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Things are gathered by like, and people are grouped.
The quality and quality of our friends will largely determine our own image, which in turn will affect the direction of the future.
In making friends, you don't have to cling to people who are rich and noble, but you must learn to keep your eyes open and stay away from those who have bad character.
Whether it is a person or a ghost, you can know at a glance, and you don't have to tear your face to see a person clearly, these 4 points are enough.
01: See if he only says what you like to hear
A foreign psychology institution divided 100 strangers into the same villa for observation, and found that some people could become friends in a very short time, while some people never said a word even after a month's mission.
There was also one man who had befriended almost all of those 100 people, and he was able to do so because he only liked to say what other people liked to hear.
He will first observe everyone's habits, ask for basic information about each other, and then praise each other as much as he can, and under such a strong emotional value, many people will extend a hand of friendship to him.
In social interactions, we often envy these people who can be left and right, but you have to understand that the premise of their friendship is not sincere, but hides their true selves.
Their friends are very utilitarian, and what they say is only what you like to hear, not everything is true, but you have to beware of these people.
When a person hides himself and pleases you at every turn, it means that he may have an ulterior purpose and want to get resources from you.
You easily forgive him now, and he may easily hurt you in the future, so be careful.
When interacting with people, don't talk too much, the less you say, the more you can protect yourself.
02: See if there are any uncomfortable factors in his social media
Many people in modern society will disguise, they often pretend to be light-hearted, sincere and kind, and easily win your trust.
But such people may not be worthy of making friends, maybe they are all wearing masks, and under the masks there are fierce fangs.
In order to judge the basic quality of the other party, you can often flip through his social platforms, even if the social platforms are all beautified things, but you can always see the truth in the clues, for example, he often sends moments to complain about others, which means that he is a complaining and cautious person, he always shows off his bags and clothes, etc., which means that he is a person who loves to compare.
If there is something wrong with the other party's social platform, you must stay away, which shows that you are probably not the same kind of person, and no matter how much you please, it will not help.
03: Look at how he treats his loved ones
In interpersonal relationships, most people will hide their true state, because they want to profit from others, and it is impossible to show their true appearance, but when they return home, they take off their guards, and they will become the most instinctive state, whether they are people or ghosts, and they can tell at a glance.
In the TV series "Celebrating More Than Years", Fan Xian met the second prince when he first arrived, in his heart, the second prince is a good person who is humorous and worthy of deep friendship, but the mother of the second prince told the truth: he never makes friends with others, he is very deep-minded.
At that time, Fan Xian didn't understand the meaning of this sentence, and thought that it was just his mother's joke, but later it turned out that the second prince was the biggest mastermind behind the scenes, and then Fan Xian finally came to his senses.
Someone else's evaluation of a person may be wrong, but the evaluation of a family member about him will not. If a person even has a bad evaluation of him by his family, then I advise you to stay away quickly, this kind of person must not have a good character and is not worthy of deep friendship.
04: See if he does what he says
One of the most important principles in interpersonal communication is to do what you say.
People who do what they say are often very honest, their character is as valuable as gold, and more importantly, they have a sense of time and a spirit of contract, whether it is a regular work cooperation or an ally in the future, this kind of person will not hold you back.
Don't easily forgive people who can't do this, if they break their promise, they don't care about your situation, they don't respect you, and they may repeat it later.
Making friends with them is risky, and if you don't want yourself to fall into a passive realm later on, draw a line with them.
Whether it is a god or a ghost, you can see it from the above four things, and I hope that after understanding these points, you can make friends with sincerity and have a happy life.
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