Everyone cannot escape the two normalities of life, namely birth, old age, sickness and death. No matter how deep the affection is, you will eventually face the cruel reality that a person will leave first. It's hard to accept, but we have to face the reality and not run away from it.
Some older people actively look for a new partner to marry after losing their partner, while others choose to spend the rest of their lives alone. The former is mostly due to the fear of loneliness, while the latter shows true wisdom for life.
There was a time when I volunteered to visit the elderly in a nursing home and got to know a lot of different kinds of seniors.
I have found that those old people who live well usually have a common characteristic: they have an independent sense of personality, and their thoughts are always independent and mature regardless of their material living standards.
When a person lives more self-consciously, his ability to control his life also increases. His life will also be more relaxed.
Among them, Aunt Chen, who I admire the most, is 65 years old, she said:
"It's been two years since my wife passed away, and I just want to live alone in the days to come. Don't think about finding a wife again, don't make trouble for your children, and live your own life while your body is still strong. ”
Aunt Chen believes that she has always worked hard to live for others, and she has never really belonged to herself for half her life. Now that she was getting older, she decided to start thinking about herself.
I think the old man was a very wise person who taught us some important things. If our lover leaves first, we must face many trivial things in life soberly and not act recklessly. These experiences are very precious and we should cherish and learn.
We should take care of ourselves seriously and live the rest of our lives to the fullest.
One: Don't just make do with finding an old wife because you're afraid of being lonely
Many people are accustomed to the days of two people together, and when one of their old spouses dies suddenly, they will feel very uncomfortable. You may be able to get by during the day, but at night you will experience extreme loneliness.
Some people will think about finding a random one to make do with because they are lonely, but this behavior is obviously unwise. If two inappropriate people are together, they will only torture each other, and it is better to live alone. We should cherish ourselves more and trust that fate will bring us the right partner. Whether we are facing loneliness or challenges, we should stick to our inner beliefs and enjoy our own unique life.
Loneliness is not as scary as we think at first. Doesn't we spend our whole lives learning how to live with loneliness?
On the road of life, no one can always accompany us, only we can always be by our side. Get used to being alone and learn to enrich your heart in order to live a life of abundance. This is a life challenge for everyone, and it is also a difficult problem that we must face and overcome. We can only live our best lives when we begin to take care of ourselves, respect ourselves, and care for ourselves.
Rather than finding someone to make do, I encourage you to develop your own hobbies. If you find something you love, your life will be more fulfilling and your expectations will increase. Here's a better option I suggest.
2. Don't give all your savings to your children, and know how to think about yourself in everything
Many Chinese parents spend their lives fighting for their children, and even when they are old, they will give them all their savings as long as their children have needs. But is this practice really good for them?
Once people get used to relying on others for what they give, they lose the motivation to fight for themselves.
To give all our savings to others is to give up our own retreat. This kind of behavior is actually a sign of irresponsibility, so we need to think carefully.
In fact, most seniors in nursing homes choose to move in on their own initiative, making their own decisions to leave their children and move into a nursing home. Compared to other older people, they tend to have a colder attitude towards their children.
Aunt Liao is a very typical example of being able to be an inspiration and a role model.
She has a son and a daughter, both of whom live in the same city, and she is in good personal health and does not need to be cared for. Although she was perfectly comfortable with her home, she actively asked to live in a nursing home instead of living with her children.
Aunt Liao is very free-spirited: "I don't have to serve my wife, I don't have to help my children take care of the children, I don't know how happy I am when I live alone." ”
Many seniors love their children so much that they have dedicated their lives to them, even in their old age, they want to help their children. However, not all older people have this desire.
They think that they have worked hard all their lives, fulfilled their responsibilities as parents, and now is their own old age, and they should live for themselves. They need to enjoy life and pursue their dreams and hobbies without just sacrificing themselves to take care of others. They should enjoy life with confidence, live for themselves, and make their old age as meaningful and fulfilling as possible.
These elders have a strong sense of self-personality, and their lives are no longer dependent on their children, but belong to themselves. They have the ability to think independently, manage social relationships on their own, enjoy personal hobbies, and pursue their goals. These changes have made their lives more fulfilling and interesting, and they deserve our respect.
As the years go by, children are no longer the whole of their lives. They enjoy a free life and pursue self-worth. This unrestrained attitude to life is desirable.
We are all going to get old, and this is the way we go through life, and we shouldn't be afraid of it. Old age is not something to be feared.
Every day you hate is the result of your squandering yesterday. How to live the best life, the steering wheel is always in your hands. Make good use of your time and resources to make tomorrow a better place.
We should be prepared at a young age so that we don't regret the impermanence of the day.