Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and the most difficult one is the "Mother-in-law Sutra".
As a woman, before getting married, men are obedient to her, and the prospective parents-in-law and mother-in-law are all kind and pleasant. I mistakenly thought that my future would be very happy.
Love mentor Tu Lei said: "A woman is a princess for one day, a queen for ten months, and a lifetime of hard work." ”
The woman became a daughter-in-law, and the family relationship began to turn against her.
Most of the mother-in-law wants to embarrass you, so that your life will be all kinds of unpleasant, and you can only work hard and complain.
If you look deeply, you will find that the bell must be tied to the bell - the mother-in-law hates her daughter-in-law because her daughter-in-law has some bad habits, which seem reasonable, but it is only a one-sided proposition.
01
In the eyes of the daughter-in-law, the child is more important than the mother-in-law.
There is no suspense, all the adults in the family love the child. The best care is the mother-child connection.
In her daughter-in-law's heart, she always thinks about her son and daughter, so she neglects her mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law helps to take care of the baby, no matter how well she does it, she will not satisfy her daughter-in-law. Because everyone has different ways and methods of bringing up a baby, the mother-in-law can't really understand her daughter-in-law's thoughts.
For example, the mother-in-law gave the baby the rice noodles she made, but the daughter-in-law thought it was too coarse, so she could only eat the rice noodles bought on the street, and she had to cook them softly. A different point of view is coming.
The daughter-in-law is accustomed to using her own standards for bringing a baby to measure the achievements and attitude of her mother-in-law with a baby. As a result, the mother-in-law is very resentful, why is the mother-in-law thankless?
02
The daughter-in-law always thinks that it is natural for a mother-in-law to take a grandson.
The daughter-in-law is used to throwing out a sentence: "Mom, if you don't help take care of the baby, I won't help you support the elderly." When you are old, go to your son. ”
How can a mother-in-law feel good when she is forced to take care of the baby? Therefore, the mother-in-law will also pass on her resentment to her daughter-in-law.
My mother-in-law always thought like this: "What, I met such a daughter-in-law? ”
No one stipulates that a mother-in-law must bring her grandchildren. Bringing a baby is help, not an obligation.
Twisted melons are not sweet.
Besides, my mother-in-law is not in good health, she doesn't read much, and she can't take care of the baby. I know the bitterness in it, and I can't help but come out.
03
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are together every day, staring at each other with big eyes, and no one can get used to seeing anyone.
In the community where I live, there is such a family: the daughter-in-law goes to play mahjong every day, the mother-in-law takes the baby, if the baby is hungry, you have to go to the mahjong parlor to find the daughter-in-law, you have to eat a few bites.
The son goes to make money every day, because he supports the family alone, there are hardships, and he is often scolded by his daughter-in-law for "having no ability".
My mother-in-law is from Hunan, so she cooks meals with chili peppers. The daughter-in-law is from Jiangsu and Zhejiang, and she doesn't like chili peppers very much, and occasionally eats some chili peppers, which are also slightly spicy.
In order to maintain the family, the mother-in-law changed her cooking habits again and again, but she was very unhappy in her heart.
There are too many green onions in the dishes, there is dust in the house, and the garbage at the door is not thrown away in time...... Any little thing can turn into the beginning of a quarrel. The mother-in-law is fed up, and the daughter-in-law is also very aggrieved.
04
The old man did not have much money and could not meet his daughter-in-law's expectations.
Many daughters-in-law have such a habit: they always think that their parents-in-law have a lot of money, and they still stick to themselves.
In fact, the mother-in-law is also sticking to her daughter-in-law and son.
For example, if the son buys a house, the mother-in-law will also give the money generously and even bear the down payment.
For example, when the mother-in-law is taking the baby, she will help the baby buy clothes and snacks, and the money for buying things is also out of her own pocket.
For a mother-in-law with a pension, it is not impossible to post a part of the money to her daughter-in-law's family every month.
"People's hearts are not enough to swallow elephants", when the mother-in-law always takes out money, the daughter-in-law begins to be angry, why don't you pay much?
For comparison, people met a local tyrant's mother-in-law, but they met an ordinary mother-in-law. If you meet a mother-in-law in the countryside and can't afford it, it's even more uncomfortable.
05
The daughter-in-law spends too much, and the mother-in-law always asks to be frugal.
Some women, when they are in their twenties and thirties, try their best to retain their youthful appearance, so they are particularly generous in terms of beauty. It is commonplace to consume one or two thousand a month.
In contrast, young people are more generous in their spending habits, and older people are more frugal.
The old man always couldn't help it, and wanted to nag a few words: "Save a little, and the days will be long in the future." ”
The daughter-in-law doesn't like to listen to nagging, thinking that her mother-in-law is embarrassing herself and meddling. This money is not given by the mother-in-law, so why can't it be spent.
In order to block the speed at which her daughter-in-law spends money, the mother-in-law will also make irresponsible remarks in front of her son. Maybe the mother-in-law will "sue" her daughter-in-law for spending money indiscriminately in front of her daughter-in-law's mother and the elderly in the community.
06
When the young couple quarreled, the mother-in-law helped her son, and the daughter-in-law was an outsider, so she couldn't figure it out.
Before getting married, my mother-in-law would say, "I treat you as a daughter."
After getting married, the mother-in-law still favored her son. After all, the son is the piece of meat that fell from the mother-in-law.
The daughter-in-law used to think like this: "Why are you being left out in the cold? The mother-in-law is unreasonable, and she still wants to exclude herself, will the mother-in-law unite with her son and drive herself away?"
The daughter-in-law's thoughts are actually self-centered, and she doesn't think from the other party's point of view. The feeling of embarrassment is often an illusion.
Any couple, will be noisy. Once the mother-in-law intervenes, the conflict will not be reduced, but will escalate.
A smart mother-in-law, even if her own family is involved, is helping her daughter-in-law say a few fair words. Give a little love to the people who come from outside, and the people in your own family, a little grievance, but it is better. It's a pity that this is too idealistic.
07
Why is the mother-in-law embarrassed by the daughter-in-law?
Why should women be embarrassed by women? Many years ago, the mother-in-law was also a daughter-in-law, and many years later, the daughter-in-law became a mother-in-law.
A slap doesn't make a sound. When the daughter-in-law feels that her mother-in-law is always embarrassed by herself and is-for-tat everywhere, she has to reflect on herself.
When the daughter-in-law regards her mother-in-law as her mother, can be filial, can communicate, and often takes care of the baby together and finds ways to make money together, there will naturally be fewer contradictions.
Things that seem to be big, when it comes to it, are all family trivialities.
Changing the habit of thinking, the mother-in-law's goodness, I will be aware.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The pictures in the article come from the Internet.