A ray of light in the midst of family woes
In the hustle and bustle of the city, home education is like a small boat sailing in a rough sea, sometimes steady, sometimes bumpy. The adolescent son is like an elusive puzzle, and his rebellion and school boredom have become unavoidable problems in the family. The intimacy and harmony of the past seemed to disappear overnight, and I felt extremely lost as a father. Until that turning point – when I started treating him as a "stranger".
The estrangement between the Father and the Son
My son, Xiao Ming, was the one who was happy to share interesting stories about school. But as he entered puberty, he became more and more silent and our communication with each other gradually decreased. I found myself constantly asking, "What's wrong, why don't you speak?", and Ming always responds with a silent or short answer. Our parent-child relationship seemed to be at an impasse, and no matter how much I tried to get closer to each other, it turned out to be in vain.
Revelations of role reversal
After countless failures, I began to reflect on my approach to education. Maybe it was my "I know what you need" attitude that suffocated him. I decided to take a step back and stop forcibly interfering in his life as a father, but to give him space and get to know him with my heart as if I were a new friend. This simple change is like opening the door to a new world.
A bridge between listening and dialogue
As I changed the way I interacted with my son, our communication began to take a new turn. Instead of giving orders, I asked questions and let Ming think and express his opinion. Together, we discuss a variety of topics, from pop music to future career plans. Through these conversations, I gradually discovered that his inner world was much richer than I had imagined.
Ignite the spark of curiosity
Respecting Xiao Ming's personal choices and interests, I noticed that his attitude towards learning began to change. He no longer resisted book knowledge, but began to actively explore his field of interest. I encouraged him to pursue his hobbies, while also guiding him to understand the importance of learning. This intrinsic drive is more enduring and effective than the motivation he once had to study for grades.
Significant changes are emerging
It wasn't long before positive changes began to emerge. Xiao Ming's behavior has become more mature and self-disciplined, his grades have steadily improved, and he has even begun to participate in extracurricular activities and community service. His teachers and classmates noticed the change and gave positive feedback. The atmosphere in our home has become relaxed and pleasant as a result, and the tension and quarrels of those days seem to be a thing of the past.
Father vs. Son Redefined
This experience completely changed my perception of education. I began to realize that as a father, I was not only his guardian, but also his guide and companion. Treating Xiao Ming as a "stranger" is not to give up on care, but to understand and support at a deeper level. This kind of education not only helped him overcome the problems of rebellion and aversion to school, but also helped us to build a stronger and more harmonious father-son relationship.
The way of education is another village
In the face of the challenges of homeschooling, we need to have the courage to experiment and change. The concept of education that treats children as individuals and respects their ideas and choices may bring us unexpected surprises. When we are willing to let go of our preconceptions and treat our children with an open heart, we can build a strong bridge between each other's hearts. This bridge will lead us to a brighter future.
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