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Liu Shishi took a deep breath, her expression was solemn, and she once again fell into the unsatisfactory memories of her seven years of marriage. From the perspective of a bystander, she and her husband Wu Qilong are like the most dazzling star couple in the entertainment industry, with sweet love and happiness.
However, behind this dreamlike happiness, she endured countless exhaustion and pain alone.
Thinking back to that wedding, it is still an indelible scar on her heart. Amid the cheers of relatives and friends, she and her beloved Wu Qilong completed the most solemn ceremony in their lives.
However, just as the wedding came to an end, her mother-in-law, Wu Qilong's mother, actually derogated the diamond ring worth 200,000 yuan she gave in public, "How can a diamond ring worth 200,000 yuan reflect my noble identity?"
Liu Shishi looked around nervously and found that the guests present all showed shocked expressions and exchanged heads one after another. Her cheeks flushed slightly, and she bowed her head in silence, overwhelmed. The mother-in-law's behavior undoubtedly added a shadow to this wedding that should have been full of joy.
And this is just the tip of the iceberg of the many grievances Liu Shishi has encountered in her married life.
In the following time, Liu Shishi felt her mother-in-law's indifference and contempt for her all the time. Whenever she recalls those unbearable past events, her heart is full of bitterness and helplessness.
The mother-in-law's words and deeds always implied that in her eyes, her daughter-in-law was just a stranger who had nothing to do with her, and she could not integrate into the Wu family's big family at all.
This feeling of being excluded made Liu Shishi feel cold and helpless. She has confided her troubles to her husband Wu Qilong many times, and longs for his understanding and help. However, it is a pity that Wu Qilong did not stand firmly on her side, but often succumbed to his mother's wishes.
This undoubtedly further exacerbated Liu Shishi's disappointment in the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and she thought that life would become better after entering the marriage hall, but the reality made her heartbroken.
Liu Shishi's honorable mother-in-law, Wu Qilong's mother, is undoubtedly a woman who abides by traditional values. She adheres to the concept of "son first", and has never been able to give due respect and recognition to her son's partner in life, her daughter-in-law.
Such a "patriarchal" idea deeply penetrates the spiritual depths of the Wu family. Since he was a child, Wu Qilong has grown up to be the focus of the family under the deep care of his parents and is much loved.
However, for Liu Shishi's daughter-in-law, her mother-in-law regards her as a marginal person in the family, and even sometimes ignores or neglects her intentionally or unintentionally.
In order to marry the beloved Liu Shishi, Wu Qilong did not hesitate to spend all the family's savings. According to rumors, he paid a dowry of up to 60 million yuan and gave away company shares worth 152 million yuan, almost emptying the entire family's property.
However, in the eyes of the mother-in-law, how can a person with a foreign surname share all this wealth that should belong to herself and her descendants?
This strong notion that "my home is mine" made the mother-in-law unable to tolerate her son throwing a huge amount of family property into another family. In her opinion, only relatives are the most worthy of cherishing and loving.
As for Liu Shishi's daughter-in-law, her mother-in-law was obviously extremely indifferent and contemptuous. She simply couldn't treat this foreign woman as family, let alone give her the care and support she deserved.
The further intensification of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, especially after Liu Shishi was pregnant with Liujia, intensified. Originally, for the newlyweds, this stage should be the happiest and sweetest time in their lives.
Unfortunately, the indifference of the mother-in-law has greatly weakened this joy.
When Liu Shishi was experiencing the difficult moment of confinement, it was her mother-in-law who took care of her alone. However, the mother-in-law did not seem to regard Liu Shishi as a home, she only brought two bottles of mineral water as care, and did not even make a bowl of heart-warming decoction for her.
This kind of indifferent behavior undoubtedly deeply hurt Liu Shishi, who was in confinement. As a novice mother, what she longs for most at the moment is the warm care and love from her mother-in-law.
However, her mother-in-law seemed to care about her at all, which made Liu Shishi feel sad and lost.
What's even more chilling is that when the media asked Wu Qilong's mother if she intended to take care of Liu Shishi, her answer was so ruthless: "Wu Qilong will be responsible." It was only five short words, but it deeply pierced Liu Shishi's heart.
As a female elder, she is unwilling to give even a trace of warm care to her daughter-in-law, which really makes people question her personality quality.
What is shocking is that just when Liu Shishi was looking forward to the arrival of a new life with joy, her mother-in-law actually raised a heinous question about her: "It was widely rumored that my daughter-in-law could not have children, and these rumors brought us great pressure.
These words undoubtedly pointed the finger at Liu Shishi, trying to label her as "infertile" At the critical moment when the newlyweds welcomed the arrival of their newborns, the mother-in-law cast a haze on their happy life in such an extremely inconsiderate way.
From the words and deeds of the mother-in-law, we have never been able to see the compassion and understanding that a woman should have. She is full of prejudice and distrust towards her daughter-in-law, and is unwilling to give due respect and love.
This indifferent and distant attitude not only made Liu Shishi feel deeply painful, but also caused the entire family relationship to fall into an impasse that was difficult to resolve.
In the bustling entertainment industry, this dazzling star couple, but the family life behind them hides many unknown disturbances. Liu Shishi, a radiant goddess, often encounters all kinds of unfair treatment from her mother-in-law in the family, and has been neglected and excluded for a long time.
Such a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is really emotional! .
For Liu Shishi, she should have been loved and cared for by the whole family. However, the harsh reality is far from it. She endures all kinds of injustices from her mother-in-law all the time, and struggles with the plight of being marginalized all the time.
This situation not only made her feel helpless and painful, but also caused the whole family relationship to fall into a tense situation.
Tracing back to the source, the crux of the problem lies in Wu Qilong's mother's overly strong desire for control and deep-rooted patriarchal thinking. In her eyes, the son she raised with hard work is the most precious wealth, but she has never been able to give due respect and attention to Liu Shishi, who is her daughter-in-law.
Even during Liu Shishi's pregnancy, she was unwilling to give even basic care, which undoubtedly exacerbated the rift between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
In response to this problem, experts in related fields put forward the following suggestions:
First of all, we should respect the parenting philosophy of the younger generation. Although modern parenting concepts have changed drastically compared to the past, as grandparents, we still need to actively listen to the views of our children's parents, rather than force our own ideas.
After all, parents are responsible for their children's education, and grandparents only need to provide appropriate support and guidance.
Second, we need to learn to empathize. As mothers-in-law, we should look back on our years as daughters-in-law and put ourselves in each other's shoes. After all, everyone has a profound experience of the complexity of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
Only by doing this can we demonstrate the wisdom and grace that we should possess as an elder.
In general, family harmony is a beautiful vision in everyone's heart, and the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not irresolvable. As long as we can respect young people, take the initiative to communicate, and learn to empathize, we firmly believe that one day, the married life of the couple will usher in a happy dawn.