As the old saying goes: "If you are not stupid or deaf, you will not be a family." ”
The meaning of this proverb is: the elders must know how to pretend to be confused about the affairs of the younger generations;
Don't point fingers, so that you can get along.
However, the reality is that the slap of the father-in-law back then actually made the daughter-in-law hold a grudge for a lifetime.
I am Liu Yamin, 56 years old this year, I have not retired, and my wife is three years younger than me, but she has been retired for three years.
After my mother passed away, my 78-year-old father lived alone, and I was often uneasy.
I want my father to live with my sister for a while, and when I retire, I will go back to my father's house to spend time with him
But the father said that how could there be an old Taishan who went to his daughter's house to care for the elderly, and did not let others laugh and lose their teeth, poke the backbone, and say that they were spineless.
I tried to negotiate with my wife and take my father to my home for the elderly, anyway, my wife is also retired, so I just have to cook one more person.
However, after so many years, my wife still has a deep prejudice against my father.
It happened when my twin daughters were three years old, and our family of four went back to their parents' house for the Chinese New Year.
My father said that our generation can only have one child, and although there are two granddaughters, it is not as good as one grandson.
My wife was very angry at the time, and she already had a problem with my parents, and she replied to her father: What happened to my granddaughter?
I don't know why my father was so angry that he dropped the wine glass in his hand, stood up, walked to his wife, and actually slapped her.
It was also because of this slap that my wife had not come home with me for more than 20 years, nor did she say a word to my father.
When my mother passed away, I persuaded my wife to go back with me to take care of my mother's funeral.
Even in that situation, my wife didn't say a word to my father, who had already spoken to my wife cautiously.
The wife pretended not to hear, got up and left, never giving her father a good face, and never saying a word to her father.
Back then, because my father slapped my wife, my parents-in-law even came to my house and had a big fight with my parents.
The father said that his parents-in-law did not educate his daughter well, he was just educating his daughter for his parents-in-law, and he could not talk back to the old man.
My mother also persuaded me, for the sake of family harmony, to persuade my wife to bow her head and admit her mistake to my father.
But I think my father did something wrong, but I didn't dare to say my father to my face, my father at that time was the emperor of the family.
Two daughters were born, even though my father used their salary to support us.
But his slap also wiped out all their kindness to us.
From then on, no matter what my parents did, my wife would not go home with me, only allowing me to take my two daughters back.
My wife would rather spend the New Year at home alone than go back to my parents' house, and she said that I had a lifelong enmity with my father.
Because she has never beaten her since she was a child, her parents have never beaten her, and she was slapped by her husband because she gave birth to a daughter.
My wife also proposed to divorce me, and the two daughters would go to her, and I only needed to pay child support.
My father knew that my wife took the initiative to file for divorce, and he called me to persuade me to divorce quickly, such a woman would not be good to me.
It's like this between people, I pursued my wife for several years before holding hands and entering into marriage, and it is impossible to give up.
For this, my parents also scolded me for being a man who had no interest and couldn't live without my wife.
I don't want to divorce my wife because of this, after all, I have feelings for my wife, and the two daughters get cuter and cuter the older they get.
Looking at the two daughters who look like me every day, I am still very happy in my heart.
As long as I don't talk about going back to my house, my wife is also a gentle and considerate and charming woman, and I can't let go of her.
In order to make my daughters' lives better, my wife quietly did a side hustle and earned more money than me.
In the face of such a wife, how could I divorce her.
Even if I get divorced, I can no longer find a woman as good as my wife.
In the sighs and sighs of my parents, my wife and I have also gone all the way to the present.
My mother was sick and hospitalized, and my wife went to the hospital to take care of her for a week, and was angry with my father's sentence "Don't pretend to behave".
My wife said, for your parents, I don't stop your filial piety, but I won't go again.
My mother has been bedridden for more than a year, and my sister and I have paid for a nanny, and my sister often goes back to visit, but I can only go back to see it alone.
My father will also scold me for being incompetent, for so many years, I can't even control my wife, and I am still restrained by her.
No matter what my father said ugly things, I didn't reply to my father, I knew that everything I said was wrong.
When my mother passed away, I persuaded my wife to go back with me, after all, she was a daughter-in-law.
My wife said that when people are gone, it is the greatest tolerance, and she went home with me for three days.
Now, my wife is retired to work in self-media at home, and I don't know how much money she earns, but the two daughters say that their wife is their idol.
After so many years, I thought this matter had already been turned over.
Who knows, my wife still remembers that I took my father over to care for the elderly, but I didn't want my family anymore.
On the day my father came, my wife opened the door for me, and when I saw my father enter the house, my wife went into the bedroom.
When my wife came out again, she was already pushing the suitcase in her hand, didn't say a word, opened the door and went downstairs, and drove away.
I called my wife, and she said that she would not delay me in supporting my father, and now that she is retired, she can make her family all over the world.
No matter how much I explained to my wife, that my father was now old and needed to be taken care of, and that my father did not want to go to my sister's house.
I begged my wife to help me for a few years, and when I retired, I took my father back to my parents' house without delaying my wife's old age.
My wife still says the same thing, she doesn't delay my filial piety, but I can't ask her to accept my father.
I don't understand why my father has stopped talking for so many years, and why my wife can't forgive the old man's mistakes.
It's good now, I don't want my home, and I go alone. I think this has something to do with the fact that the Internet is too developed.
In order to get out of marriage, Su Min drove outside alone for several years, not only earning money, but also living a chic life.
My wife will not follow her example, preferring to live herself outside rather than our tradition, honoring the elderly and supporting the elderly.
If I had known that this was the end, I might as well divorce while I was young.
My father stayed at my house for a week, asked me to find him a nursing home, and called my sister over to discuss it.
My sister said that there was really no way, so it could only be this choice.
My sister told me privately that women are different from men.
If it was the mother-in-law who beat her daughter-in-law back then, maybe a few years would have passed, but the husband beat her daughter-in-law, and this matter would not have passed.
Now that my wife is still outside, I want my two daughters to persuade my wife, and they actually agree that my wife is doing the right thing.
What the hell should I do?
Author: Huagui Zen Heart
Follow my words and go into your heart. You have a story, I have tea, and we can talk about the rest of our lives together.
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