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Li Fang opened the door and saw her mother-in-law standing at the door, holding a large bag of things in her hand. "Mother-in-law, why are you here?" Li Fang asked in surprise. "I heard that you had a second child, and I came to help take care of you and the children. The mother-in-law said with a smile.
Li Fang's heart has mixed tastes. On the one hand, she is grateful for her mother-in-law's kindness, after all, it is not easy to bring two children. But on the other hand, she is also worried that her mother-in-law will interfere with her lifestyle, and there may be disagreements about the child's educational philosophy. However, it is not appropriate to refuse her kindness now, so I can only welcome her first.
"Come in!" Li Fang hurriedly got out of the way, and her mother-in-law stepped on her slippers and walked in. She looked at Li Fang's house, and the corners of her mouth rose slightly. Li Fang saw a flash of approval in her eyes, but quickly regained her calm expression. The mother-in-law put the big bag on the ground and took out some milk powder, cloth and toys from it, saying that these were for her grandchildren. Li Fang nodded again and again to express her gratitude.
To be honest, Li Fang is a little unaccustomed to her mother-in-law's style. She felt that her mother-in-law was interfering too much in their lives. Although her mother-in-law had good intentions, Li Fang still hoped to keep some of her own way of life. However, she didn't want to have a direct conflict with her mother-in-law, so she had to endure it for the time being. After all, the mother-in-law is also there to help them.
The mother-in-law's movements are very neat, and she cleans up the house with three strokes and five divisions. She wiped down the rafters and sorted the children's toys into categories. Occasionally, she would crouch down, dip her fingers on the floor, and nod in satisfaction. Li Fang looked at her busy figure and sighed secretly in her heart. Although her mother-in-law is very quick in doing things, Li Fang always feels that she takes their lives too seriously.
In the afternoon of the same day, Xiaohong's family came to Li Fang's house in a hurry. The mother-in-law was busy working in the kitchen, and she was surprised to see them: "Why are there so many people?"
"Yo, my mother-in-law is too!" Xiaohong greeted with a grin, "We're here to pay New Year's greetings to my sister-in-law and nephew." "
"Oh, that's going to have to be a treat. The mother-in-law nodded, and said to Li Fang, "Quickly let them in, I'll go and prepare some delicious food." "
The mother-in-law quickly brought out a large table of dishes from the kitchen, and the aroma was tangy. She laid out the dishes one by one, and let Xiaohong and them into the dining room. While the mother-in-law was busy, she kept smiling and greeting them. Li Fang looked at her smiling eyes, and suddenly felt that her mother-in-law's smile didn't seem to be as offensive as she imagined. Perhaps, there are only some generation gaps and conceptual differences between them, and they are not irreconcilable.
During the banquet, the mother-in-law kept giving Xiaohong vegetables, and Xiaohong couldn't eat it anymore, so she had to beg for mercy: "Mother-in-law, I really can't eat it, you can also share some with your sister-in-law and little nephew." "
"Ouch, you're all young people, of course you need to eat more. The mother-in-law said, and sandwiched a large piece of meat for Xiaohong.
Li Fang couldn't stand it anymore, and hurriedly spoke: "Mother-in-law, the children are still young, so they can't eat so much." "
"Why can't you eat? If you eat well and grow taller, you will be able to get into a good university in the future." The mother-in-law said as a matter of course.
Li Fang was secretly glad that her sister helped her out of the siege. Although the mother-in-law has good intentions, her concept is too old. If you educate your children in her way, then it is better not to educate them! Li Fang knows that her mother-in-law is caring for her grandchildren, but some of her deep-rooted concepts may not be completely agreed with by young people. Li Fang suddenly realized that although her mother-in-law was very good to them, they might not be able to fully accept some of her stubborn concepts.
Just when the atmosphere was a little tense, Li Fang's husband Xiao Zhang played a round at the right time: "Mother-in-law, of course your education method back then was very good, otherwise you would not have cultivated an excellent daughter-in-law like Fangfang." However, society is changing, and we have to keep up with the times. "
The mother-in-law was coaxed by Xiao Zhang's praise and said, "That's that, my daughter-in-law here is obedient and worry-free." "
Xiaohong understood, and continued: "Yes, mother-in-law, you see how diligent Fangfang is in housework now, and she will definitely be very careful in educating her children in the future." "
The mother-in-law was praised by the family, and the anger on her face gradually dissipated. Seeing this, Li Fang also breathed a sigh of relief in her heart. She knew that her mother-in-law had a stubborn temper, and if she was directly stubborn, it would only make the two parties fall into a more tense situation. In contrast, perhaps in a more sleek way, the mother-in-law will be touched. Li Fang secretly made up her mind that she would learn more about how to get along with her mother-in-law in the future.
The mother-in-law was flattered by the family and smiled, nodding her head again and again. She patted the back of Xiaohong's hand, and her tone softened a lot: "You young people are still quite insightful." But don't be sloppy about educating your children, you have to ask me, who has been a mother all my life, for advice. As she spoke, she sandwiched another dish for Xiaohong. Xiaohong smiled and ate the dishes, and praised her mother-in-law's craftsmanship. The family looked at each other and smiled, and the atmosphere finally eased.
After dinner, the family began to chat. The mother-in-law saw that Xiaohong's son was very clever, so she pulled the little guy and asked questions.
"Little one, how old are you?
"I'm 5 years old, and I'm in a small class. The little one said with a grin.
Li Fang said, suddenly realizing that she seemed to be pointing fingers at her mother-in-law's education philosophy again. Although the mother-in-law has a somewhat outdated concept, she is always well-intentioned. And my mother-in-law's generation attaches so much importance to academic performance. Li Fang couldn't help but start to reflect on whether she had been too arbitrary in denying her mother-in-law's approach before.
Li Fang suddenly realized that although her mother-in-law's concept was a little outdated, her original intentions were all good, and she hoped that her children would live a better life in the future. And their generation of young people, although there have been new changes in the concept of education, they cannot completely negate the practices of the previous generation. It is important to learn from each other's strengths and weaknesses, to preserve the good side of tradition, but also to keep up with the times and learn to embrace new educational concepts. Li Fang secretly decided that she must treat her mother-in-law more tolerantly in the future and try to understand her good intentions.
Li Fang watched her mother-in-law look at her little nephew with expectation, her eyes full of love. She realized that her mother-in-law's love for the children was so simple and persistent. As younger generations, they should learn to appreciate and tolerate this kind of love from the previous generation, rather than simply denying it. Li Fang gave her mother-in-law a reassuring look, and then said warmly: "Mother-in-law is very reasonable, of course learning is very important. But we also need to develop children holistically and develop hobbies so that they will be better in whatever they do in the future. "
The mother-in-law listened to Li Fang's words, pondered for a moment, nodded and said, "You young people are also reasonable. Back then, we just focused too much on grades and neglected other aspects of our children. However, don't you teach the baby to be too squeamish, and you won't have to work your own in the future?"
Xiaohong smiled and said, "Mother-in-law, don't worry, we naturally know that we have to make the child suffer a little." However, we hope that they can grow up healthy and happy, and that they will be able to do their best in whatever they do in the future. "
When the mother-in-law heard this, a relieved smile appeared on her face: "That's good, that's good." You young people are indeed much more enlightened than we are. But I may not be able to change my old bones, and you will have to bear with me in the future. "
Li Fang listened to her mother-in-law's words, and her heart was full of mixed feelings. She realized that her mother-in-law was not completely complacent, she was just afraid that the change would be too fast and difficult to adapt. And these young people are often prone to arbitrarily deny the practices of their elders. In fact, each generation has its own unique values, and the key is to be inclusive and learn from each other's strengths. In this exchange, Li Fang finally let go of her prejudice against her mother-in-law and began to truly understand and respect this elder who had accompanied her to grow up.
Li Fang looked at her mother-in-law, her eyes full of warmth. She stretched out her hand, patted the back of her mother-in-law's hand gently, and said sincerely, "Mother-in-law, we all understand your kindness. You can rest assured that we will respect your educational philosophy and learn from your life experience. If there are any differences, we will definitely communicate more and be more tolerant. "
The mother-in-law pinched her son's little face dotingly and said, "Okay, mother-in-law will get it for you." As he spoke, he got up.
Li Fang hurriedly pressed her mother-in-law and said, "Mother-in-law, just sit down and rest, I'll get him milk." "
The mother-in-law hesitated, and finally nodded: "Okay, you young people are still more energetic." I'm going to keep you company with these two little guys. "
Watching her mother-in-law doting and teasing her two grandchildren, Li Fang's heart was full of warmth. She realized that although her mother-in-law had a stubborn temper, she was motivated by good intentions. And their young people should not be careful about the actions of their elders, but should learn to appreciate the good intentions of their elders. Li Fang secretly decided that she must be patient and tolerate her mother-in-law, and strive to understand her kindness, instead of resting on her own ideas. Only by understanding and appreciating each other can the family be harmonious and happy.
Li Fang returned to the living room with the milk and saw that her mother-in-law had already held her two grandchildren in her arms, and kept talking about the scoundrel's childhood. The two grandchildren giggled at their mother-in-law's spit. The family is happy and the whole living room is filled with a warm atmosphere.
Li Fang looked at this warm scene and felt a lot of emotion in her heart. She realized that every family will have generation gaps and differences, but as long as they understand and tolerate each other, they will be able to resolve differences and create a harmonious family atmosphere. She silently made up her mind in her heart that no matter what differences she encountered in the future, she would be patient and tolerant, work hard to communicate, and resolve all misunderstandings with love and understanding.
Early the next morning, Li Fang woke up to find that her mother-in-law was already busy in the kitchen. She walked over and found her mother-in-law chopping vegetables for breakfast.
"Mother-in-law, why did you get up so early to cook? Li Fang hurriedly said.
"Ouch, I'm used to it, so you young people should sleep more. The mother-in-law said without looking back.
"Well, just sit and rest, I'll do it. Li Fang said that she was about to take the kitchen knife from her mother-in-law's hand.
The mother-in-law held the kitchen knife tightly and didn't let go, muttering: "Doing housework is my job, so you don't have to worry about it." "
Seeing this, Li Fang had no choice but to give up. She sat on the sidelines and watched her mother-in-law busy, but she was thinking about whether she should communicate with her mother-in-law again.
Li Fang knows that her mother-in-law's stubborn temper is out of a sense of responsibility for family management. She was afraid that once she slackened, the whole family would be a mess. But Li Fang also realized that their young people should share more housework, rather than putting all the burden on her mother-in-law alone. But how can she explain this to her mother-in-law? She doesn't want to directly dismiss her mother-in-law's approach as she did before, but hopes to make her own mother-in-law realize that she needs to change more subtly.
At this moment, Li Fang's husband Xiao Zhang also got up. He saw his mother-in-law's busy figure, and hurriedly walked over and said, "Mother-in-law, you just let Fangfang and them do the housework, don't force yourself too much." "
The mother-in-law didn't raise her head and said, "Ouch, what's the reluctance to do some housework? "
Li Fang looked at her mother-in-law's still busy figure, thinking about how to speak. At this moment, the mother-in-law suddenly put down the kitchen knife in her hand, sighed and said, "You young people are just too polite. That's all I have for this old bone, and it's not reluctant to do some housework. "
Li Fang saw that the opportunity could not be missed, and hurriedly said, "Mother-in-law, don't say that. We all know you have good intentions, but you can't always do that. Just rest more, with our young people in the house, you don't have to worry too much. "
The mother-in-law glanced at Li Fang, and after a moment of silence, she said, "Okay, I'll listen to you this time." But you'll have to reassure me. "
Li Fang saw that her mother-in-law was finally relieved, and her heart suddenly relaxed a lot. She realized that although her mother-in-law was stubborn, as long as she communicated with her in the right way, she would still listen to the opinions of young people with an open mind. The key is to get her to change her mind in a more tactful and patient way, rather than arbitrarily dismissing her outright. Li Fang secretly determined that she would treat her mother-in-law with more love and patience, strive to understand her thoughts, communicate patiently, and tolerate each other.
Li Fang stepped forward, gently took the kitchen knife from her mother-in-law's hand, and said, "Mother-in-law, don't worry, we will take care of the affairs at home." Rest back and enjoy your family. "
The mother-in-law looked at Li Fang's sincere eyes and finally nodded. She sat aside and watched Li Fang and Xiao Zhang busy in the kitchen. Occasionally, she would interject a few words, but her tone was much softer.
The family spent the morning happily. Near noon, my mother-in-law suddenly said, "You young people are quite quick at doing housework, it seems that I can rest assured." I'll listen to you in the future, and my old man will enjoy the joy of family. "
This seems to be a small thing, but it has benefited Li Fang a lot. She realized that every family will inevitably have differences due to generation gaps and different concepts. But the key is to resolve these differences with love, patience, and wisdom, rather than resting on your laurels.
While elders certainly have some deep-rooted beliefs that deserve respect, young people should also treat their elders with a more tolerant and understanding attitude. At the same time, young people should also humbly learn from the life experience of their elders and the way of behaving in the world, rather than arbitrarily denying the ideas of their elders.
Only by understanding and tolerating each other, and resolving differences with love and wisdom, can a harmonious family create a happy and warm atmosphere for a long time. Just like Li Fang's family finally did, everyone put aside their preconceptions and reached a consensus with patience and wisdom, thus creating a happy family.
This spirit of mutual understanding and tolerance applies not only to the family, but also to the development of society. Only by resolving differences with love and wisdom can the whole society move forward in harmony and stability. Li Fang realized this from this small incident, and also strengthened her determination to treat all people and things around her with love and wisdom.