When people reach old age, what they hope most is the happiness of their children, which is something that parents know. Sometimes, however, children may not understand their parents' intentions and may complain.
This is why some elderly people still have a lot of savings in their hands in their old age, but their children do not appreciate it. Because when people reach old age, they cannot pin all their hopes on their children, and they must learn to leave a way back for themselves.
When people reach old age, no matter how much money you have, you have to help your children these "three kinds of helps", which are more important than money!
- Help children with babies
Nowadays, young people are dual-income workers, and they have to take care of both work and children, so it is difficult to achieve a balance. If the elderly themselves do not have time to take care of the children, then there will be a situation of "uneven bowl of water".
In order not to get their sons and daughters-in-law affected, some elderly people took the initiative to take on the task of taking care of the baby. It could have been a burden for children to lighten the burden, but some elderly people have gone a little too far.
My mother-in-law kept saying during my pregnancy that she wanted me to find a nanny to take care of the baby, so that I wouldn't be tired. As a result, as soon as my mother-in-law left, I felt much more relaxed and returned to my original state.
In fact, there is nothing wrong with the elderly taking care of their children, but some elderly people take care of their children in a different way than young people. For example, some elderly people are more spoiled by their children and like to buy a lot of delicious things for their children.
But what the old people don't know is that buying things for their children excessively will make them develop the habit of spending lavishly and extravagantly and wastefully. Sometimes it will accumulate food due to eating too much, and it will even affect your health.
Therefore, when parents help to bring up the baby, they must pay attention to the ways and means, and do not spoil the child too much and spend money on the child excessively.
- Help your children with household chores
"Parents should not only raise their children, but also teach them to be responsible for themselves. —Anonymous
The elderly are not omnipotent, and they can't do everything well, so don't expect too much from yourself.
When children are born, they can't do anything, and they make a mess of themselves. At this time, parents should patiently teach their children, rather than making decisions for them as someone who has come before.
When the children grow up, they will slowly learn to do housework, cook, and so on. At this time, stop educating them as parents, and learn to let them do it themselves.
Some parents still think that their children are ignorant and unfilial, but this is actually a wrong idea. Because people have a day of growth and independence, there are many things that they have to face and deal with.
If parents can take responsibility and give their children some help at this time, they can make their children grow up faster.
- Help your children plan
When people reach their old age, they must learn to plan for their future, especially their old age.
If your children are still young and have enough time and energy to work hard for their careers, then you can help your children plan so that they can work with peace of mind and do not have to worry about their parents' pension problems.
If your children have entered middle age or are not confused, then you must learn to let your children plan their own future life.
Because the children are now married, and they have to take care of their own little family and children.
If you don't plan for yourself now, when your children grow up, they will blame their parents for not being able to help them. Therefore, when people reach old age, they must help their children make plans.
It is better to let your children start their own business, or do some small business, small business, etc. This will not only make the children financially independent, but also reduce the pressure on the children.