A mother's reflection: If I can raise my daughter again, I will never step on these 4 pits again
Daughters are the most precious gift that God has given us. However, in the process of raising our daughters, we all make some mistakes to a greater or lesser extent. As a mother, I know my mistakes and feel guilty. If I can raise my daughter again, I vow that I will never step on the following 4 pits again.
The first pit: overprotection
In the past, I was always worried that my daughter would be hurt, so I kept her under my wings. I restricted her from the outside world and didn't let her try new things for fear that she would get hurt.
However, I gradually found that this protection made her timid and lacking self-confidence. She was afraid to try new things and was afraid to face difficulties. If I can raise my daughter again, I will choose to trust her and let her try and grow on her own.
The second pitfall: over-demanding perfection
I always want my daughter to do her best and ask her to meet my expectations in terms of her studies and talents. However, I ignored her feelings and put her under too much stress.
Whenever she couldn't meet my requirements, I would lose my temper with her, which made her less and less confident. If I can raise my daughter again, I will lower my expectations for her and let her grow up in a relaxed and happy atmosphere.
The third pitfall: lack of communication
I used to think that as long as I provide my daughter with good material conditions, it is the best love for her. So, I was so busy with work that I neglected to communicate with her.
I found that the distance between her and me was getting farther and farther away, and there were fewer and fewer topics between us. She doesn't confide in me when she's in trouble.
If I can raise my daughter again, I will spend more time with her, share the bits and pieces of life with her, and become her closest friend.
The fourth pitfall: lack of appreciation
I often forget to express my appreciation for my daughter, thinking that she should know her strengths. However, what her daughter needs is not only material satisfaction, but also moral support and encouragement.
Whenever I complimented her, she would smile confidently. If I could raise my daughter again, I would always tell her that she was great, that she was the best person in my heart.
I know that these mistakes hurt my daughter and hurt me. I hope to use my experience to warn other parents that together we can learn how to raise children better.
Raising a child is a long process, and we need to find a balance between caring and teaching. As parents, we need to learn to listen, understand, support and encourage our children to become confident, independent and responsible people.
Every child is unique and has their own interests and talents. As parents, we should respect our children's individuality and give them the freedom and space to explore their interests. At the same time, we must also learn to appreciate our children's strengths and let them thrive through encouragement.
The road of children's growth is full of unknowns and challenges. As parents, we need to give our children the courage and strength to face difficulties and move forward. At the same time, we must also learn to let go, let children face life independently, and cultivate their autonomy.
Raising children is a spiritual practice, and we need to keep learning, growing, and making progress with our children. Let us nourish the child's soul with love, guide the child's growth with wisdom, and become the best companion in the child's life.