As parents, we all want to raise an excellent child.
However, many children who looked sparkling as children have become more and more mediocre with the passage of time.
I remember that the well-known principal Chen Qianlin said a statistic: the proportion of talented people in the crowd is about 3%.
Why is there not such a high percentage of people who eventually become talents? The main reason is that the acquired upbringing environment does not play its due role.
Parents are the first teachers of children, it is by no means a sentence, but the truth, because no matter how highly savvy a child is, he also needs the guidance and support of his parents when he is young.
If you pay a little attention, you will find that those children who perform very well in adulthood have parents who are different from most ordinary parents, and their ideological realm and behavior are always more special in the parent group at that time.
Of course, this "special" does not mean that they are better at "chicken" babies.
I have found that parents with these two characteristics will unconsciously raise excellent children.
1. Particularly brave and tenacious
The excellence of children is inseparable from parents who are extremely psychologically strong.
The famous Iron Man Elon Musk has a very brave and resilient mother - Mayer Musk.
Because of her husband's domestic violence, she divorced at the age of 31 and raised her three young children alone without a regular income and a house.
This alone shows that she is brave enough.
Think about it from another perspective, if I were to raise 3 children who were a few years apart alone, I really wouldn't even dare to think about it, even if I risked domestic violence, I wouldn't dare to divorce, and I would die of sorrow.
Mayer Musk is naturally having a hard time, she has to work two jobs at the same time, live in a modest room, and barely support her children.
What is even more admirable is that even under such difficult conditions, she never scolded the children, but respected the children's opinions in everything.
How strong and resilient is it to do this?
With such a resolute and resilient mother, how can the children raised be poor?
Therefore, Mayer Musk not only raised the world-famous eldest son - Elon Musk, but the second son and the youngest daughter are also very good in their respective fields.
How many mothers have collapsed at every turn while tutoring their children to do their homework? A parent who is worried about his problem-solving ability and ability to deal with emotions is difficult to let his child grow up healthily.
Let's talk about a woman I admire very much, Li Yinuo's mother. Li Yinuo was sent to Tsinghua University at the age of 18, and later became a Ph.D. in biology from the University of California, the former chief representative of the Gates Foundation's Beijing office, and now starts her own business, and she is also a mother of three children.
Li Yinuo's mother worked very hard, and in more than 10 years, she was promoted from an ordinary employee to a chief engineer. However, because she was too devoted to work and couldn't take care of her family, the relationship between husband and wife was not good, and Li Yinuo divorced when he was in his teens and chose to leave the house.
At that time, the two of them had to live in a house provided by relatives, and sometimes they could not even guarantee three meals a day.
During this period, my mother resigned, gave up the iron job of a state-owned enterprise, and started looking for a job from scratch.
However, life is so hard, and my mother has never said that she is bitter and tired in front of her daughter, and she smiles every day.
Mothers who have worked should have experienced that it is difficult not to bring home the difficulties and emotions at work, and it is difficult to maintain peace of mind in front of their children all the time.
Without perseverance, the spirit is likely to collapse in such difficult conditions.
and Li Tuoyuan's mother.
When he published his first book, "It's Better to Run", I bought it as an inspirational book for my children, and I followed him at that time. At the age of 18, he gave up his place at Tsinghua University and was admitted to Yale University on a full scholarship, and his mother was also a very resilient mother.
In the foreword to her son's new book, her mother once mentioned how she supported her son to apply to universities abroad:
In addition to his heavy work, he taught students and worked part-time as a translator, and he did not take weekends off for several years to provide financial support for his son to achieve his goals. Sometimes, I try my best to discuss English problems with him and brainstorm with him about competitions or activities. When I was most nervous, I was busy until more than 2 o'clock in the morning every day, and I got up on time at 6:20 a.m. the next morning to start a new day's struggle. ”
In order to provide financial support for her son, her mother worked three jobs at the same time, and she had not taken weekends for several years, so she was really a "desperate Saburo" mother. It's hard for the average mom to do that.
No one can go through the whole journey smoothly in life, and when we encounter tribulations and challenges, our tenacity will enable us to face difficulties with courage and exert infinite strength to overcome them.
Under the subtle influence of their parents, children will also have a strong ability to resist setbacks and an optimistic spirit, so it is easier for them to develop their potential and succeed.
Second, the ability to learn is very strong
Children with strong learning ability must have parents who are super focused on learning behind them.
Mayer Musk spent the years raising his three children, and his time and energy were extremely tight, but he also took two master's degrees and became a qualified dietitian.
Moreover, at the age of 40, she worked as a cover model for the health edition of Time magazine. At the age of 60, he returned to the modeling stage, and at the age of 69, he became the spokesperson of the best-selling makeup brand in the United States.
Each new identity inevitably breaks the previous cognition and thinking, relearns new knowledge, and changes the trajectory of life.
I sometimes think: I have even a tenth of her learning ability and fighting spirit.
Li Yinuo's mother was recommended by workers, peasants and soldiers to go to college. After graduating from the Department of Chemistry of Shandong University, she returned to the factory, started as an ordinary employee, and worked hard to become the chief engineer.
At the age of 34, he was given the opportunity to study in Germany for one year and learn German from scratch.
After resigning from a chemical factory, she worked in an Italian company, as a principal of a hotel training school, as a manager in a private company, and as a German study abroad office and German language tutor.
When she came to the United States in her sixties to help her daughter with the baby, she learned English from scratch.
The spirit of lifelong learning is truly admirable!
Elaine Chao, as the first Chinese American in American history to enter the cabinet, also has an extraordinary mother - Mulan Chu.
At the age of 50, Zhu Mulan was determined to go to university to get a degree, and entered the Institute of Asian Studies at St. Noven University in the United States, where she successfully obtained a master's degree in history.
Liu Yong once wrote in an article, "At first, I thought I was here to observe." Later, I saw that she was also nervous about the exam, and I realized that she was a regular student. She was never late, missed classes, and took notes well. ”
Yunnan Zhang Mei is a woman I like very much, she graduated from Harvard Business School, is a former McKinsey consulting expert, a member of the Harvard Business School Board of Trustees, and the founder of high-end travel companies WildChina and Bishan... She is also a mother of three.
She talked about her father in one video. When she was 8 years old, her mother died, and her father raised their three siblings alone. Although her father only has a primary school graduate, he is super capable of learning.
When she was in junior high school, her father began to study with the children in order to be able to understand homework, and later graduated from college with her brother and sister. When she graduated from Harvard, her father was 50 years old, but in order to attend his daughter's graduation ceremony, he began to formally learn English at home and practiced every opportunity until he was able to communicate proficiently.
This dad's ability to learn is truly amazing!
Parents with strong learning ability are not only reflected in learning knowledge, but also in their children's educational concepts and methods, they have also been constantly learning, thinking, absorbing the strengths of others, forming their own cognition, and then growing together with their children.
Parents who are resilient and capable of learning are not only achieving themselves, but also teaching their children how to face difficulties and setbacks in life, so as to bring positive strength to their children.
Under such conditions, if the child has the right outlook, he can grow into a person who can give full play to his potential.
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Wanqiu talks about parenting, the mother of the two babies who loves to learn and think, welcome to pay attention, complain about the chickens and dogs that raise babies together, share the happiness of raising babies, and summarize the lessons of raising babies.
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