"Mom, please give me a good dad!" Children's jokes hide the truth about marriage

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I read a passage on the Internet, which is very interesting.

One child asked, "Mom, when you were looking for your father, why didn't you notice that he was allergic to cats?" ”

It turns out that the child likes to keep cats, and the child's father is allergic to cats, and the child can only go to the neighbor's house to pick up the cat, which is very inconvenient.

In the child's view: "If you had paid attention, you wouldn't have found a father who was allergic to cats, so we can have cats now." ”

You see, children usually automatically think that if the mother chooses the father, she should choose a perfect father for the child, and if they are slightly dissatisfied, they will ask the mother to question.

The mother is born to be the mother, and the child is naturally one, and the role of the father is added the day after tomorrow.

So dads have to be very good to their children, play games with him, tell him stories, teach him to ride a bike, and take him to eat all kinds of delicious food.

Only by doing this and making the child happy will he be willing to recognize this father.

Otherwise, the existence of the father is meaningless to the child.

He inevitably muttered in his heart: "What kind of person is this, why is he with us?" Don't do anything, make me unhappy! Why didn't he go to his own mother? ”

After muttering for a long time, the child will also complain to the mother: "If you had paid attention, maybe I would have a better father." ”

What kid wouldn't want a better dad?

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A friend of mine, a parenting expert, often shares some cases on the Internet, and many people come to her to answer her questions.

Once she told me about something that had been crying and laughing lately.

A new mother came to ask: "How old is it best to breastfeed your child?" ”

This is a routine question that many people will care about, and when it is appropriate to wean a child.

But the situation of the new mother is obviously special, she said: "My husband refuses to support the family, he can't even afford milk powder, he said breast milk is best for the child, let me breastfeed the child until the age of three, is this okay?" ”

At that time, my friend almost vomited out a mouthful of old blood.

She calmed down for a while before telling her: "Breast milk is indeed better for children, but the most important thing in raising a child is definitely not breast milk." ”

"If you can't find a good father who is shrewd, responsible, and caring for his children, even if he breastfeeds his children until he is 100 years old, what can he do?" 」

When you think about it, it's a really thought-provoking thing.

Many mothers are particularly attentive in raising their children, and they will consider every day how to match their children with a more nutritious diet, how to play interactions to open iq, and wear a few clothes to ensure that children are lukewarm.

They pondered these trivial issues repeatedly, and did not dare to be sloppy at all. But I forgot to find a decent father for my child.

The child's father determines half of the child's genes, half of the environment, half of the fate.

Such a big thing, they actually sloppy, do not pick looks, do not pick IQ, do not pick character, do not pick ability.

As long as the head is hot and love is supreme, they will desperately get married and have children.

In the words of my friend, "What if you can't find a decent father for your child, even if you are breastfeeding to 100 years old?" ”

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It is often said that children should win at the starting line.

At first, everyone thought that the starting line was the day when the child went to school.

All the children of the same age go to school together, and whoever gets the better school district and the better tutoring class wins.

So everyone went to grab the school district room and signed up for the tutoring class, thinking that everything was fine.

Later, it turned out that this was not the case.

Many children have received high-quality preschool education before going to school and have developed good living habits. Some children, on the other hand, are wild children full of bad habits.

So everyone said that to let children win at the starting line, we must pay attention to early education, and some mothers even resign specifically to accompany their children at home.

Later, people found out that this was not the case. The gap between the child and the child exists the moment it is taken out of the delivery room.

Anxious parents, quickly count prenatal education.

And a recent saying is called, "The child is going to win in the fertilized egg." ”

Of course, this is also very reasonable, parents before giving birth to children, quit smoking and alcohol, cultivate sentiments, give children to win in a healthy living environment, eugenics, children can naturally take a step ahead.

But in fact, a heart-wrenching fact is —

The child's starting line does not start with schooling, not from preschool education, not from the delivery room, not from the fertilized egg, but from the moment the mother puts on the ring.

What kind of father and family the mother chooses for the child will affect the child's life.

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I once talked about a concept in an article called "womb morality."

The so-called womb morality is by no means to promote the virginity of women, from one to the end, but to say that every woman has the obligation to guard her body and not to have children.

Every woman has an obligation to pick a good family for her children, and a reliable father, rather than having children with a hot head.

A loving father and an indifferent father bring a child a different childhood.

A knowledgeable father and an incompetent father bring a different future to their children.

A father with a cultural background and a hooligan-style father bring different fates to their children.

An optimistic and cheerful father and a complaining father bring different qualities to children.

When you're in a relationship, you should realize that you're not just looking for someone to spend your life with, he's going to be the dad of your future child.

When you meet a lover who makes you miserable and makes you inseparable, don't just care about your love story, don't flood your heart, don't indulge in the pleasure of masochism.

Think about your child, he may not need such a dad.

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