On the stage of marriage, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a complex and delicate topic. Some people say that if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, it is the daughter-in-law who suffers, and some people say that it is the mother-in-law who suffers. But is the answer to this question really that simple? Perhaps, the way young people look at this issue can shed some new light on it.
My name is Li Ting, I am Chinese New Year's Eve years old and have been married for five years. My relationship with my husband has always been very good, but the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become a big problem in our marriage. My mother-in-law is a strong woman who always points fingers at me and can find fault with whatever I do. And I, because I couldn't stand her interference, often quarreled with her.
The conflict between us puts my husband in the middle and is in a dilemma. He tried to mediate, but to no avail. Looking at my husband's painful appearance, I began to think, who is the loser? Is it me, the daughter-in-law, or the mother-in-law?
After some thought, I gradually understood that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, in fact, no one takes advantage. We are all in this relationship, losing the happiness and harmony that we should have had. I began to try to understand my mother-in-law and accept her shortcomings. I realized that the reason why she interfered in our lives was because she was worried that her son was not doing well and that I would not be able to take care of the family.
So, I took the initiative to communicate with my mother-in-law and share my thoughts and feelings. I told her that I would do everything I could to take care of the home and hoped that she would trust me. At the same time, I also expressed my gratitude to her for her dedication to this family. Slowly, our relationship began to improve, and although there would still be conflicts and frictions, at least we were able to sit down calmly and solve the problem.
Through this experience, I have learned a truth: the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not a zero-sum game, and it is not a question of who suffers and who takes advantage. Rather, it is a relationship that requires joint efforts, mutual understanding and tolerance. When we can all think about problems from each other's point of view, we can find solutions to problems, and we can truly achieve family harmony and happiness.
So, dear friends, no matter what kind of relationship troubles you are facing right now, remember: don't try to win or lose, but try to find understanding and tolerance. Only in this way can we break the barrier between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and achieve true harmony and happiness in the family.