It is not easy for people in this life, it is easy to say anything when you are young, and when you are old, you will find that the relationship with your children, how well you get along directly affects the mood and quality of life of the elderly themselves.
I have summarized that when people reach old age, if they want to have a harmonious relationship with their children, they must interfere less in the following things:
Don't interfere in your children's marriages
Especially in the current environment, children of marriageable age, boys do not get married, and girls do not marry, at this time, the elderly are just anxious like ants on a hot pot.
But it's useless, as long as you say a few more words, you will think that the old man will nag, and there will inevitably be contradictions.
Therefore, if the elderly want to have a harmonious relationship with their children, they can only interfere less in the marriage of their children, so let them go.
Because, when people are old and can't do anything, they can't help in a hurry, so they simply don't interfere less, so as not to make themselves angry and worthless.
Today's young people have their own ideas, as long as they feel that life is good, it is good, and the old people have to interfere less to get along with each other.
Another point is that when the elderly are asked to express their opinions on the objects of their children's own treatment, they must obey the children's ideas.
Because the young people nowadays can't listen to the earnest teachings of the old people, he thinks that the person he likes is the best.
In this case, there is no need for the elderly to give any opinions and suggestions, so as not to have conflicts between the young couple after marriage, and some even to the point of breaking up, in turn, to blame the elderly.
Even if we don't have the other party we like, we have to choose to shut up, mix less and interfere less, and in the end, we will not complain, and the relationship between each other will not be so tense, and it will be harmonious, so we will interfere less in the marriage of our children.
Just like Sister Li downstairs in my house, her daughter is in her thirties and does not get married, at first I thought it was because her daughter's vision was too high, but I didn't expect that my daughter later found an old man of the same age as Sister Li and got married.
For Sister Li, she must have been beaten to death and disagreed, but in the end, it was not after her daughter married this old man that she never went home again.
Because Sister Li's daughter lives abroad, Sister Li used to go to live with her daughter for a period of time from time to time, but since her daughter married this old man, the relationship between the two has become tense.
Now, my daughter won't come back, and Sister Li won't go to her daughter's house, so it's not a lose-lose situation in the end.
When the children are older, they have their own ideas, so they just don't interfere less, don't care, don't be ashamed to find someone who is the same age as you, what happens in this society now, it feels normal.
Don't meddle in your children's family affairs
After the child gets married, as an elderly person, he must interfere less in the child's family affairs.
Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, don't worry about it blindly, just take care of yourself.
What do we have to do with the quarrel between the two of them, the quarrel at the head of the bed, and the harmony at the end of the bed?
Don't get angry when you see that young people are soft when they receive express delivery, and think that young people spend money indiscriminately.
Don't see today's children eating at home inappropriately, always like to order takeout, and have to nag a few words.
Don't see what the children consume in advance, borrowing, credit cards, just like borrowing money and not having to pay it back, and then you have to babble a few words, telling young people to save money, you must know that it is not easy to make money, and when you are old, you will know the importance of money.
But on the other hand, have you thought about it, today's children can't listen to what our old people say at all, because he hasn't experienced our era of hard struggle, so they can't empathize.
In this case, as our elderly people, let's interfere less, we can help if we can, we have good conditions to keep our own pension money in addition to being able to give the children financial compensation, then it is better, that is the icing on the cake, if we can't take care of ourselves, then we have to choose to shut up, only in this way can we have a harmonious relationship with our children.
Don't meddle in your grandchildren's affairs
Especially the elderly who live with their children should pay more attention, because it is understandable that the next generation is close to the next generation, but in the eyes of the children, the so-called next generation of our old people is doting on the baby.
Therefore, we must be less involved in the education of our grandchildren, you see that now children are three or two years old and begin to sign up for this swimming class, that dance class......
For us seniors, we must feel that these things are useless, what is the use of such a young child learning these things?
But if you want to have a good relationship with your children, then you can only choose to turn a blind eye and turn a deaf ear.
Again, if you have the money to pay for any cram school or swimming class, then the young people will definitely be happy.
If we don't have any money in our hands, then choose to keep our mouths shut, you only have to interfere less in these things of your grandchildren, you can have a good relationship with your children.
In short, if the elderly want to have a harmonious relationship with their children, they can only choose to interfere less in their children's marriages, less in their children's family affairs, and less in the affairs of their grandchildren.