There are many people around us who seem to be honest and honest, and they are very modest in their words and actions, but in fact, they have a bad stomach.
After being with this kind of person for a long time, we will be unconsciously affected by it, and gradually become sophisticated and sleek, and even become less like ourselves.
Truly intelligent people will have their own opinions and thoughts, and will not follow the crowd, while those who have bad hearts will have different hearts.
They are polite to you on the surface, but they are actually bad behind the scenes.
So when we make friends, we must keep our eyes open and don't let ourselves be hurt.
Whether a person has a bad heart or not, he often puts the following three sentences on his lips.
- "You're right"
When you are in a relationship with someone, you have to be careful if you find that the other person always says "you are right". Because a truly intelligent person will never casually deny others, but will humbly listen to the advice of others.
Of course, this kind of humility is not blindly accepting other people's opinions, but is based on one's own ideas and opinions.
If a person only blindly agrees with what he says to you, but cannot have his own opinions and thoughts, then such a person must be a scheming and bad-hearted person.
In "Dream of Red Mansions", Xue Baochai is such a person. She is very good at reading words and feelings, good at dealing with people, and also has a very high emotional intelligence. But she has a fatal weakness: she has no opinions.
Although Xue Baochai is capable and sleek, she is also easy to be used.
There is a plot in "A Dream of Red Mansions" that is written like this: Baochai uses Baoyu and Daiyu to quarrel, Baochai admonishes Daiyu not to cry, persuades Baoyu and Daiyu to reconcile, etc., implying that Baochai is the hero of the "golden and jade relationship".
In fact, she just used the quarrel between Baoyu and Daiyu to win over Jia's mother.
- "I didn't say that"
If you have any thoughts in a person's heart, they generally don't say it directly, but hide it in their hearts, and then use some words to hint at you.
For example, when you're chatting with a friend, he suddenly says to you, "I didn't say that. These words are the words of his heart, and they are also the true thoughts of his heart.
When we communicate with people, we often talk about some lighter topics, which is also to enhance our relationship with each other.
But if this person often says to you, "I didn't say that," then it's likely that he's trying to sloppy in front of you.
Such a person is not worthy of deep friendship, and we should pay more attention when communicating with him.
A person with a bad heart is always in the habit of hiding his thoughts in his heart, so that we cannot easily perceive his intentions.
When you notice that he said something that doesn't match the facts, pay more attention. Because it may be that he did it on purpose, or even to frame you.
- "I was wrong"
There is a saying in "Zengguang Xianwen": "If you say you can do it, you can do it, and if you can't do it, you can't do it, and if you can't do it, you can't do it." ”
It means that if you have the ability, you can do it, but if you don't have the ability, then you can't.
People with bad intentions are often not doing practical things, but playing with means.
They think that everything they say is right, and even if it is wrong, they can find an excuse to excuse it.
They have a strong sense of self and superiority and never take the initiative to admit mistakes. When others point out his mistakes, he always justifies himself with various reasons.
I've met someone who always says "I'm wrong" and says, "I'm wrong," no matter what people say.
When he realizes that he is wrong, he will immediately find an excuse to avoid responsibility. Such people are often unscrupulous, because they never think they are at fault.