The ancients said: "If you are late, you will be expensive, if you are slow, you will be safe, and if you are slow, you will be round." ”
Anytime, take your time, you will be more educated, and things will be done more properly.
But the question is, how do we slow down? We're all used to living a fast-paced life, always talking fast. You can't hide things in the end.
Therefore, we must learn the word "forbearance".
When it comes to the heart, it is really painful, but its original intention is to suffer its mind, and if the heart does not move, it will not hurt.
Forbearance is a step back, and it is also the great wisdom of retreating.
01
Hold back your breath and calm your mind.
The disadvantage of being angry, most people, with a snap of their fingers, can name several.
When you are angry, you hurt your body, you are angry with others, you destroy your relationship, you are angry all the time, you can't live your own life, you are angry with your parents, your filial piety is gone, you are angry with your children, and your home church fails.
When you don't get angry, all the situations listed above are reversed.
"Yanhu Q&A" said: "How can you see the road when you are busy in your heart? The so-called meditation is just a matter of overlapping and having nothing to do, and then the truth begins. ”
When a person gets angry, it doesn't start out of nowhere. It's because of the hot-headedness, or the sight of something lively, and the heart beats faster. At this time, it is also the easiest to make wrong judgments.
Calm down, watch slowly for a while, and the truth of the matter will come out, and there will be a feasible way.
What makes you quiet down is your own concentration and restraint from "qi".
When Han Shin was a child, he liked to dress up as a chivalrous man. But his family is indeed very poor, and anyone can despise him.
A butcher said to the people around him, "Don't look at Han Xin with a sword, he is very timid, I don't believe you, I let him pass through the crotch of his pants." ”
Han Xin's eyes stayed on the butcher for a few seconds, and then there was a humiliation under his crotch.
What is even more admirable is that Han Xin became the founder of the Western Han Dynasty and did not retaliate against the butcher. But everyone praised him, he was very educated.
The writer Flaubert once said, "To be angry with fools is to risk turning us into fools ourselves." ”
Something, look at it for a while, and you will see it through. Next, it's bearish.
Except for life and death, everything is a trivial matter, and it is not worth it to be angry.
Be a man, endure the anger of the moment, so as not to worry about a hundred days.
02
Endure the bitterness, and the bitterness will come.
In "Journey to the West", Sun Wukong was pressed at the foot of the mountain for 500 years, and the cold winter and heat made him suffer a lot, and then he waited for Tang Seng; The master and apprentice went through ninety-nine eighty-one difficulties, and finally achieved positive results.
There is a line in "Monkey King Three Fights White Bone Spirit": "Time is like a shuttle, it may not be the medicine of the world; ”
When I was a child, watching TV, everyone was vying to be the Monkey King, thinking that he had good martial arts, a flexible mind, and could be everywhere, so please ask the gods for help.
When I grew up, I knew that Sun Wukong was the most bitter. As the saying goes, those who can work more, do more, and make more mistakes.
Reality also tells us that the image of Monkey King has entered thousands of households and has become a benchmark for people to learn.
The hardships you have endured are the embodiment of hard work, and they are also the best precipitation of the past in life. When you endure suffering, your stamina is strengthened, and you are more determined about your purpose in life.
As the saying goes: "Bitterness is not bitterness, happiness is not happiness, it is just a temporary obsession." ”
If you are not obsessed with suffering, then the process of enduring suffering is just a pleasure in suffering.
03
Hold back your words, silence is golden.
There was a poor man who met Lu Dongbin by chance.
Lu Dongbin took a little of it, and a stone turned into gold, and he said, "Give it to you, poor man." ”
The poor are indifferent.
Lu Dongbin thought to himself, this person is very poor, but he has backbone, so he lit a big stone.
The poor remain silent.
Lu Dongbin was surprised to find that this poor man, not tempted by any external objects, is fantastic, let's cultivate him as a god.
Suddenly, the poor man spoke: "I don't want gold, I want your fingers." ”
Suddenly, the gold was gone, and so was Lu Dongbin.
When a person is silent, there is an unfathomable posture that can be looked up to. As soon as he opened his mouth, he was frivolous.
The mouth is the door of blessing and misfortune, opening the mouth to cause trouble, and closing the mouth to accept blessings. If you want to be blessed with your mouth, you have to be able to speak.
When a lot of words come to your mouth, you don't know whether to say it or not, or hold back and don't say it; when you are in a bad mood, you will be calm when you are silent; when there are many people, if you don't speak, you are the best audience.
Rabindranath Tagore said, "Man goes out into the midst of the noisy masses in order to drown out his own silent cry." ”
Don't think that going to a crowded place, in order to explain your own truth, is actually to prove your "ignorance".
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I can't bear it, I don't need to endure it anymore.
If you have a degree of patience and endure the bottom line, people will be hurt and things will lose their turn.
If you want to achieve great things, you must bottom out and rebound when you touch the bottom line.
During the Warring States Period, Li Mu, the general of Zhao State, was stationed on the frontier to defend against the invasion of the Huns.
For many years, Li Mu strictly demanded that the soldiers could not attack, and could only repair the fortifications repeatedly.
The soldiers felt that it was too boring not to fight. The Huns believed that having encountered a coward, they attacked more often.
One day, Li Mu organized a group of elite soldiers and good horses to take the initiative to attack the Xiongnu. Then pretending to fail, retreating several times.
The Huns "took advantage of the victory to pursue" and entered the ambush circle.
In this battle, the Xiongnu suffered more than 100,000 casualties, and they did not dare to offend Zhao for ten years. Li Mu destroyed the scarf, defeated Donghu, and surrendered Linhu, so frightened that Shan Yu fled.
Either don't fly, soar into the sky. This is the end result of patience.
When you are weak, you can be "knocked out of teeth and swallowed by blood", but you still have to keep getting stronger until you can overcome the opponent.
Forbearance is not humbled to the dust, for a lifetime. Instead, it is to retreat as advance, to defend as attack, and to wait for work.
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俗话说：“小不忍，则乱大谋。 ”
The root of patience is to try to control the big picture, plan for the future, divide life into several sections, and finally get the harvest of autumn.
There are always some trees with small flowers and no aroma, but they bear good results. Let's say, figs.
In fact, those flowers that bloom brightly have no usable fruits. They can't help it, they bloom in the spring and grow wildly in the summer. For example, paulownia trees, Yingshan red.
As long as you win to the end, all patience is valuable.
What you endure is what is yours.
Author: Cloth Clothes Coarse Food.
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