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Li Lei remembered some small contradictions between them, although they were all trivial things, they were like small pebbles, constantly stumbling on their emotional road. He couldn't help but start to reflect on whether he had really fulfilled his responsibilities as a good husband and whether he had truly understood and respected his wife's thoughts and expectations.
Just when Li Lei was immersed in self-reflection, Chen Mei walked into the living room. When she saw Li Lei frowning, she asked curiously, "My dear, what are you thinking?"
Li Lei nodded, and the picture of that past began to appear in his mind. It was a weekend five years ago, and they were preparing to visit Chen Mei's mother's house. Before going out, Chen Mei suddenly proposed to bring some gifts to her parents.
"What gifts should we buy, my dear?" Chen Mei looked at Li Lei, with a look of expectation flashing in her eyes.
Li Lei thought for a while and said, "Why don't we buy some practical things, such as health care products or daily necessities, so that it should be more practical for your parents." "
However, Chen Mei shook her head and insisted: "No, we should buy some expensive gifts, such as precious tea or jewelry." In this way, we can express our respect and filial piety for them. "
In this way, the two disagree about what gifts to buy in the mall. Li Lei felt that Chen Mei was making a fuss, while Chen Mei thought that Li Lei was too stingy and disrespected her parents. Eventually, they left the mall without buying anything.
Back at home, this contradiction has not been resolved, but has become more and more intense. The two of them are one sentence to me, and they almost have to fight in the end. Just when their relationship was in crisis, Li Lei began to reflect on whether he really understood Chen Mei's different ways of looking at "mother's family" and "mother-in-law's family".
In the early morning of the next day, Li Lei took the initiative to find Chen Mei, hoping to communicate well. He sincerely apologized to Chen Mei, admitting that he was indeed a little too complacent and did not really understand her thoughts.
"I'm sorry, dear, but I should put myself in your shoes instead of thinking from my own point of view. Li Lei said, "I hope you can teach me and let me understand the different ways you look at the 'mother's family' and the 'mother-in-law'." "
Chen Mei did not pretend to be a gesture, but patiently explained her inner thoughts to Li Lei. "For women, the 'mother's family' represents the root and dependence, while the 'mother-in-law' is a new starting point in my life. Therefore, in my concept, giving more expensive gifts to my mother's family is a kind of respect and care for the roots. "
After listening to Chen Mei's explanation, Li Lei finally understood her good intentions. He realizes that married life is not black and white, and both parties need to be considerate and tolerant of each other. In order to resolve this conflict, he offered to visit their parents twice separately, so that they could avoid comparing themselves and express their hearts in their own way.
A week later, Li Lei and Chen Mei went to Li Lei's in-law's house with some practical gifts. Although the gift was not so valuable, Li Lei's parents were also very happy and moved. Looking at the satisfied looks on his parents' faces, Li Lei realized that perhaps the most valuable gift is the filial piety of his children.
Since then, whenever they visit relatives, Li Lei and Chen Mei will prepare different gifts, which not only respects each other's concepts, but also makes the parents of both sides feel their hearts. And between the two of them, a deeper understanding and tolerance have also been established.
They finally realized that there is no unified norm in married life, and only mutual respect and mutual understanding can go more stable and long-term. Even if there are occasional disagreements due to small things, as long as you communicate with patience and love, you will be able to resolve the conflict and find a solution that is acceptable to both parties.
In this way, the relationship between Li Lei and Chen Mei became more and more stable, and their marriage became more and more happy. Until one day, a new problem creeps in, bringing new challenges to their lives.
It was a weekend afternoon, and Li Lei and Chen Mei were chatting in the living room. Suddenly, Chen Mei mentioned something that surprised Li Lei.
"My dear, I've been wondering if I should quit my job and focus on being a housewife at home. Chen Mei said, her tone was very serious.
"Honey, are you serious?" Li Lei couldn't hide the surprise in his heart, "Haven't you always loved your job, why do you suddenly want to resign?"
Chen Mei nodded, and her tone was firm: "Yes, I'm serious." I know you've always thought that a person, both male and female, should have their own business, but I've been reflecting on it lately that maybe it's also a good option to concentrate on being a housewife. "
"But don't you think it's too self-sacrificing to do so?" Li Lei frowned, "You are not only an excellent teacher, but also an independent and self-reliant woman." If you quit your job like this, wouldn't it be a waste of your talent and effort?"
Chen Mei shook her head slightly: "My dear, you are thinking too simply. Being a housewife does not mean giving up your ideals and pursuits, on the contrary, it is a new role and challenge in life. I can devote more energy to my family and life to create a happier and more fulfilling environment for you and our future children. "
Li Lei fell silent, he couldn't understand Chen Mei's thoughts. In his opinion, one should pursue self-fulfillment and not pin all one's worth on one's family. However, he didn't want to repeat the mistakes of the past and repeat the conflict that arose because of "his mother's family and his mother-in-law's family".
At this moment, Li Lei suddenly remembered how they resolved the differences between "mother's family and mother-in-law's family" through communication and understanding. Perhaps, this time this time this new contradiction can be resolved in the same way.
So, Li Lei decided to put aside his prejudices first and listen to Chen Mei's ideas with a more open mind. He said gently, "Honey, I know you must have made this decision after careful consideration. Why don't you tell me in detail what you think? I'll humbly listen to your explanation. "
Seeing Li Lei so sincere, Chen Mei's eyes also softened a lot. She began to tell Li Lei her thoughts: "My dear, I don't want to give up my career completely, but I hope to find a more reasonable balance between family and work." You know, we're going to be parents soon, and the birth of a child means more responsibilities and challenges in our lives. If both of us are career-oriented, our children may lack the love and companionship they deserve. "
"And I want to create a more welcoming family environment for you. You've always worked so hard, and I want to share your stress in my own way so that you can feel at home outside of work. Chen Mei continued, revealing her deep love for Li Lei in her tone.
After listening to Chen Mei's explanation, the mustard in Li Lei's heart was finally eliminated. He realized that Chen Mei's thoughts were not impulsive, but out of deep attachment to her family and thoughtfulness to him. As a qualified husband, he should respect and support his wife's decision, and not rest on his laurels and impose his ideas on others.
So, Li Lei stepped forward and hugged Chen Mei, and said sincerely: "My dear, I understand your thoughts." If this is really what you are talking about, then I fully support you. I am sure you will be able to find the best balance between family and career and become a great housewife. "
Chen Mei nodded with emotion, her eyes couldn't help but moisten: "Thank you for your understanding and support, dear." With you by my side, I feel like I'm not afraid of anything. "
In this way, Li Lei and Chen Mei once again resolved their differences through sincere communication and mutual understanding. Their relationship has become stronger as a result, and their confidence in the future has been strengthened.
In this way, with Li Lei's full support, Chen Mei resigned from her job as a teacher as she wished and started a new life as a housewife.
At first, Chen Mei still needed a period of adaptation. She no longer has to wake up early every day to go to school and has free time for herself. But at the same time, she also shouldered the responsibility of taking care of the housework and cooking three meals.
A few times, Chen Mei was busy until eleven or twelve o'clock in the evening and was still busy in the kitchen, Li Lei saw it in his eyes, and could only shake his head helplessly. He stepped forward and hugged Chen Mei, and said earnestly: "My dear, you don't need to work so hard. Being a housewife doesn't mean you have to do all the housework, we can divide the work and learn to relax yourself. "
Sure enough, as time went on, Chen Mei quickly found the rhythm and joy of being a housewife. She will carefully prepare three nutritious meals for Li Lei, so that he can eat the taste of home after busy work; She will clean regularly to keep the whole house clean as new; She also finds time to learn some handicrafts and add some warm decorations to her home.
Seeing Chen Mei so devoted and happy, Li Lei's heart was also full of relief. He realized that Chen Mei had not given up her ideals and pursuits, but was just realizing her self-worth in a new way. As a housewife, she is contributing to the family in her own way.
Chen Mei smiled and nodded, her face filled with happiness. She gently touched her slightly bulging lower abdomen, her eyes full of anticipation and joy.
From that moment on, Li Lei and Chen Mei's lives seemed to be injected with new vitality and motivation. They began to prepare for the arrival of their children, and their home became more warm and loving.
Nine months later, a cute little life finally came into the world. When the nurse carefully handed the petite baby into Chen Mei's arms, Chen Mei's eyes couldn't help but moisten. She carefully stroked the child's pink face, which was full of happiness and gratitude.
Li Lei stood aside, and his heart was also filled with infinite joy and emotion. He stepped forward and kissed Chen Mei's forehead gently, and said to her, "Honey, thank you for bringing us so much joy. With children, our family is more complete. "
From that moment on, Li Lei and Chen Mei's lives changed dramatically. They are no longer the lovers of the past, but a real family of three. Every morning, Chen Mei would get up early to prepare a hearty breakfast for a family of three; At noon, she would take time to go home and breastfeed her baby; At night, she will patiently coax the child to sleep, and then have dinner with Li Lei, chatting while eating.
Although it was a little harder, Chen Mei never had the slightest complaint. On the contrary, she always has a happy smile on her face. She told Li Lei that being able to take care of the child's every move and create a warm family environment for the child is her greatest happiness.
Seeing his wife so devoted and happy, Li Lei's heart was also full of infinite emotion and admiration. He realized that Chen Mei had not given up her ideals and pursuits, but was just realizing her self-worth in a new way. As a housewife, she is contributing to the family in her own way, and her dedication and hard work are the most valuable assets of this family.
In this way, under the nourishment of love and understanding, Li Lei and Chen Mei's family life became better and better. They have learned to be considerate and tolerant of each other, and have learned to resolve differences through communication and understanding. Although there are occasional conflicts due to trivial matters, they already know how to face and resolve these contradictions.
As long as there is love, they will be able to go through every stage of life hand in hand and create their own happiness together.