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From a psychological point of view, showing off is one of the human natures.
In the early stages of human society, people tended to show themselves in order to attract the attention of the opposite sex and increase the chances of mate choice.
At the same time, as social animals, people live in groups, and competition and comparison are inevitable.
In this context, some people will choose to show off in order to satisfy their vanity.
In addition, Alfred Adler, a well-known psychologist, once pointed out that
Any behavior that is above others actually hides a kind of inferiority.
This means that those who frequently show off themselves may have an extreme lack of self-confidence inside.
They may never really be recognized or appreciated by others, so they choose to seek the attention and approval of others by showing off.
On the other hand, these people are usually poorer in their spiritual world, and they make up for the emptiness of their hearts by showing off.
Therefore, a smart woman never shows off these two things outside, but a confused woman talks about it whenever she meets someone.
1. Show off your privileged life
For example, you may have heard that this is a group that is popular on social media.
These people are different from traditional influencers who show off luxury living, often living in remote rural areas in harsh conditions.
Typical images of their videos include heavy farm work, dirty children, chaotic home environments, and husbands who are not very helpful.
In the comments section of these videos, opinions tend to be polarized.
Some tried to persuade the women to change the situation, while others expressed disdain in sarcastic language.
In the latter, some women even upload pictures of their comfortable lives as comments.
For example
A comment may be accompanied by a picture of a beautifully decorated cot with the caption: "Thank you to my parents. Another comment might show a photo of a steak at a Western restaurant, with the caption: "Leave her alone, eat steak tonight." Some people will post the large amount of pocket money that their husbands transferred to them to show their economic advantages.
The ostensible intention of these comments seems to be to hope that the members of the Bitter Melon Brigade will get out of their predicament as soon as possible, but in fact they are showing off their own lives and using the plight of others as a tool to show off.
They use the misfortunes of others to show their superiority, but they never really sympathize with each other's situation.
True self-confidence comes from within and does not need external recognition. Their inner strength sustains them through difficult times, and this strength is not given from the outside, but comes from their own fullness and abundance.
In general, it is often said that a person will show off what he lacks.
Those who flaunt their lives may actually be exposing their inner deficiencies and insecurity.
True self-confidence doesn't validate one's worth by showing off, but it manifests itself naturally.
Such women understand that showing off does not bring true satisfaction, and that true happiness and self-confidence come from accepting and cherishing their true life.
It is deeply disturbing that some people use the plight of others as a tool to show off their personal lives.
Although they live in a privileged environment, they are extremely poor in heart.
This inner emptiness leads them to seek satisfaction through comparison and ostentation.
However, these people are actually quite pathetic, as their emotions are completely influenced by the outside world and cannot experience true happiness.
Second, the man who shows off himself
In terms of showing off men, there was a "hand-in-hand" incident in Chengdu last year, which caused widespread attention on the Internet.
The video shows a leader of a state-owned enterprise holding hands with his subordinate Dong Moumou in Taikoo Li, Chengdu.
Dong Moumou showed great confidence in front of the camera, she generously showed off her beauty, showing the men around her with a victorious attitude.
As soon as the videos and photos were uploaded, the private lives and backgrounds of the two men were quickly made public, and they also paid the price for their actions.
Writer Shui Muding once analyzed on Weibo that Dong Moumou's expression seemed to be
"Showing off with a man, as if showing off the spoils of your winnings to a specific woman, or to all women."
This kind of flaunting of men is essentially a kind of competition between women, that is, the embodiment of female competition.
In ancient feudal societies, women had a lower status, and they often needed to compete to win the favor of men or the resources provided by men.
The palace fighting dramas we often see now are the embodiment of this situation. Dozens of women surround a man whose fate and emotions are entirely in the hands of this man.
When they are hurt, their first reaction is often not to blame the man, but to resent other women who have had the same fate.
This phenomenon is female competition.
Even in modern times, there are still many women who take pride in showing off their male partners.
They are happy to show others how good their partner is, how considerate they are, and how much pocket money they give themselves each month.
Only in this way can they feel fulfilled and secure.
This may seem enviable, but it is actually very sad.
A woman's worth should never depend on what kind of male affection she can attract, or how much money a man spends for her, let alone how many other women she beats.
A woman's true value should come from herself.
Therefore, a truly sensible woman would never show off her man to others.
They understand that no matter how good their partner is, no matter how good they are, no matter how good they are, they are not the capital to show off.
In contrast, they are more concerned about their own growth -
Showing off a man is actually a manifestation of a woman's objectification of herself.
Women who behave in this way are very sad because their values are always tied to men and can never get rid of their dependence on men.
Women who are truly fulfilled at heart never flaunt their lives to the outside world.
They are well aware that no one can define their worth, and that their self-confidence comes from their inner strength.
This is the era of feminism's rise, but also the era of advocacy.
The relationship between women should be one of mutual appreciation and help, not competition.
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