After being married for so many years, Jasmine's only distress is that her husband is too popular. So Jasmine wants to ask me why there are always girls in this world who want to dig into the corners of married people?
In fact, a woman who doesn't leave a good normal life wants to be a junior, but wants to be a junior, generally because of these three reasons.
The first reason is the lack of love.
Many juniors' original families are not happy, either lacking father's love or mother's love.
Many girls who lack maternal love are easy to pretend to be mature and look strong, but when facing emotions, they have a very cowardly side, looking like a goddess, in fact, they are very easy to fool and handle. There are many girls who lack maternal love as juniors, and their common feature is that they have a successful career, looking shrewd and capable, but in fact, they become straw bags when they encounter feelings.
Girls who lack father's love are easy to lose their sense of boundary with the opposite sex, and even some girls who lack father's love are too insecure when they go to school, which will lead to some interpersonal problems, and they are more likely to suffer from school bullying or other interpersonal emotional problems. There may also be some peachy disputes.
Therefore, they will be very eager for paternal love, and it is easy to put their minds on older men, and if this man is still willing to provide emotional value and say good things on the surface, then they can easily lose themselves.
I'm not saying that a girl who lacks father's love and mother's love will necessarily become a junior. It's just that from our past data analysis, the loveless juniors we have encountered generally have these two characteristics. Of course, lack of love does not necessarily mean that one of the father and mother is gone, it is possible that her family is complete, but there is a problem with their family's education, which still leads to the lack of love for the child.
The second reason is money, power, fame and fortune.
Money, power, fame and fortune, we can summarize it in two words, that is, interests.
Everyone is not stupid these days, everyone knows that being a junior is easy to be infamous on his back, but why are there still people willing to go? The reason is that there are too many benefits to be a junior
Marx said: "When the profit reaches 10 percent, there are people who are ready to move; when the profit reaches 50 percent, some people dare to take risks; when the profit reaches 100 percent, they dare to trample on all the laws of the world; and when the profit reaches 300 percent, they are not even afraid to go to the gallows." ”
Similarly, being a junior can also be profitable for some people. For example, a woman who is very beautiful, but does not have any net worth background, can have a big city hukou by being a junior, and can have money that the whole family can't earn for several lifetimes, and they don't have to pay labor, and they will "pay low and return high" when they lie down.
The profit is so high, you talk to her about your conscience, can she listen to it?
The third reason is the alienation of Muqiang
In fact, in a utilitarian society, everyone has a side of Mu Qiang, but sometimes, Mu Qiang will be alienated. It will make people only pursue the strong, and pursue the strong by any means.
If a girl has a strong man as her goal in life, then she will not think about morality when necessary. And she is a girl who is particularly strong, what she likes is the combination of money, power, fame and fortune and this man. The sincerity of the man may only account for about 30%, and the rest of her mind is used to bow down to this man's aura.
It is very likely that her living conditions have been okay since she was a child, and her parents also doted on her, but she did not form a correct view of marriage and love the day after tomorrow, and I am afraid that her parents did not guide her well in this regard.
In the case I just talked about, Jasmine met a lot of girls who wanted to attack her husband, and most of them were also alienated or greedy for profit. Because the pure lack of love type of the third child needs the man to take the initiative to tease first, if the man does not take the initiative, then the pure lack of love type of the third child generally does not dare to move first
According to the analysis of all the cases I have come into contact with, the above three reasons lead to the proportion of girls being juniors, accounting for 890% of the total cases. And many of them are a mixture of these three reasons, such as some girls lack love and are greedy for money, and some girls lack love and are strong and alienated.