Love, like beautiful fireworks, is gorgeous but short-lived. When the fireworks of marriage are gradually extinguished, what is left is often a piece of chicken feathers. I've delved into hundreds of divorce cases to try to uncover the truths that lie behind broken marriages. These truths may be cruel, but they are also realities that we must face.
1. Lack of communication is the invisible killer of marriage breakdown
In the vast majority of divorce cases, the lack of communication becomes an insurmountable chasm.
Many couples gradually fall into a whirlpool of silence in their day-to-day married life, choosing to avoid rather than confronting each other, and becoming insensitive to each other's inner needs and feelings.
Contradictions and misunderstandings snowball, until one day, these long-standing emotions suddenly erupt, often beyond control.
Communication, which should be the strongest bridge in marriage, carries the intersection and integration of the hearts of both parties, so that husband and wife can work together to survive the ups and downs of life.
However, when the bridge breaks due to lack of maintenance, the gap between husband and wife becomes more and more difficult to cross. The distance between the hearts and minds is widened, and the emotional bond is broken, which eventually leads to the dissolution of the marriage.
Therefore, we must be deeply aware of the importance of communication in marriage.
Learning to listen is not only the listening of the ears, but also the telepathy;
Learning to express is not only the expression of words, but also the transmission of emotions.
Understand and care for each other with your heart, so that every conversation becomes a blend of hearts, so that communication becomes a lubricant in marriage, and love shines with more brilliance in communication.
2. The struggle for money and power is a time bomb in marriage
Money and power, these two factors that seem to be independent of love, are actually like invisible hands, playing a role that cannot be ignored on the stage of marriage.
Countless couples have fallen into endless disputes in the distribution of money and the competition for power, and even caused sharp quarrels and conflicts, making the originally warm married life full of gunsmoke.
In the palace of marriage, money and power should not be the focus of the struggle between husband and wife, but should be the common challenges and responsibilities.
We need to look at the role of these two factors in marriage with an equal and respectful mindset.
Money is the material basis of life, while power is about decision-making and influence, both of which are indispensable parts of married life.
However, when couples disagree over money and power, we should learn to negotiate with an open mind and seek compromise with an inclusive attitude.
Only on the basis of mutual respect and equal consultation can we find the secret to maintaining the stability and happiness of our marriage in the vortex of money and power.
Therefore, let us harness money and power with wisdom in marriage, and nourish the soil of marriage with love.
Let money be the tool we can use to create a better life together, and let power be the strength we can face challenges together.
In this way, we can write our own happy marriage chapter in the test of money and power.
3. The difference in personal growth and change leads to the gradual drift of marriage
Each person is a unique star in the universe, each carrying a different light and trajectory, constantly transforming and sublimating in the torrent of time.
However, in the interweaving of marriage, this difference in individual growth and change is like two gradually deviating trajectories, quietly widening the distance between husband and wife.
When one party overcomes obstacles in the field of career and climbs to new heights, while the other party is stuck in place and cannot move forward synchronously;
Or when a party's inner world undergoes a seismic change, and hobbies and values take on a new look.
However, the other party failed to get a glimpse of this profound change, and even felt strange and repulsed by it - at these times, the hidden contradictions in the marriage are like an undercurrent, gradually surging.
In the face of such challenges, we need to learn to accept and respect each other's differences with a broader mind.
Marriage does not require two people to be exactly the same, but requires us to find resonance in differences and consensus in differences.
At the same time, we must maintain a heart of continuous growth and learning, and constantly improve ourselves, so that we can keep pace with the times in terms of internal quality and external ability.
Marriage should be a journey of mutual growth.
In this journey, we support each other, face the ups and downs of life together, and constantly improve ourselves in each other's company.
Only in this way can our marriage shine more brilliantly in the baptism of the years and become the most precious treasure in our lives.
After researching hundreds of divorce cases, I deeply realized how difficult and precious marriage is.
Marriage is not a simple game, but a long-distance race that requires the joint efforts and efforts of both husband and wife.
In this process, we need to learn to communicate, understand, tolerate and grow, and face the challenges and difficulties of life together.
At the same time, we must also recognize the cruel truth in marriage, and constantly reflect and adjust our behavior and attitude.
Only in this way can we go further and further on the road of marriage and create a happy future that belongs to us together.
Let us cherish marriage, manage it with heart, guard it with love, and let the fireworks of love be brilliant and dazzling in the palace of marriage.