, guilty, and sad. However, he really wants you to be aware of your problems and to grow up.
After all, the road ahead requires you to walk on your own.
03. The parents are eccentric, and the family relationship between each other is destroyed
The way parents treat their children can actually affect the relationship between their children.
Just like in "It's All Good", as soon as Su Mingyu and Su Mingcheng meet, they will quarrel.
Su Mingyu, because she is a girl, is not liked by her mother. Her parents' patriarchal mentality made her feel neglected at home.
And Su Mingcheng knows how to make his parents happy. In just a few words, you can get praise from your parents, and you can get the money you want from your mother.
At a young age, Su Mingyu went out to make money and decided to stay away from his parents and his two elder brothers.
After becoming an adult, she had a good career, but whenever she saw Su Mingcheng, she would fight with him and quarrel with him.
The partiality of his parents has left a scar in Su Mingyu's heart.
Su Mingcheng was proud of being loved by his parents, and often quarreled with Su Mingyu, so that the family relationship between them was destroyed.
I have seen such a sentence: "Eccentricity is like the sun, it chooses one direction and plunges the other into darkness." ”
How parents treat their children determines the relationship between them.
If parents treat each child the same and strive to maintain a relationship between them, then the family relationship is often not bad.
If parents are partial, children will quarrel and fight with each other because of the competition for their parents' resources.
The love of parents is also a resource.
04. Summary
Brothers and sisters are the closest people in the world, and they will always be the closest family.
Napoleon said: "Your brother is not strong, but he will always stand behind you." ”
Never, don't fall out of harmony for the sake of profit, don't calculate, don't quarrel. When encountering any problems, we will patiently communicate and solve them.
In the future, when the wind and rain come, we can support each other and walk together, and family affection is each other's greatest confidence.
To be kind to your brothers and sisters is to be kind to yourself.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.