In the blink of an eye, it has been half a year since I retired, and in the past six months, I often unconsciously think of people and things in the past, think of my own experiences along the way, and find that there are too many things I didn't expect in life.
Unexpectedly, after retirement, the self-media account he operated could last for more than half a year:
Unexpectedly, after many years of dealing with numbers, I took a back seat and actually studied psychology, which took a few years;
Unexpectedly, when I was still a worker a few decades ago, I became middle-aged and became the financial director of the company.
In this world, there are too many things that I didn't expect, but they happened clearly.
And the motivation for all this comes from the desire to be myself and be myself.
In life, everyone's life is unique, and the only thing that matters to us is to be yourself and be yourself.
Tell me about my own experience.
01
The bleakness of the beginning of life
I grew up in a rural area, and although my parents were not farmers, they had been teachers in rural schools for decades.
Although his parents had jobs, the wages were low at that time, and he had to support a family of six and help poor relatives in his hometown from time to time. All around us, our family is relatively poor and needy.
At that time, being able to enter the county once was the same as going out of the country now, and the eyes were full of novelty.
I grew up in such an environment, introverted and sensitive, not talkative, and in the people around me, like air.
After graduating from junior high school, he was admitted to a technical school and majored in electric welding.
After graduating from technical school in three years, I went to the factory for an internship, and I was the worst performer.
Due to astigmatism in the eyes, when wearing a mask, the weld is often not found, and it is always welded to the place where it should not be welded.
Because of this, I am often ridiculed by my classmates: I can't even weld the weld well, what else can I do?
I was devastated at that time.
Now, decades later, looking back, I'm glad I didn't weld well at that time, or I might have been in a stuffy tank and sweating for the rest of my life.
Therefore, I often think that when facing bad things in life, don't be pessimistic and disappointed, feel sorry for yourself, maybe God is helping you in another form, wanting you to live a better life.
02
Exploration in middle age
When I'm in a bad mood, I like to write things and often post some tofu cubes in the newspaper.
After a few tofu block articles were seen by the leaders, I happened to be short of people in the factory office to write materials, and I was temporarily transferred.
I don't like writing dry reports and summaries like I don't like being a welder, but I'm glad that it's better than being a welder on a construction site.
During this period, I studied part-time training for two years and obtained a university diploma.
It wasn't until I was 30 years old that I switched to finance because I was sensitive to numbers and was very good at finance.
I used to think that finance was the best job for me.
Because of this idea, I took the professional title exam while doing my job, from the most basic junior professional title exam to the certified public accountant, and the difficulties are beyond words.
With the continuous improvement of the business level, I was promoted to the director of the finance department, the financial director.
After the position is promoted, it is not only the business level that measures the quality of a person's work, but more importantly, it requires a person's management ability and the ability to coordinate the overall situation.
At work, I feel more and more powerless, and the internal friction continues to escalate.
I realized that this was not the right job for me.
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Return to self after the age of 50
At the age of fifty, I took a back seat.
At this time, I have enough time to reflect on myself: why do I often have internal friction, why do I often lose control of my emotions, why is there such a big gap between people, and how can I achieve inner peace?
I was anxious to know the answer to the question.
I started reading books and studying psychology, and found that psychology could help me answer many questions.
With the continuous increase of knowledge accumulation, I began to understand many phenomena in life, as well as some problems that had made me struggle for a long time, and my internal friction was significantly reduced, and my mood tended to be calmer.
At this time, I finally found my direction:
Enter the input through psychology and output through self-media.
Some people may think that people in their fifties, their physical functions are declining, their memory is weakened, and it is time to retire, what is the use of studying at this time?
I had the same doubts at the time.
Once I saw a sentence from Li Xiao: Seven years for a lifetime.
He believes that it takes about seven years for a person to go from exposure to mastery in a certain field.
Just like the metabolism of cells, human cells complete their overall metabolism once every seven years on average.
Defining seven years as a lifetime, a person can live many lifetimes, and each lifetime can acquire an important skill.
Think about yourself, from the beginning of the job title to become the financial director, a full seven years, what an accurate coincidence.
If you start at the age of 50, or at the age of 55, you still have a few lifetimes to live.
It's not too late to be able to do things that make you happy and choose a new field, even if you start from scratch.
Looking back on most of my life, I found that the essence of life is a process of constantly exploring myself, finding myself, and finally returning to myself.
One of the most important things in a person's life is to be himself and become himself.
Because, only you know what you need, and no one knows yourself better than you.
Although there will be many detours on the way to find ourselves, every step will bring us one step closer to the goal, and every step counts.
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