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Feng Tang once said that all women who mix well in society have a ruthless energy. Some girls are ruthless, and I guess even the girls themselves will be creepy.
Come to think of it, it seems that this is really the case, those women who can shine in any field, they have a unique temperament, they are attractive, they are able to control their lives, they will not give up on their lives because of anything.
Therefore, if you also want to gain a better foothold in this society and hope that you can become a real big woman, then remember these three points, force yourself to do it, and let yourself live a prosperous life.
There's a ruthlessness
Women are not ruthless, and their status is unstable, this sentence is reflected in many people.
is like Zhen Huan in "The Legend of Zhen Huan", she is a person who is ruthless to herself and others, knows what she wants, and will never look back once she decides.
Think about it, if Zhen Huan didn't have such ruthlessness, would she have become Ruyi in "The Legend of Ruyi", being bullied casually, and finally ending miserably?
Another example is Sheng Minglan in "Do You Know", this woman's ruthlessness is also obvious to all, she is very studious, she is working hard to improve herself no matter when she is at any time, and when she has enough ability, she will not be merciful in the face of enemies, this kind of strength that can protect herself and the person she loves is really a model for all women.
And in modern times, we have many examples of this. I like Qu Xiaoxuan in "Ode to Joy", this woman, although she is a rich second generation, she also has a reason to work hard, so she can put down her body to work hard, and finally let herself control her own destiny.
I admire Qu Xiaoxuan's sobriety and self-discipline, and I also like her courage to do whatever she wants for what she wants, women, don't hesitate, be ruthless at all times, don't care what others think of you, only care about whether you really get what you want.
I know that it is not easy to become such a woman, it is not just talking, we need to pay a lot, and we need to give up a lot. I watched the girls around me change from weak to ruthless, and I really experienced a lot of sadness.
But ah, they have really grown up, and they will not expect Ai Ai because of negative evaluations, they will not give up on themselves because of other people's so-called expectations, and they will not change anything because of other people's ideas.
They always work very hard, try to bloom, try to persevere, and do everything to the extreme. Although sometimes I really think that these girls are a bit masochistic, I think life is so short, and it is the best thing to do for yourself.
Moreover, when you are ruthless enough to yourself, you will also become ruthless to unimportant people and things, and after getting rid of the labels and personalities of post-it notes and good people, you will find that your life becomes happier and happier.
Be sober about feelings
Just talked about Qu Xiaoxuan in "Ode to Joy", I like this woman, not only because she works very hard, but also because she lives soberly.
When she first saw Dr. Zhao, she fell in love with this serious man, so she launched a fierce pursuit, leaving the other party powerless.
After being together, she did not give up her career because of her feelings, and also said the classic saying "Love is fleeting, only pork rolls are eternal".
And when she found that there was some insurmountable gap between her and Dr. Zhao, and that there might be bigger problems if she went any further, she chose to stop the loss in time, leaving room for the two of them to breathe.
In this way, she worked step by step and managed her feelings vigorously.
Women, it should be like this, in the face of feelings are sober enough, no matter what kind of person the other party is, what kind of feelings you have for the other party, tell yourself that feelings are just a small part of life, and you can't decide anything.
In this way, you can have a clearer understanding and face all kinds of problems in your relationship.
Of course, not all women can do this, so at least don't do love brains, this is our bottom line.
I believe that as every woman grows older, she will begin to realize that feelings are not so important, and that a stronger self and more adequate ability are the most important things.
Love yourself more
Women, you can love the people around you, you can love the world, but most importantly, you must love yourself more.
Here is a word "more" to tell all women that loving themselves is the first essence of life, and if you can't love yourself, then you can't be happy.
So, how can you love yourself more?
I think that it is necessary to put your feelings first, no matter what you do, ask yourself if you are really happy, that is, don't wronged yourself to do anything, don't give up on yourself no matter what others say, just don't expect Ai Ai because of other people's fingers, live a strong and sassy life.
Maybe at first, you will find it very difficult because you have to break some of your habits, but after a long time, you will find that the life that loves you more is the most wonderful life.
I have a lot of women around me who love themselves very much, they can do anything they want, they can get everything they want, they are not lucky, they just really love themselves.
So, if you also want to be so happy, love yourself well, only those who love themselves enough can love and be loved better.
I like Feng Tang very much, because he is always able to say the key to many problems.
For women, if they are independent, strong, and brave enough, they will be happier, happy, and chic, so if you are ruthless, sassy, and sober, you will definitely be able to become the kind of woman Feng Tang said, who mixes well.
I hope that every woman can have her own foothold in this society and live as her own light.