I've seen such a story:
When a girl and a boy are together, they play the role of an old mother.
Laundry and cook for him, greet him with warmth, spend money for him, buy him expensive gifts, and take care of men in all aspects.
For the sake of men, a lot has been paid and a lot of changes have been made, even to the point of please.
did so much, and in the end, only to get a sentence of "I never loved you", and the boy unilaterally ended the relationship.
Many girls will fall into such a misunderstanding, thinking that as long as they are good enough for a man and pay enough for him, they will be cherished by men.
This is fundamentally wrong.
What a man needs is never a woman's courtesy, shh
What men value is your value
What do we look for when choosing a mate?
Appearance, personality, economic conditions, and three views are nothing more than these.
These conditions reflect the value.
Even if it's physical condition, it's part of the value.
Why is it easier for a beautiful woman to attract a man's gaze, because the visual value is satisfied.
You are beautiful enough, this is also your value, it is your resource, and men are willing to pay for you because of your appearance, which is also your ability.
In addition to the outside, there are also emotional values and economic values, which are all needs in love.
You have to give him something to get his heart.
Whether it's attracting him externally, or you can give him emotional needs, or you can help him in his career, these are what men really value.
Don't use low-cost payments to please men
Chasing a man in a humble and flattering way is the most ineffective and the least valuable.
Why do you use this way to pursue the person you like?
It's because there's nothing left to do with it, so it's all good for him.
It's like a sister I know, she's low, she's chubby, and she's a very inconspicuous being.
She fell in love with a boy, was very self-aware, and felt that it was difficult to be liked by him on her own terms.
So he used a humble way to please him, cooked and cooked for him, and spent a month's salary to buy him gifts.
He made a phone call and arrived in a hurry.
Do you think you'll be liked?
In fact, the more you treat him, the less he will cherish you.
Low-cost payment will only move yourself, not in exchange for a man's love.
Conquer men with high-quality yourself
It's not just girls who have a strong side, but boys too.
Who doesn't want their significant other to shine? Who doesn't want their girlfriend to take them out and give them a long face?
The other half is excellent, beautiful, and eye-catching, which can give a man a long light to a certain extent.
"My girlfriend is so good, it means that I'm not bad."
"Look how good I am, such an excellent woman has been won by me."
This is the psychology that men are used to.
Conquer men with excellent yourself, attract men with personality charm, and make him inseparable from you, which is the core of love.
Instead of pleasing men, it is better to please yourself, cultivate yourself, and make you excellent.
If you want to be loved, you have to treat him in the way that the other person desires.
Don't be self-righteous, don't be wishful thinking, the result of self-righteousness can only be self-inflicted.
The love that a man needs is not to please him, not to ask for warmth.
Make yourself valuable, and men will love you.