How could my three sons be in such a predicament?
I am a farmer in Jiangxi Province and have three sons. They were all beautiful, but none of them could find a wife. This topic has recently become a hot topic in my family, because my aunt started complaining at the entrance of the village, saying that girls are too realistic and don't marry without an RV. It upset me a bit. How could my three sons end up in such a predicament?
By the way, my eldest son is a tough-looking young man. Although he was young, he showed no signs of getting married. He opened a small local supermarket and business has been doing well, but he just can't find the girl he likes. He always complains that the standards of girls nowadays are too high, and he can't find a girl who can tolerate him. I heard that he once pursued a kind and beautiful girl, but she was interested in a young man in the city and finally gave up.
My second son is the opposite of my eldest son. He is a quiet and introverted young man. He works as a teacher in the township, has a stable job, and his income is not too bad. But he had a similar problem. He said that the girls he pursued were city dwellers who drove luxury cars and lived in villas, and turned a blind eye to his insistence.
The youngest son is a young man who has just entered society. He had a good job in the field, but he repeatedly hit a wall because he didn't have a house of his own. He said that he once pursued a girl, but was scolded by the girl's parents, saying that he was not able to take care of the girl and did not dare to make friends easily.
Today, this topic has become a hot topic not only in my house, but also in the whole village. Aunties complained at the entrance of the village that young people were looking at each other within walking distance, but could not enter each other's lives. This filled my heart with helplessness and worry.
One day, I met an old friend in a restaurant. Seeing my sad expression, he asked me questions. I told him everything about my three sons' marital problems. He sighed deeply and then said to me, "Give me the contact information of the three children, I have a way to help you." ”
One day, I got a call from him. He said that there was a retired teacher who was willing to be a matchmaker and help introduce people. I felt extremely touched and gratified, and I couldn't help but secretly rejoice that this old friend had given me a glimmer of hope.
The teacher is a pleasant lady who is very concerned about the situation of my three sons. She told me that your three sons have different personalities, but they all have good hearts, but they have never met the right person. She said she would help find a few good men, but only if she told the girls in plain language that your good man may not have an RV, but he has a good heart and is worth knowing.
With the help of his teacher, the eldest son finally found the girl he liked. Although she doesn't have an RV, she has a stable career and a kind heart. My second son found a gentle and virtuous girl with the help of his teacher. She took a fancy to the kindness of my second son's heart. With the help of the teacher, the youngest son also found a gentle and virtuous girl with a stable job, and the two hit it off.
When I saw that my three sons had finally found their happiness, I couldn't help but feel emotional. It has been proven that true happiness does not depend on external material conditions, but on inner kindness and knowing how to cherish it. I couldn't be happier for the three daughters-in-law they found. They are like three blooming flowers, flowers of different temperaments bloom together to create gorgeous flowers.
Since then, the front of my house has become bustling, and my three sons and their wives are living happily. They don't have luxury cars, they don't have villas, they just have sincere feelings for each other and a yearning for a better life.
I seem to have found my shadow in them, and I'm lucky that all three of my sons are having problems in their marriages, so I met this retired teacher. Perhaps it is this seemingly bumpy road that makes my family feel happy. The flowers bloom more brilliantly, and it also makes me feel that time flies and life is colorful.
The help of our teachers is truly a blessing to our whole family. Now all three sons have found their own happiness. However, since my sons got married, I have also noticed some problems. The daughter-in-law seems to be demanding more and more from the house.
One day, I was chatting with my eldest son's wife at home, and she told me worriedly, "Mother-in-law, I think our family's life is a bit difficult right now. Although my husband's business is good, we live too far from the city. My child is not comfortable learning. I've always wanted to change places, but my husband always says that buying a house is too expensive now, and I'm still waiting for the right time. ”
I was a little worried, so I went to discuss this issue with my second daughter-in-law. She said distressedly: "Mother-in-law, do you know that although my second son's salary is good now, it is still too difficult to buy a house in the city, and I work hard every day. "If I can buy a house in the city, at least I can reduce the cost. Part of the rent. ”
Hearing this, my irritability increased even more. I began to worry that my youngest son and his wife might have the same confusion. Sure enough, their family situation was even more strained. "Mother-in-law, my youngest son's salary is relatively low, and it is difficult to rent a house to support the family now, and I am also worried about their future. My daughter-in-law said to me.
My heart is getting heavier and heavier. It seems that this problem cannot be solved in a sentence or two. However, I don't want to see my son and daughter-in-law worry about the house. How can I help them?
At this time, I suddenly remembered my old friend, the teacher who helped me introduce my daughter-in-law. Maybe she can help us find some solutions to our difficulties.
I immediately called the teacher and invited her to come to my house for tea. I wanted to discuss something with her. The teacher was very happy to see me. She said, "Long time no see, old friend, is there anything I need help with?"
I confessed to her about my family situation. After listening to this, the teacher smiled and said, "Actually, true happiness does not have to be a mansion. Your children now have their own families, and the most important thing is to support each other and grow together. Well, let me help you discuss it with the children and see if there is a better solution. ”
My teacher and I spent the whole day discussing with our three sons and daughters-in-law. Eventually, we found a compromise – the eldest son's family bought a cheap house in the county seat. Although it is a bit old, it is close to the city center and convenient for living and working; The second son's family rented a house in a better location. Although it is a little more expensive, it is still not easy to come by; The younger son's family chose to rent a stable house, and then worked hard with his wife to save money to prepare for the future purchase plan.
Eventually, the sons and daughters-in-law accepted the plan. They slowly begin to understand that happiness is not only about fame and fortune, but more importantly, about mutual understanding and tolerance.
I watched my three sons and daughter-in-law gradually find their own happiness, and I felt very happy. Yes, happiness is not in the size of the house, but in the mutual understanding and support between family members. This is true happiness.
When my son and daughter-in-law found a solution that was satisfactory to both parties, my heart finally fell. I called the teacher and asked him to come back to my house to sit down. I want to talk more about relationships and family.
As soon as the teacher came in, I couldn't help but confide in her my doubts: "Teacher, the marriage problems of my three sons have been solved, but their marriage is also facing new challenges, and the daughters-in-law have become more and more demanding about the house, and I am worried that this will have a negative impact on their married life." ”
The teacher smiled slightly and said, "Yes, we live in a real society, and the importance of material conditions cannot be ignored. However, in the process of pursuing life, we should also know how to understand and compromise, and there must be communication. "Trust and compromise with your family, and face all kinds of problems in life together, you might as well talk to your son so that they can understand this truth. ”
I asked my eldest son to sit down and talk to him. I said, "Son, I know that you and your wife have our own ideas about the house. However, there are many things in life that are not always smooth sailing, and we should also learn to compromise and understand. Perhaps, on some issues, for the sake of each other's happiness, we can take a step back. ”
The eldest son was silent for a while, and then said, "Dad, I know what you mean, I will have a good talk with my wife and try to find a solution that suits both parties." ”
I breathed a sigh of relief and then had a similar conversation with my second son. He listened carefully to what I said, and then said that he would also communicate with his wife and work together in the hope of finding a better solution.
Finally, I went to my youngest son's house and sat down with him and his wife to chat. The little daughter-in-law said: "Father-in-law, I understand your concerns, and we will work hard, hoping to achieve our little happiness as soon as possible." ”
I looked at them with emotion. As the teacher said, communication and understanding are the keys to solving problems. I should have given them more support and understanding in this matter, rather than worrying about these issues.
So, I'm sure my sons will work with my daughter-in-law to solve this problem. That night, my wife and I sat in the courtyard together, looking at the stars, and my heart was much calmer. I am so happy that my three sons finally have a family and happiness of their own. Although there will be many bumps in the road, I am sure that they will always support each other and face life's challenges together. This is the meaning of family and the foundation of happiness.
One sunny afternoon, my wife and I were walking on a field path. The breeze blew and I suddenly felt blissful. My wife shook my hand and said, "You see, our children are doing well now, and they will definitely overcome all kinds of difficulties and find their own happiness." ”
"Yes, they are all grown up and have their own families and children. I nodded and said, "It's time for us to live out our old age too." ”
My wife looked at me and smiled and said, "Yes, we should also try to stay healthy, spend more time with our grandchildren, and enjoy life." ”
That's when I got a call from my teacher. Hearing her voice, my heart suddenly warmed.
"Old friend, I've come to see you at home, is there anything I need help with?" The teacher asked.
Without hesitation, I expressed a new concern in my heart: "Teacher, now that the children have their own families, they are facing new pressures. Although their marriage is happy, the children are often troubled by financial and housing problems. "I don't know how to help them. ”
The teacher thought for a moment and said, "Perhaps, I have an idea, we can organize a family gathering to discuss this problem, maybe the family can work together to come up with a better solution." ”
I nodded, "Good idea, let's organize this family reunion as soon as possible." ”
That afternoon, I called my three sons and daughter-in-law and invited them to my house for dinner. They were very happy to hear the news and said they wanted to come and participate.
During the meal, I told them about my concerns and wanted to discuss solutions with everyone. The eldest son said: "Mom, Dad, we do have some financial pressure right now, but maybe we can think of other solutions, maybe renting a house, or buying a house that suits us." The most important thing is that we can unite and work together. "Working together. ” ”
The second son also agreed: "Yes, the key now is that we discuss and work together, maybe we can consider changing places, or consider renting a house." ”
The youngest son also said, "Yes, we should get together and discuss a good solution." ”
Looking at their honest eyes, I felt a warmth in my heart. It is this mutual tolerance, understanding, and joint efforts that make our families stronger and our children more confident and strong.
After dinner, we discussed some solutions together. With everyone's positive opinions and suggestions, we have made some new plans and have more hopes and ideas. This family gathering not only dispelled my worries, but also deepened my understanding of family and happiness. We will work together to get through all the ups and downs of life.
After the party, I was in a good mood. The troubles of the years have been alleviated a lot, and I feel that the happiness of my family is more solid. Just when I was satisfied with the unity of the family, my wife patted me on the shoulder and smiled, "Seeing the children supporting each other and working together, we are really happy parents." ”
I looked up at my wife, smiled and said, "Yes, we have now given them the responsibility and they can face the difficulties in life with our care and support, and that is our happiness." ”
My wife grabbed my hand and said with a smile, "We should also enjoy our own happiness, play more with our children, and spend more time with our grandchildren." ”
I nodded: "Okay, let's spend more time with my grandson in the future." ”
In my opinion, family is about mutual understanding and tolerance. We must work together to create a better future. And this gathering also made me more convinced of the importance of family reunion. In the days to come, I will work harder to maintain the happiness of our family. Because this is our greatest source of happiness.
In the days that followed, our family became closer. The children gradually found balance in their new surroundings, and the daughters-in-law became more optimistic and positive. My wife and I often get together with them and share every detail of our lives.
I still remember one time, our family held a small party at home, and everyone laughed and was full of happiness.
The eldest son's wife raised her glass and said, "I would like to say that our family has recently found a neighborhood in the city that is easily accessible, and the child is happy to find more friends here." ”
"It's amazing!" I applauded with my wife.
The second son also said: "Yes, it is much more convenient for us to live in a new place now, and it is also convenient for our children to go to school." ”
The youngest son happily continued: "Moreover, I am struggling to save up for a down payment in a few years, so that we can buy a small apartment in the city. ”
I listened to them with satisfaction and relief. Seeing their positive attitude in work and life makes me feel that my wife and I have worked hard for so much over the years have been worth it. These difficulties seem to be life's tests for us, and we are gradually learning how to deal with them.
That night, my wife and I went for another walk on the field path. The breeze was gentle, and I couldn't help but laugh.
My wife looked at me and asked, "What's wrong?"
I smiled and said, "It's because I feel so fulfilled to see the kids become optimistic, positive, and have their own plans." ”
My wife put her arm around my shoulders and said, "Yes, our children have grown up and have their own families and lives, and we need to support and encourage them as well." ”
"Yes, we will always be there for them and give them the greatest support. I nodded deeply.
At this moment, our lives are also full of warmth and happiness. Seeing that our family is happy and satisfied, my wife and I also feel extremely relieved and happy. I also understand that family happiness is the result of mutual understanding and support among family members, which is the source of all our happiness.