When people get old, they find that the real sense of "sobriety in the world" is actually eight "bearish"
When people get old, they find that the real sense of "sobriety in the world" is to deeply understand the trade-offs and balance of life. This kind of sobriety is not a sudden epiphany, but the crystallization of wisdom after years of precipitation. These eight "bearish" are enough for us to understand that "sobriety in the world" is a kind of wisdom, a realm, and an attitude.
1. Bearish on money but must have money
"The world is bustling, all for profit, and the world is bustling, all for profit. "Money, the alluring fruit, has been the object of competition since ancient times. And the true wise man understands that money, although good, is not everything, and wealth, although it is heavy, it is not everything.
Su Shi once said: "Wrapped in a coarse cloth, there is poetry and calligraphy in the belly." "True abundance does not come from the accumulation of material things, but from the abundance of the heart. In old age, we should understand this principle and look down on the temptation of money, but also ensure that we have enough financial foundation to provide a stable guarantee for our later life.
2. Look down on friendship but must have friends
"There is a confidant in the sea, and the end of the world is like a neighbor. "Sincere friendship is like an old wine, the longer it lasts, the more fragrant it becomes. In the complex interpersonal relationships, we must learn to distinguish between real and fake friends, and cherish those who can walk with us through the ups and downs.
William Shakespeare once said, "Friends must be in trouble in order to be truly friendly." "When we are old, we should cherish those friends who have gone through the baptism of time and are still by our side, they are the most precious treasure in our life journey.
3. Look down on face, but you must have face
"A man lives a face, and a tree lives a skin. "Face, for Chinese, is a complex that is difficult to give up. And the excessive pursuit of face will only make people fall into the quagmire of vanity and lose their true self.
Lao Tzu once said: "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear." "The real face is not obtained by showing off and comparing on the outside, but from the inner self-confidence and strength. When you are old, you should let go of vanity and comparison, and maintain peace and dignity in your heart.
Fourth, look down on yourself but you must pay attention to yourself
"I am born to be useful, and my daughter will come back when I am gone. "Everyone is a unique individual with their own value and meaning. While pursuing self-worth, we must also learn to pay attention to the needs and feelings of others.
Turgenev once said: "Self-esteem and self-love, as a driving force for perfection, are the source of all great undertakings." "In old age, we should cherish our own value and meaning, and at the same time, we should pay attention to the needs and feelings of others, so as to achieve a harmonious coexistence between ourselves and others.
Fifth, look down on the past, but must not forget the roots
"Don't ask about the past, the world is empty. "The things of the past have become history, and they cannot be changed or undone. But forgetting the past does not mean betrayal, but learning to learn from it and better face the present and the future.
The ancients said: "Don't forget the past, the teacher of the future." "When we are old, we should remember the past experiences and lessons, never forget our original intention, stick to our original intentions, and continue to move forward on the road of life.
6. Look down on your children's achievements but be sure to pay attention to their progress
"I hope that my son will become a dragon, and I hope that my daughter will become a phoenix. "As parents, we all want our children to excel and achieve greatness. However, expecting too much from their children's achievements can cause them tremendous stress and even affect the parent-child relationship.
Albert Einstein once said, "The primary goal of education is always independent thinking, not specific knowledge." "In old age, we should pay more attention to the growth and progress of our children, encourage them to think independently and explore bravely, rather than just valuing their material achievements.
7. Look down on the evaluation of others, but we must strengthen our study and cultivation
"Go your own way, let others say go!" The evaluation of the outside world cannot define our value, and the only one who can really evaluate us is ourselves. But this does not mean that we can ignore the opinions and suggestions of others, but we must learn to draw from them and constantly improve ourselves.
Confucius once said: "If you are a threesome, you must have my teacher." "When we are old, we should maintain a humble and studious attitude, constantly strengthen learning and cultivation, and improve our inner quality and realm.
8. Look down on the aging of the body, but we must strengthen health care and exercise
"The years do not live, and the seasons flow. "Aging is a natural law that we can't resist or escape. In the face of aging, we are not powerless, but we can delay the aging process of the body by strengthening health care and exercise.
The ancient Greek philosopher Heraclitus once said, "Without health, wisdom cannot be expressed, culture cannot be exerted, strength cannot be fought, and knowledge cannot be used." "In old age, we should pay more attention to physical health and exercise, maintain good living habits and mentality, and enjoy a healthy and happy life in old age.
How many of these eight "bearish" have you done? You can only rely on yourself in your happy old age, and the rest are "floating clouds." If you rely on the mountain, the mountain will fall, if you rely on people, people will run, and only by relying on yourself can you be the most real. May these eight "bearishness" provide us with more enlightenment and help us better understand the true meaning and value of life.