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Between the opposite sex, true love is healthy, recognized, and sees the light, and each other satisfies the conditions of being "together"!
When the opposite sex does not meet the prerequisite that they are both single, but the relationship is still unclear, this is a desire that is irresponsible to others and oneself!
In complex interpersonal relationships, the interaction between non-single men and women, once out of the necessary sense of boundaries, will not only bring unpredictable trouble to each other, but also affect the strength of the relationship behind them!
In serious cases, it will also affect people's lives!
After all, ambiguity and transgression are paving the way for actual betrayal. Born as a human being, no one wants to be treated unfaithfully!
So how to distinguish the relationship between the person in front of you and other people of the opposite sex, is it normal? The answer is only 5 words: look at the details!
Between the opposite sex, the 4 manifestations of ambiguity and transgression cannot be covered at all:
1: Excessive emotional dependence
Among all kinds of relationships, emotional dependence, as the most common part of interpersonal communication, also reflects the rigid need or necessity of the individual's "existence value" in the heart of the relationship object!
That's why some people are happy to continue this kind of relationship! Because the existence of this kind of relationship is a great blessing for each other!
However, when this kind of emotional dependence exists between a non-marital man and a woman, it is the beginning of an unfortunate one!
Ambiguous, transgressive relationships, bringing people instant sexual pleasure, can indeed be addictive!
However, the emotional dependence between non-marital men and women who are ambiguous and transgressive with each other will accelerate each other's hormonal expectations, so that they can distract themselves from work, family management and life responsibilities!
In this way, not only will each other's behavior be exposed on the tip of the knife, but it will also have an unpredictable impact on each other's family, life, and work!
Therefore, once a person has an improper relationship with another person of the opposite sex, it is clear to see his/her energy level at a glance!
2: The boundaries of private space are blurred
Between two non-single men and women, they can enter and leave each other's private space, no matter what they do or don't do, what they say and don't say, this is a sign of "abnormality"!
Think about it, under what circumstances do two people who are not single want to enter each other's private space?
There are always people who are willing to use the name of friendship to cover up the fact that they have an improper relationship with other members of the opposite sex! But they have completely forgotten that "there is a difference between men and women" is a rule of communication that should exist from ancient times to the present!
When a non-single man and woman begin to frequently intrude into each other's private spheres, it often means that the relationship has gone beyond the ambiguous and transgressed boundary, and has engaged in "effective" behavior towards the goal of actual betrayal.
If someone still says "the relationship is clean" in this regard, then ask yourself if the person in front of you and other members of the opposite sex are like this, will you accept it?
If you can't, then don't use double standards to maintain your own exclusivity, let alone use unclean heterosexual relationships to challenge the bottom line of the person in front of you!
3：言行上含糊不清、尽显亲密
Between men and women, even if they are single, if they do not plan to be "together", they still need to be balanced.
Whether it is language or physical behavior, we must avoid breeding and providing a breeding ground for ambiguous and transgressive perceptions!
It is not between single men and women, and it is more important to attach great importance to the occurrence of such a phenomenon!
Suppose a couple of non-single men and women, in the name of friendship, use excessively intimate titles, suggestive language, or ambiguous responses in language, and do not mind intimate physical intermingling in behavior......
Don't doubt, don't quibble, don't refute, such behavior is "problematic"!
Between non-single men and women, if they can't avoid "intimacy", they can only say that they can't control their desires!
If the person in front of you and other people of the opposite sex have already made you feel that your language and behavior are inappropriate, don't pretend to be generous! Or, just stop the loss in time!
4: Because of each other's existence, they have lost the fulfillment of their family responsibilities
Some people, when they are not loyal to the person in front of them, will act like a continuous loving relationship with the person in front of them!
Most of these people say more and do less! They can't even remember what they promised.
But you will obviously find that such a person is radiant and energetic, and you feel that he/she cares about you very much, but you never feel the steadiness that you should have......
And some people, after doing something disloyal to the person in front of them, completely lose patience and interest in the person in front of them, and even the desire to share and share is obviously declining or terminating......
Yes, people who are in an ambiguous and transgressive relationship can't focus their attention on the people and family in front of them because their hormones are on the rise!
As a result, the opinions and suggestions of the people in front of them, the feelings of joy and sorrow, and the needs of their children are ignored......
In the face of such a situation, those who have been treated unfaithfully must remember:
From the existential value, measure the necessity of the existence of the betrayer.
If you don't need a betrayer to help you get through the moment, you can stop the loss in time.
If you still need a betrayer to help you for a while, then do a good job of "trusting", use him/her well, and then kick him or her away!
In the final analysis, people who are emotionally unfaithful, whether they are ambiguous in the period of spiritual betrayal, people who cross the line, or people who have already committed the actual betrayal, are people who are dissatisfied with their desires and have a low experience of happiness!
In fact, true happiness and fulfillment always come from a person's love for their own life and respect for others.
A person should not only focus on his or her own emotional needs, but also take into account the responsibilities and expectations of family and society.
Only through continuous learning and growth can a person better deal with various problems and challenges in interpersonal relationships in a sense of self-identity, so as to enjoy a more fulfilling and beautiful life.
Otherwise, if you are dissatisfied, you will be a slave of desire, and sooner or later you will have to pay it with a painful price and lesson!
Negative emotions are common to all, and when you are willing to put them aside, you can not be bound by them. Ultimately, it's up to you to do that!
I am an author in the field of high-quality emotion, a professional counselor, and have provided valuable and meaningful help to many counselors. I have rich experience in marriage, relationships, interpersonal relationships, etc., if you have any emotional confusion, please feel free to consult me.
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Topic discussion: Do you think that in the face of betrayal, you must divorce?