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Not long ago, I was chatting with a friend, and he said that we used to live in different worlds, and I was living a comfortable life at that time, and he was always very aggressive in all kinds of tossing, and he didn't cross paths, and he couldn't feel like he could communicate. Then I stepped out of my comfort zone, he became calm after the experience, and now we are doing similar things, so we are on the same path at this time, and there are still many feelings to exchange. I laughed and replied, "Life is a wilderness, and you don't know where you're going to meet whom." (Want to see what the author of this article, Mr. Shi Xiaohua, wrote last time?Welcome to click the following link: Women's Bloom: A Step Forward)
His words also brought back some memories of my past. Just a few years ago, I was still in Xuchang, living his so-called comfortable life. At that time, grandpa, grandma, and grandma were still alive and had not yet experienced the death of their loved ones. At that time, the child was still young, and there was not much pressure on life, and I didn't know that life would change a lot in the future, and some unexpected things would happen. At that time, life was like being on a track, very smooth. At that time, I had not been beaten too much by life, and I pursued perfection, and I couldn't see a little flaw or loophole in my life, as long as there was a little problem, I quickly tried to find a way to remedy and mend the seams.
However, life will never play out the way you envisioned it, and it will deviate from your pre-set track without consulting you, whether you want it or not.
It will make you experience the loss of your loved ones, it will make you have to accept that some things will happen to you, it will make you realize what life is and it will make you play a big joke on you, it will make you have to accept that life is not perfect, it will make you understand that the things you think will last forever are actually very fragile, and it will let you know that you thought your life was an impregnable wall, but in fact it may be leaking around.
So in the pain you learn to give up your obsession, learn to accept the imperfection of life, even the incompleteness, and then at this time you know that imperfection is the real life, and pain is an inevitable part of life.
Under the wind and rain of life, you have become a small grass crawling on the ground, removing all the falsehood, and you just want to feel the real life in a down-to-earth manner.
You no longer worry about the little problems that arise in your life, even if they are full of small problems. You have accepted the life of leaking air everywhere, you have also learned to make trade-offs, learned to give up, learned to put aside problems, no longer obsessed with solving all problems, and no longer hold everything in your arms, you have your own general direction and main theme.
You know that no matter what kind of cards you have tomorrow or what kind of cards change in your hand, you have the strength to play it as well as you can. You have given up on the idea that life is a track and accepted that life is a wilderness, full of changes and uncertainties. It's like publishing a novel, going back in time a few years ago, he never thought that he would go from an HR in a suit and leather shoes to an elite operation director, but now he has started a spice business for end customers like sweeping the streets.
But life is not all pessimistic and heavy, and it is not always exhaustive.
Over the past few years, I have witnessed myself and the people around me rise again and again from the ruins. Friends who used to do operational consulting for private training institutions have changed tracks to do youth learning and psychological counseling when customers have gone out of business, and now they have done a good job. My friend, who originally planned to be a teacher in a public high school for the rest of his life, resigned and started his own business due to unbearable reasons, and now it is also well received. After graduating from graduate school, relatives who resigned from the laboratory of a well-known pharmaceutical company and successfully took the public examination and encountered a real blow have begun to prepare for the civil service examination in the southern provinces. Doing a small business in the spice business, in fact, the business has been iterating, and relying on the accumulation of previous work experience, he has established his own second curve.
When we actively or passively deviate from the preset track and grit our teeth to get through, we find that as long as you have more courage and less fear, in fact, life is a wilderness, and there are many exits. Maybe life just wants to remind us to know how to follow the trend.
When I went to dance class, a girl in her 20s in the front row had to switch places with me and let me stand in front of her because she felt she didn't dance well. I gently comforted her and said, don't worry, I'm also taking classes for the second time. She covered her mouth with her hand in surprise, and an incredible expression appeared on her face. Actually, it's not that I have a talent for dancing or dancing better than others, it's just that I have more self-confidence, more stretching movements, and more dedication after experiencing the world, so it seems that the expressiveness of dance is better.
I looked at her as if I was looking at my former self, the inner energy was still very weak, and my body was full of unconfidence.
Now, after the tempering of life, I have a lot of certainty and confidence, and after continuous exploration and experimentation and doing some things that I didn't dare to think of before, my self-confidence has also improved unconsciously. Those who used to make you feel quite bright and you couldn't help but feel inferior in front of the other party, now you realize that your inner energy is stronger than the other party, and the dimension of seeing problems is higher than that of the other party.
Now others look at you, just like you looked at others at the beginning, and your body exudes the temperament and light precipitated by experience and self-confidence. So while you are sad in your heart for the sadness you have come along the way, you understand that life is a wilderness, and one day you will meet what you dreamed of before.
Life is a wilderness, not a track, so don't treat what you get in front of you as eternal, and don't characterize the frustration of the moment as a lifetime. The only thing that is eternal is growth, and growth will take us through the fog in front of us.
Life is a wilderness, I don't know where we will meet with whom, so please cherish today's fate, I don't know when our life will happen again unexpected things, what should come just let it come, I don't know what kind of life exit we will find tomorrow, so please have more confidence in your future, I don't know what I will become in the future, but as long as you work hard, you will find that you are better than you imagined.
Life is a wilderness, not a track. In this journey of life, we are all travelers in the wilderness, no matter where the final direction leads, we must remember to look at the scenery, listen to the wind, and then return happy and less tears.
Shi Xiaohua, female, born in the 80s, from Xuchang, member of Jiusan Society, formerly worked in Xu Ji Group, now works and lives in Zhengzhou, loves yoga, dance, and table tennis.
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