At first I wanted to respond with "if they don't have bread, let them eat cake". But then I wanted to answer the question seriously and not try to humiliate the questioner. First of all, there is a certain authenticity to what is written. Many women would not work where they now work if they had the opportunity not to work. The same is true for men. However, there is a big difference between enjoying an eternal vacation with unlimited money and sitting at home without money and thinking about what kind of sausages to buy. Most families cannot afford the long-term unemployed, otherwise they will be stuck in poverty because the only entertainment is not a visit to a museum, but a visit to a doctor or the local police. Women are tired of walking around in broken shoes, old clothes, no makeup, etc. But that's not the only reason. A significant number of women choose to keep their job skills because they need to be saved.
For example, a money-hungry comedian said that if you want to lose a skill, two months of not speaking in public is enough. Stop - that's it, again create fear for the public. There is also an influx of women in IT-related professions, and we need to be vigilant at all times. Doctors are also losing their skills...... It's a false dichotomy – saving the world or classifying carrots. There are a lot of professional qualifications that are important. People don't want to lose it, it's not the reason why they've been researching for a long time, they can understand it. In addition, human beings are social beings. I don't know exactly where the lady who wrote this comment is, but we still see the appearance of a "maternal" mother with a baby in a museum or in a café as a phenomenon under discussion. These controversies involve thousands of comments (by the way, I browsed through the English-language media - also there). Like, I had a baby – stay at home. The world will not yield to you. Again, we made the wrong choice between the complete freedom of maternity leave and the absolute lack of freedom in the office. But that's not the case. In the office, the management can leave, you can go on vacation, you can walk slowly home and look at the window. But during maternity leave, there are no days off, there is no such slow movement, the load is constant, 24/7, because when you turn around, the little ones are busy committing suicide in different ways. And, yes, there are positive aspects, and then it will be easier. But facts are facts. There are other nuances. A person needs a team, a circle of acquaintances. A woman who takes care of her family and children can build such a circle of acquaintances around herself. But only then should one be a conscious woman who regularly goes somewhere to communicate. And it won't turn sour at home. That's why some people shine when they join the team.
At the same time, we become friends in common activities, otherwise not. When we don't lend a helping hand to each other, don't unite against a common enemy, don't do something together, we become estranged from each other. Therefore, if this is not done specifically, the network of contacts that sustain one's survival (I'm not even talking about serious connections, but about basic "so that someone can call") disappears instantly. As it turns out, your old relationship is only superficial. Therefore, you need to study, and study regularly. Come to some clubs, organize entertainment and celebrations, support strangers...... And this is already some work, only they pay you, not you. In addition, society is competitive. Whether we like it or not, our friends try to push us into some kind of class to understand who we are. We ourselves are trying to understand this. In this sense, self-identification is quite dangerous to be just "husband wife" or "son mother" because it can be easily lost. To feel comfortable, it's a good idea to have "backup" identification. Same hobbies.
Full immersion in the child means that the child will begin to undergo complex training, as in the noble T family. By the way, I believe that even super professionals in their field are better off having family, friends, and hobbies – as a system of checks and balances. One cannot answer the question "Who are you" with just the word "mom". Otherwise, a Hades Mother will come out of it and devour us all. So you can be a housewife, but it's not easier, but it's more difficult than living an ordinary life while going to work. Most importantly, you need to have organizational skills, not to mention money. In general, I am not against housewives, I have had the wonderful months of my life, but I am embarrassed by the disparagement of professional women in the letter. There's also some kind of exaggerated, snot-pink motherhood. Well, indeed, motherhood is life. Sometimes it's fun, sometimes it's hard. It's a daily, constant physical stress that can be well withstood by both very simple people and those who are really gifted in this area. When a guy writes like pink powder, generally denying the dark side of motherhood, I think he's lying somewhere. The only question is, is he lying to us, or to himself......