Although everyone is saying that "there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure", the reality will not be as beautiful as people say. For some families, the elderly have become a burden.
This is not because of the coldness of human nature, but the behavior of some elderly people is simply torture for their families.
Some time ago, I had nothing to do to swipe my mobile phone, and when I saw such a video, the ninety-year-old man didn't sleep in the middle of the night and bowed down to his son's bedroom. The picture in the surveillance is weird and infuriating.
Although most people have removed the idea of feudal superstition. But unlucky things will eventually make people feel guilty. Even if you are a blood relative, there are some actions and words that cannot be easily spoken.
People always live very naïve when they are young, thinking that all relationships will remain the same, and all love will be the same as before.
As I grew older, I slowly discovered that many feelings were just wishful thinking, and that the emotion or pain depended on my own emotions.
Sober people will not reject the experience of their predecessors, as the old saying goes, "there is an old man in the family, if there is a treasure", and the old saying also says that "the old man lives long and his children and grandchildren". The same old man, but with different attributes. Some of the counsel is not pleasant, but it is the result of wisdom.
The older you get, the more you need to be taken care of
With the passage of time, people's bodily functions will gradually decline, which is an irresistible natural law.
For most families, the financial situation is mediocre. Once there is an elderly person in the family who is bedridden, it will bring a huge burden to all family members.
We have to admit that old age is a stage of high incidence of diseases, and the deterioration of physical functions makes the elderly more susceptible to diseases.
At this time, taking care of the elderly has become a heavy physical task for the family.
The elderly need to be cared for carefully, and long-term care can pose a huge psychological challenge to the family members who care for the elderly. If the family members who take care of the elderly are not recognized by other family members, family conflicts will arise over time.
However, human nature is selfish, and in most families there is a situation where "the more you do, the more you are wrong", which is why people say the saying "the old man lives long and the children and grandchildren".
The more stubborn people are, the more confused they are
As we age, the cognitive function of the human brain gradually deteriorates. As a result, many elderly people will experience symptoms of memory loss and disorganized thinking.
At the same time, those who are confused with their minds can also feel anxiety and fear. What is manifested in this is stubbornness and willfulness.
Normally, once the elderly are confused, they will make wrong decisions, and if this is combined with a stubborn personality, it will often bring great trouble to their children.
As we all know, stubborn people are not easy to communicate, they not only have no self-awareness, but also inexplicably self-confidence, they can neither hear nor accept the opinions of others, but they want to interfere with the choices of others.
The so-called descendants of Ke are just a general statement, which wants to express the result of mutual internal friction between family members who do not agree with each other and are unwilling to communicate and negotiate.
The more stubborn people are, the more difficult it is to communicate, and the more difficult it is to communicate, the greater the internal friction.
Sickness in old age is torture
For any family, illness is like a dark cloud that hangs over all family members.
In particular, the serious illness of the elderly in the family in their later years is a huge torture for all family members.
If you look closely, you will find that in life, although the sick person is in pain, it is not the most painful one, but the family members who bear the most pain are the ones who guard them day and night.
Of course, it is undeniable that some family members do not care about the patient, and they will not be tormented.
If the elderly in the family are seriously ill and can face it with an optimistic attitude, the pain of the disease will often be alleviated, after all, the power of the mind is huge, it can make people find light in adversity.
However, the family members who take care of the patients are not able to relax their minds, and they are heavy because they have deep feelings.
People who are concerned may experience symptoms of depression because they have neglected their feelings for a long time. Both their careers and their lives will suffer a huge blow.
That's why people say that the elderly live a long life and are their descendants, but the reality is that the torture of illness is only the children and grandchildren of filial piety.
Strong old people harm their children and grandchildren
Powerful elders in a family can have a profound impact on their offspring, and they think that they can control the direction of the family well with their rich life experience and status as elders.
But it ignores that no one is perfect, and everyone has cognitive defects. As a result, the family was manipulated by one-sided thinking and embarked on an irreversible decline to the extreme.
Being a human being should recognize that everyone is an independent individual, with their own thoughts and pursuits. And times are constantly evolving.
The experience and wisdom of the older generation are valuable, but it does not mean that they are fully adaptable to new circumstances and challenges.
If the old man is too strong and does not allow his children and grandchildren to have their own thinking and choices, it will cause the entire family to lose comprehensive judgment and innovation ability.
Excessive interference of the elderly in the lives of their children and grandchildren will inhibit the development of their personality and potential. To put it nicely, it is reluctant to let go. To put it mildly, it's called snatching life.
Don't be too strong when you get old, everyone has the right to control their own life.