Have you arranged how to spend the May Day holiday? Such a good season + five-day long holiday, it's a pity not to go out to have fun! Around me, there is a situation like this: single people either go on their own travel or make an appointment with friends to go out to play; married people (especially those with children at home) plan to take their parents and children to visit the surrounding scenic spots.
Taking your parents out to play is supposed to express filial piety, but if you can't bring both parents at the same time for some reason, how should you choose? I recently saw a post like this.
➤ The main daughter of the post is married. Because my parents want to yearn for the capital Beijing, the owner of the post plans to take my parents to Beijing to play during the May Day holiday. If you bring your in-laws with you, she will be under a lot of financial pressure when the four old people travel. But when you go out to play, you only bring your parents and don't bring your in-laws, and the owner of the post is worried that her in-laws will be unhappy if they know!
➤ Many netizens said that they didn't understand why the poster was so entangled!
Isn't it normal for children to take their parents on trips? If they are unhappy, let their sons (daughters) take them out to play!
The person who raised the owner of the post is the father and mother of the poster, not the mother-in-law. Taking your parents out to play also wants the faces of other people's parents, why do women become so humble after getting married?
➤ What netizens said makes a lot of sense, but I think there is a high probability that the poster will not be able to do it so freely.
Maybe it's not that the owner has become humble after getting married. Maybe her current situation makes her unable to care about her in-laws' thoughts.
▽ If the owner of the post is a full-time wife (or full-time mother) with no income, all daily expenses are from the husband. In this case, she spends money to take her parents on a trip, and her parents-in-law will definitely have an opinion: My son works hard to make money to support the family, if you don't help share it, forget it, and use my son's money to be filial to your parents?
▽ If the owner of the post has a job and is financially independent, but the RV they got married was prepared by their in-laws, the housework after marriage was handled by the in-laws, and the children were also brought by the in-laws. In this case, even if the poster takes the money she earns to take her parents on a trip, she is also weak-hearted.
Think about it: it is clear that the small family pays more for the in-laws, why does the woman take her parents out for a trip without her in-laws!
I don't know which kind of person the poster belongs to. But without considering the actual situation of others, I think it's a bit extreme to raise the question to "how will a woman become after marriage?"
➤ I have a friend who has a good time, full-time pregnancy preparation + full-time childcare, but her dowry is very generous. Once, when I was chatting, I mentioned that she never sent it home, but sent it to the office of a former colleague who had a good time, because she was afraid that her mother-in-law and husband would be unhappy to see her always shopping. I don't understand it in particular: Is it so cautious and so aggrieved? If she doesn't even have the freedom to buy things when she gets married, then what's the point of her marriage?
▽ My friends and I talked a lot, and to sum it up: in-laws and daughters-in-law are originally strangers, because of the same man. The living habits and even the three views are different. If you blindly rely on your hard temperament, it will be you who will be uncomfortable at that time, and she knows this very well!
▽ Although everyone on the Internet says that you don't care so much, as long as you have a good time. But in fact, after getting married, you have to have scruples when you get along with your husband's family, and you have to be scrupulous in what you say and do. After all, even if you are to your own parents, you can't say whatever you want, you can do whatever you want, let alone your in-laws!
Most of us are ordinary people, and who has not been wronged by both parties in an ordinary marriage?
➤ I can't understand what my friend said, "I will definitely be wronged when I get married,But I can understand my friend,So I can also understand the original poster.。 There is nothing wrong with wanting to be filial to your parents and taking them on a trip, and it is not wrong to consider the feelings of your parents-in-law.
In fact, you don't have to worry too much! If the days are not too tight and the in-laws are not bad, then take turns to take them out to play!
➤ I think how to get along with my in-laws is also a choice for dealing with people, if you really value your husband, children and family, then you will naturally maintain and manage it with your heart. Maybe what we outsiders feel wronged is nothing in the hearts of the parties!