There may be many people, whether male or female, when they are young, they will speak and act recklessly.
They will not speak with the feelings of others, let alone their own fundamental and important interests, so as to speak rationally.
But if they grow up and become mature, they will have life experiences and experiences, and they will know that there are some things that should not be said casually, and when they speak, they really have to take into account the feelings of the listener.
The true wise man is often cautious in his words and deeds, and silent and silent.
It's not because they're not eloquent or they don't have anything in their stomachs.
The main reason is that they know that sometimes they really come out of their mouths and say something that should not be said, so as to offend and provoke people without knowing.
Or, because you said something you shouldn't have said, you end up missing out on the future or promotion opportunities you should have gotten.
Saying things that others don't like to hear, or harsh words, or even slandering others, is a form of speech that is irrational and not in your own personal interests.
A truly wise man often does not say the following three types of speech casually:
1. Directly deny others or accuse others of wrong words
There may be many young people, they are more straightforward, or they feel that they have any ideas and opinions in their hearts, and they must be brave to put forward, and in the face of a senior or even a leader, they must also correct the mistakes of the other party, which is the right way.
But in fact, directly pointing out the mistakes of others and denying them will definitely make others disgusted, because no one likes to be denied, and there is no problem with always thinking that their own opinions and opinions are fine.
If you deny others and can't come up with definite evidence to convince them, then even if they approve of you on the surface, they are actually unconvinced in their hearts, and even hate you in their hearts, which will not benefit you at all.
In "The Way of Heaven", Ding Yuanying once said that when he was not very old, he was always quite reckless in arguing with others, so as to stick to his own views that were correct to the end, but when he got older, he no longer wanted to argue with others, and when he saw a person's mistake, he didn't want to point it out, but smiled sleekly and said, hey, you are really right, it makes sense!
This is the most beneficial choice made by a wise man.
You point out someone else's mistakes, and there is no direct benefit to yourself.
And if others think that what you point out is not necessarily right, then you stand on the opposite side of him and make enemies of him.
Then you are tantamount to burying a disaster, how do you know when he remembered the past and you denied him, so as to give you small shoes?
Therefore, even if you think that others are wrong and you yourself are right, do not point it out directly to your face, even if you really want to correct others, for the good of others, you must put it forward in a tactful way and calmly, rather than denying others with a strong attitude.
2. Show off your beauty, success, wealth, and words full of superiority
In fact, in this society, everyone wants to create wealth and make money to make their lives better, so it is inevitable that there will be some comparative psychology.
And the most common mistake ordinary people make is to show their rich side, so that others will envy and look up to others. In this way, he himself will be satisfied with a sense of vanity and superiority.
However, this practice often attracts the jealousy of others, because no one actually wants to see others superior to themselves, and they have some inferiority complex.
Normally, a person does not make friends with people who are full of superiority.
Therefore, even if you have a sense of superiority in your heart, you must be humble, never show it, and don't show that you are very successful and beautiful.
Because your success is like a dazzling light, burning the eyes of those who are unlucky, they will have a considerable psychological imbalance in their hearts, and the hatred for you in their hearts will also arise.
3. Self-destructing privacy and family talking, heart-to-heart talking
Maybe some people are quite loyal and honest, and they are born straight-hearted, so he will ask others about his family situation and economic income, and he will say it without concealment, or how he has done in his career and what kind of status he has in the unit, he will make it very clear.
However, he is so straightforward, so loyal and honest, sometimes in exchange for the contempt and contempt of others, and even calculation.
Someone once said that if you want to make others fearful, then it is best not to fully expose your strength, if you let others know everything about you, then they may no longer respect you, and thus despise you and look down on you.
In other words, don't say some things that should be hidden, and don't say some words that should be hidden, so that you can keep yourself and not expose everything about yourself.
Speaking is a science in itself, and it is not the person who talks a lot that is the one who can really succeed.
Sometimes, talking less and doing more things will lead to better conduct oneself and achieve happiness in life.
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