A person's speech actually reflects a person's heart.
It reflects his heart, whether it is ugly or beautiful. What does he care about, how does he see the world?
Some people, the reason why their popularity is very bad is because they can't speak with this mouth.
Even his spouse and children don't care about him, but he doesn't realize it yet.
In fact, this is a taboo in speaking.
In reality, when people are over fifty, the way they speak should have some experience.
These 3 things, when socializing, should never be said. Otherwise it's stupid.
01 I always say that I am very good and want to crush others
In reality, there are always some people who are a little older and like to show off or even brag when they speak.
In everything, I want to crush others.
But it's a very bad way to speak.
In this way, there is a 90% probability that someone will be scolded.
For example, some people boast that their children are paid well. Then behind the scenes, people will talk about it, money is not a good way to come from.
Some people boast that they have a high salary. Behind the scenes, it was said to be bragging.
There are also those who are complacent, and in public, they want to suppress everyone and highlight themselves.
In fact, as soon as I turned around, there was a lot of scolding behind me. Very unwise.
If you are over 50, you must remember one thing: if you succeed or not, others will not care at all, and they will not be envious and admired.
People will only think that you are bragging, that you are a very annoying person. I really want to see you unlucky.
This is the more general mentality.
In social situations, it is never a one-man show, and you can't sing with one person.
This way of speaking will definitely make you a target and a target for being attacked.
02 Don't say anything unreasonable
In reality, people's cognition is stratified. There are high levels and there are low levels.
When you meet someone with a low standard, you go and talk to him, it's going to be very difficult, and he doesn't understand it at all.
You meet someone at a higher level to talk to, and the other person is also interested in your topic and is not interested.
If you are over 50, don't talk casually to people who know differently.
Otherwise, you may be seen as an outlier.
For example, you may be concerned about your children's success in school and their jobs.
But when he meets some people, he only cares about whether his daughter is married well. His own son, whether he gave birth to a child early.
It's going to be very difficult for you to communicate with him on this kind of topic.
Because you are people who know differently.
If you are over 50, you must know exactly whether the other party is at the same cognitive level as you when chatting.
If not, talk less.
You'll have a lot less worries.
Otherwise, you will find the other person an eyesore, and the other person will also think you are weird. All kinds of bad words will come out.
03 Don't gossip about others
In reality, if you are over fifty, even if you are bored and empty, don't gossip about others.
Because to gossip is to ruin one's reputation. The name behind it must be very ugly.
For example, I know a few older sisters who are very fond of gossip about other people.
is even special, likes to gossip about other people's life pains, such as divorce, marital infidelity, and various scandals.
To be honest, their own reputations are notorious, and they don't know yet.
When people are over fifty, when they speak, they don't ask for their own tongue, but the basic taboo of speaking must be understood.
Otherwise, your popularity and image will be ruined in minutes, and you don't know.
Even the misfortune comes from the mouth, and the offense is to the originally useful connections.
That's very, the gains outweigh the losses.