When we talk about love, it is always full of all kinds of beautiful fantasies and expectations. However, there is a lover that can never be obtained. Such lovers are not because they are too perfect, but because they are simply not fit to be the other half of our lives. Let's explore why some people never want to have this kind of lover.
The perfect object in the ideal
In our hearts, we all have an ideal image of a lover. We want them to be smart, humorous, kind, and considerate...... All these advantages come together to make the perfect object in our minds. However, the reality is often brutal. The perfection we strive for often does not exist, or the likelihood of it existing, is very small. Therefore, we should never expect this kind of lover, perhaps it is because of our obsession with perfection that we cannot find the right person.
Personality incompatibility
Another kind of lover that we can never think of is those who are incompatible with us in character. Maybe they're too introverted and we're too extroverted, maybe they're too calm and we're too impulsive. Personality differences can lead to communication difficulties, conflicts, and ultimately unsustainable feelings between two people. It is precisely because of this kind of personality incompatibility that we never want to get this kind of lover.
Clash of values
In addition to personality incompatibility, the conflict of values is also one of the reasons why we can't get a certain kind of lover. When two people's core values don't align, it can be difficult for them to build a long-lasting relationship together. Whether it is the attitude towards family, career, or life pursuit, there will be differences due to different values. Therefore, even if we love each other deeply, if we cannot agree on core values, then the relationship is bound to face difficulties.
Different paths to personal growth
Everyone's growth path is unique, and there are times when we meet people who love each other deeply but go in different directions on the path of personal growth. This different path of growth will lead us to drift away and eventually move towards our own lives. Maybe he chose to pursue his career and you value his family more, or maybe he chose to pursue freedom and you value stability more. Either way, the different paths of personal growth may be the reason why we never want to have this kind of lover.
In the world of love, there are people who are destined to be unattainable. Whether it's because of personality incompatibility, conflicting values, or different paths of personal growth, we can't get together with a certain kind of lover. However, it is precisely because of these unobtainable people that we cherish the people around us who are really suitable. Let's cherish the people in front of us, cherish the moment, maybe the person who can accompany us for a lifetime is by our side.
In real life, everyone has their own emotional stories and opinions. Have you ever met the kind of lover you would never expect?Welcome to leave a message to share your views and experiences, and let's explore the mystery of love together.