On a sunny weekend afternoon, I went to a small café on the outskirts of town to talk to a friend about a recent family dispute. My friend was a kind middle-aged woman with a hint of worry and helplessness in her eyes.
Her story began not long ago, when her daughter was about to enter a new stage of her life, and her wedding date was scheduled for the 16th of next month. Unexpected contradictions crept in, making this grand wedding full of uncertainty.
"You know what," she took a deep breath, "this wedding was supposed to be a long-awaited event for our family, but it has become a bit confusing lately. She gently stirred the coffee cup, her expression revealing a hint of helplessness.
I listened, expecting to hear more details.
"It all started with the old style of three golds. She continued. It turned out that the three golds sent by the prospective son-in-law's family were old styles that had been purchased in advance more than 20 years ago, and her daughter was very dissatisfied with this. She believes that marriage is a big event and should have a sense of ceremony, and this old-fashioned three golds obviously cannot meet her expectations.
"I understand my daughter, who wants a perfect wedding, both with a sense of ceremony and material satisfaction. My friend said, her eyes shining with understanding and support for her daughter.
The man disagreed, thinking that the three golds of this old style were enough, and there was no need to pursue more.
"We are all ordinary people, how can we have so much sense of ceremony. The attitude of the prospective son-in-law was a bit tough.
"But marriage is a big deal, and my daughter has the right to choose according to her own preferences and wishes. My friend defended her daughter.
"That's your problem, you're picky about everything, trying to spend more money in every possible way. The son-in-law looked a little impatient.
My friend's brow furrowed, "We all wanted to make the wedding perfect, but this disharmony complicates everything. ”
I pondered in silence that this seemingly simple dispute involved deeper issues such as the concept of marriage, family responsibilities, and cultural identity. More communication and understanding is needed to find a solution.
My friend continued: "I understand my daughter, who wants this wedding to be a wonderful memory in her life, hoping to find a sense of belonging and happiness in a new stage of life. Her tone was full of anticipation and concern for her daughter.
"I think a wedding is not just a matter of two people, it's a union of two families. Everyone's expectations and understanding of a wedding are different, but the most important thing is to be able to respect each other's choices and opinions. "I tried to give some rational advice.
She smiled bitterly, "Yes, weddings are family events, but why aren't we ordinary people? ”
"Maybe we can find a compromise that is acceptable to both parties through communication. I proposed.
She nodded, "Maybe I should have a good talk with my son-in-law again, so that he can understand our thoughts and listen to his thoughts." ”
"Yes, communication is the key to resolving conflicts. "I support it.
Our conversation faded away, but I am confident that through rational communication and mutual understanding, they will be able to find a balance in their wedding and make this grand celebration a beautiful memory for their family.