Lin Yutang wrote in "Life Is Just Like This":
"A woman's beauty is not in her face, but in her posture. ”
Posture represents temperament, knowledge and character cultivation, in other words, personality charm exuded from the inside out.
After all, the beauty of the face is ephemeral and will fade with the years, and only the inner beauty can transcend the limitations of time and space and endure for a long time.
This is also the best confirmation that "beauty is in the bones, not in the skin".
Counting thousands of years up and down China, the charming woman who has stood the test of time and still shines to this day must have Li Qingzhao.
As the first talented woman in the ages, her outstanding appearance is her most eclipsed charm.
With her beautiful life attitude, she bloomed with the top charm of a woman, shining for thousands of years, and countless people fell for it.
Be brave and be yourself and not be defined by the times
Sophia Loren said in "The Charm of Women":
"When you show someone who is unique to you, the charm will follow. ”
Although Li Qingzhao lived in the feudal era dominated by male power, she truly released her nature, broke through the limitations of the times and the shackles of gender, and lived her own attitude.
Ancient society required women to "follow three virtues and four virtues", especially famous women, and strictly required that every word and deed should match the norms of "virtue" and "etiquette".
Li Qingzhao has been controversial since she became famous at a young age, and she has been scolded by countless people for "not abiding by women's morals and not being ashamed".
Because she is "a gambler, an alcoholic, a poisonous tongue, and an amorous person", if these things are done by a man, it is harmless.
But because Li Qingzhao is a woman, she will be subjected to endless criticism and abuse.
But she has a strong core, is determined and brave to be herself, and also responds to controversy with extraordinary talent.
The Song Dynasty was originally a merry dynasty, and men got together and even often boasted of their romance.
Ouyang Xiu said, "A good prostitute and a good singing voice, not drunk and hard to rest";
Liu Yong also said that "drunken guests are used to being romantic", and it seems that romance can only be exclusive to men.
From the current point of view, Li Qingzhao is really not romantic.
Not to mention now, even in the previous Tang Dynasty, the word "merry" could not be her turn.
However, in the Song Dynasty, when science gradually matured, there were more and more dogmas about women, and Li Qingzhao's behavior was a great disapproval of the world.
But she didn't take the dogma of "starvation to death is a small matter, and loss of festival is a big thing" in her heart at all.
"Kick off the swing and get up and straighten your hands.
Lunon flowers are thin, thin sweat and light clothes. ”
She said the girl's thoughts about Huaichun bluntly and frankly, and her love words were lustful but not lewd, but she still suffered from the world's criticism.
The yearning for love is a natural emotional need of young boys and girls. In a society where she can only wait for her parents' orders and matchmakers' words, she dares to take the initiative to express her love.
In the face of other people's abuse, she was not cowardly at all, and boldly opened the microphone with reason and evidence.
Since you say that I am in the world and do not abide by women's morals, then I will attack you from multiple dimensions and are inferior to me in all aspects.
A "Theory of Words" criticized many contemporary literati for not understanding words, she said that Liu Yong, although he understands music and rhythm, but the words are unbearable;
said that Su Shi, Yan Shu, and Ouyang Xiu can only write poems and don't know anything about music and rhythm;
said the words of Wang Anshi and Zeng Gong, which made people laugh off their big teeth......
She is good at gambling and gambling, so she wrote a gambling scripture "Preface to the Sutra of Playing Horses", which began with a mockery:
"Why can't you be as proficient at gambling as I am?
And it is said that you have to concentrate to be invincible. That is, there is no other blogger, and the first to compete for the ear, so the specialist can. ”
She is brave and true, fighting against the times and the world with her own strength, and living the most wonderful life.
As Lin Yutang said: "I want to have the freedom to be myself, and the courage to dare to be myself." ”
Such a real woman is a proper heroine today, who can not love it?
Integrity character, distinguishing between right and wrong, good and evil
Giovannoli once said:
"The two loveliest qualities of a woman are: the ability to discern good from evil and shame. ”
Li Qingzhao can become a role model of the times, not only because of his outstanding talent and achievements, but more importantly, because of his precious personality qualities.
Li Qingzhao's father, Li Gefei, is Su Shi's proud student, and her husband Zhao Mingcheng is Cai Jing's faction.
The two families were on opposite sides, and partisan strife put Li Qingzhao in a dilemma.
When his father was demoted because of the "Yuanyou Party Monument", his father-in-law Zhao Tingzhi stepped on them and made steady progress.
Li Qingzhao is not afraid of power, nor is he willing to go along with it.
Therefore, even if Zhao Tingzhi is in the limelight, she dares to say "hot and warm" and ridicule what he does.
Zhao Tingzhi's promotion was too fast, which also aroused Cai Jing's suspicion, and in the end, the Zhao family was also demoted.
Her mother's family and her husband's family suffered great disasters one after another, but they did not defeat Li Qingzhao.
She is indifferent to fame and fortune, wise and strong, and supports and comforts her husband Zhao Mingcheng who is in a trough.
Since then, the two have returned to Qingzhou, Shandong Province, and started a ten-year life of seclusion as a fairy couple.
Ten years later, Zhao Tingzhi returned to the mountains as a magistrate, but the Song Dynasty at this time was already in turmoil.
In the first year of Jingkang, Kaifeng City fell, and half of the Great Song Dynasty changed its surname to "Jin".
Faced with the approaching layers of Jinren, Li Qingzhao is no longer a little woman who blindly indulges in the pleasures of the boudoir.
In the turbulent war, she saw the suffering and bitterness of the crowd, and she also resented the weakness and incompetence of the imperial court.
For this reason, Li Qingzhao wrote "What is invincible in war", and used the Anshi Rebellion of the Tang Dynasty to satirize the Northern Song Dynasty court at that time.
Such a large country was defeated under the iron cavalry of the small "Hu people".
In the face of national humiliation, she was sad and helpless, and hoped that she could go to war and join the army like Mulan, but she was even more ashamed and disappointed in the face of family humiliation.
Zhao Mingcheng, as an official of the imperial court, abandoned the city and fled in advance when the rebels attacked.
Faced with her husband's weakness and incompetence, greed for life and fear of death, Li Qingzhao was very disappointed and ashamed.
When Zhao Mingcheng was dismissed from office and the two fled through the Wujiang River, all the grief, disappointment and pain erupted in a concentrated manner, and a famous sentence was written:
"Life is a hero, death is also a ghost. So far, I think of Xiang Yu and refuse to cross Jiangdong. ”
Li Qingzhao's poems are eloquent and powerful, even after a thousand years, they can still shock people's hearts.
Although she is a woman, in the face of the great right and wrong of the country's ruin, her heroism and iron bones are far better than countless men.
Wu Guijun wrote in "Like a Person":
"Like a person, it starts with appearance, falls into talent, and is loyal to character. ”
And Li Qingzhao is such a person, who amazes her talent and admires her personality, for which the world loves her for thousands of years.
Beauty may be able to attract people's attention for a short time, but inner cultivation can maintain its enduring charm.
A woman with top charisma has a full and deep inner world.
They have their own firm beliefs and values, and are not shaken by the prosperity and strife of the outside world.
Wisdom is the manifestation of the vast knowledge of life, and the quality of integrity is the spiritual pursuit of transcendence, both of which are indispensable, and appearance is only the icing on the cake.
Dare to love and hate, and can afford to put it down
After Zhao Mingcheng's death, Li Qingzhao tasted the sorrow and pain of life.
When she entered old age, she met Zhang Ruzhou, who cared for her, and was moved by his "sincerity" and wanted to marry her.
But in that era, men could have three wives and four concubines, and ordinary women could basically only be widowed after losing their husbands.
And remarriage will suffer from secular gossip and white eyes, not to mention the famous talented girl Li Qingzhao.
In addition, many people in the school were extremely dissatisfied with Li Qingzhao's arrogance and rebellion, as well as his conceit.
Therefore, she is portrayed as a woman who is unwilling to be lonely and romantic.
Li Qingzhao still married Zhang Ruzhou under secular pressure, and Zhang Ruzhou was suave and polite.
For her, who is lonely and sentimental, she needs such a man to relieve her emotions.
But soon after marriage, Zhang Ruzhou's despicable villain side was revealed.
He didn't really fall in love with Li Qingzhao, but coveted the treasures in her hands.
Li Qingzhao was born in a family, and he and his ex-husband Zhao Mingcheng collected a lot of gold and stones, and Zhang Ruzhou deliberately deceived them as an inheritance.
But how could Li Qingzhao, such a strong person, entrust his life's hard work to such a villain.
Therefore, when she found that her plan could not succeed, Zhang Ruzhou treated her coldly and added fists and feet.
Although he was deceived by the villain during his serious illness, Li Qingzhao was not a vegetarian either.
She immediately decided to sue her husband and resolutely divorced.
In the Song Dynasty, it was easy for a man to divorce his wife, but if a woman wanted to sue her husband in turn, then even if the evidence was conclusive.
Even if the lawsuit is successful, the woman herself will have to spend two years in prison.
Therefore, at that time, many women could only swallow their anger even if their husbands were very excessive.
Li Qingzhao knew that if he was imprisoned, he would inevitably be ruined, and he would not be able to escape the ridicule of eternity.
Even so, she is not willing to endure humiliation and steal her life, even if she is in prison.
She dares to love and hate, and she can afford to put it down.
What if the reputation is damaged, the important thing is to let the guilty get the punishment they deserve, and also to fight a bloody way for countless women who have endured grievances in marriage and relationships.
After experiencing the great changes of the country's collapse and family ruin, the pain of losing her husband and losing her wealth, and the shame of being deceived in remarriage, the elderly Li Qingzhao almost exhausted all his efforts.
But she still cared about state affairs, endured severe physical pain, and completed Zhao Mingcheng's unfinished business - the compilation of "Jinshi Lu", which was published in the world.
The "Golden Stone Record" has also become one of the important reference materials for later generations to study history.
A woman is not an accessory to anyone, a woman with an independent personality, dares to love and hate, and can afford to put it down decisively.
She dares to love, and she can bravely pursue love regardless of secular pressure and public opinion
This is true for Zhao Mingcheng, and the same is true for Zhang Ruzhou
She dares to hate, bravely says "no" like a despicable person who is domestic violence, and breaks through the shackles of marriage.
Jiang Yuanming said:
"Falling out of love without losing virtue is the warrior of life and the strong man of love. ”
Don't lose yourself in love and marriage, and be free and easy to stick to your heart and move forward bravely at any time, in order to bloom with unique light and charm.
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A woman with top charm, no matter what the depths are in any environment, can maintain the most beautiful posture and live a chic and beautiful life.
Dare to be the most authentic self and not be coerced by the world;
have their own bottom line and values in front of the major rights and wrongs, do something, and do nothing;
It is not important to make mistakes, what is important is to have the courage and determination to make amends.
The good-looking skins are the same, and there is no one in ten thousand women who exude top-notch charm from the inside out.
Such a woman is like a jewel that shines with dazzling light after years of polishing, and people can't resist and can't help but be attracted.
Author | Shiman Rui points ink, and wishes to have a little ink on his chest, so that he can make money freely.
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