#头条创作挑战赛#
Author: Sui An (rich book author)
There are two characters in the movie "The Shawshank Redemption" that are still fresh in my memory.
One is Bruce, who has served 50 years in prison, and after being released on parole, his new life outside prison has made him panic and often want to return to prison for crimes.
Prison has long put invisible shackles on him, and finally he was overwhelmed and committed suicide and ended his life.
The other is Andy, who was falsely accused of being imprisoned and sentenced to life imprisonment. Although the prison imprisoned Andy's body, it did not imprison his heart.
He struggled to break free from the shackles and did everything he could to save himself, and finally managed to escape from prison and be reborn.
I am reminded of a quote from Robespierre: "The invisible shackle is much stronger than the visible chain, and we will never be truly successful unless it is broken." ”
It is true that if we do not break the invisible shackles, it will drain our energy and eventually destroy our lives.
Only by cutting off the shackles on one's body in time is the best way for a person to change his life.
Break the shackles of the circle
The old man often said: "It is very simple to destroy a person, just bring him to an inferior circle." ”
I didn't believe that people could fall so easily, until a real case came up around me.
At last week's family gathering, I met my cousin whom I hadn't seen in a long time. He was polite and excellent in college, but now he has become rude and idle.
After chatting with my aunt, I learned that after graduating from university, my cousin joined a large Internet company, worked hard, had a flexible mind, and the leaders were very optimistic about him, and the future was promising.
However, since his cousin went to an elementary school reunion, his personality has changed drastically.
My cousin mingled with a few elementary school classmates who had nothing to do all day long, learned to smoke and drink, and played cards all night every day, resulting in listlessness at work, frequent mistakes in the work arranged by the leader, and finally he was fired from the company.
After losing his job, my cousin didn't look for a job, but spent all day drinking with that group of fox friends and dogs.
My cousin originally had a great future, but because he met a few idlers, his future was bleak and gloomy.
I began to believe that low-quality circles can indeed change a person's personality, appearance, and even life.
唐代名臣魏徵说：“立身成败，在于所染。 ”
It is true that a person's development prospect often has a great relationship with the advantages and disadvantages of the circle.
When Hu Shi was studying in Shanghai, he met a few people who drank and meat, and spent all day drinking with them, living a decadent life, forgetting the original intention of studying.
Once, several people got drunk and were arrested by the patrol police, and each was fined five yuan.
Hu Shi was penniless, so he could only watch them pay the money and leave.
Only then did he realize that during his studies, he had learned nothing but to drink and play cards.
Later, with the help of fellow villager Cheng Leting, Hu Shi was ransomed.
Hu Shi changed his ways, stayed away from the low-quality circle, and studied with his mentor Wang Yunwu and studied knowledge.
Eventually, he studied abroad and became a world-famous writer of his generation.
Writer Liu Yong once said: "In this life, in fact, what restricts your development is often not IQ and education, but the life circle you are in." ”
Shoulder-to-side with low-level people will only dim your energy, corrode your cognition, hinder your progress, and ultimately drag down your life;
Walking with high-level people will bring a strong driving force and influence, take you to the second half of your life, and change your life against the sky;
Therefore, the fastest way to change your destiny is to cut off the low-level circles, stay away from people who overdraw your energy, and walk side by side with excellent people.
Cut off the shackles of vision
There is a bridge in the TV series "Ordinary World":
Hao Hongmei's family is poor, and when she was in school, she fell in love with Gu Yangmin, the grandson of Huangyuan's old Chinese medicine doctor, because of her excellent grades and outstanding appearance.
A few days before graduation, Hao Hongmei went to the school shop to buy handkerchiefs and planned to give them to her classmates.
When it was time to check out, the store guard happened to be sorting out the goods with his back to her.
Seeing this, Hao Hongmei secretly stuffed a few handkerchiefs into her schoolbag, but the store guard happened to turn around and see this scene.
In the end, Gu Yangmin also broke up with her because of this incident.
Hao Hongmei originally had a bright future, but because of short-sightedness, her life was ruined.
In many cases, what determines a person's fate is the size of their vision.
There is a saying in "The Grandmaster": "A person has to look into the distance, and when he crosses the mountain, his horizons will be broadened." ”
I deeply agree that only by looking at a high place can people see the wider world, climb the stairs, and follow the light.
Focusing only on immediate interests and being "blinded by floating clouds" will inevitably make it difficult to achieve anything.
The famous musician Tan Dun once told about his personal experience of studying in the United States:
When Tan Dun first arrived in the United States, he lived in poverty, and in order to make ends meet, he could only play the violin on the street to make money.
Together with a black fiddler, he fought for a crowded place, in front of a commercial bank.
After a few months of performing arts, Tan Dun made a lot of money, so he said goodbye to the black violinist, continued his studies, and realized his music dream.
Ten years later, Tan Dun became an internationally renowned composer and conductor, and was often invited to perform in concert halls.
When he passed by the commercial bank again, he saw that his old friend, the black violinist, was still playing the violin.
The two set out from the same starting point, but in the end they went to two completely different lives, which boiled down to two words: vision.
The writer Zhang Ran once said: "The farther the vision, the broader the vision, and the more forward-looking the vision, the greater the goal." ”
People with a long-term vision, far-sighted, far-sighted, and the road of life will naturally be stable and far-reaching.
And short-sighted people, whose eyes are like beans and only see the trunk of a tree, will eventually be ruined by a momentary small profit.
Therefore, only by cutting off the shackles of short-sightedness and taking a long-term view can we see the whole picture of things clearly and move up the ladder.
Break the shackles of mentality
Kazuo Inamori once said, "The path of life is drawn by the heart." Therefore, no matter how harsh the situation is, you should not be haunted by pessimistic thoughts. ”
Share the story of a friend close to you.
In the years before the pandemic, a friend started a travel agency and made a lot of money.
So my friend expanded and invested all the money he earned.
I thought I could harvest a lot, but I never wanted to catch up with the epidemic, not only did the early investment go down the drain, but I also owed a lot of debt.
My friend was depressed during the day, borrowed alcohol to kill his sorrows, tossed and turned at night, sleepless all night, and fell into a whirlpool of pain from which he could not extricate himself.
Once, she finished reading the book "Alive" at home.
My friend began to reflect: Fugui has experienced a lifetime of hardships and lost everything, but he can live an optimistic life, what reason does he have not to cheer up?
Since then, my friend has changed his previous decadent mentality and started to make short videos to explain the attractions.
A few months later, my friend's account increased to 10 million followers, and he paid off his debts by making short videos.
I agree with a passage: "All the misfortunes in life, for no other reason, are attracted by one's own heart." ”
It is true that the mentality is wrong, and everything is unsatisfactory, and if the mentality is right, everything is satisfactory.
In life, since you can't change your situation, you might as well change your current state of mind.
The famous writer Shi Tiesheng was an athlete when he was young, but when he was 21 years old, he was paralyzed for life due to a back injury.
In the face of a sudden critical attack, if you are an ordinary person, you will definitely be depressed and look for death.
But Shi Tiesheng can face it calmly and shake hands with fate.
Eventually, he wrote a book about his misadventures, which became a bestseller upon publication.
Someone said: "A good attitude is the password of a person's survival and state of mind, master it, cultivate it, develop it, and success and happiness will come uninvited." ”
Life is like a rough sea, the pessimist gives up on himself and sinks into the sea, and the optimist rides the wind and waves to reach the other side.
With a good attitude, even if you are in the lowest situation, you can live the highest realm.
Therefore, cutting off the shackles of negative mentality is the best weapon in life to change fate.
I agree with the saying: "The only thing standing in front of you is yourself." ”
Only by cutting off the shackles of the circle and walking with excellent people, life will always go uphill;
Cut off the shackles of vision, not to be obscured by floating clouds, in order to see a broader world and walk steadily and far;
Only by cutting off the shackles of mentality, blowing away the haze of negativity, and making a new transformation, can we move towards a bright future.
May you cut off these 3 shackles in your heart, renew yourself every day, and start a new life.
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